Need to vent

I have a <rant> to do. If you don't want to hear me bitching, then I suggest you don't read, lol. I don't ever do this, but I feel I need to vent.

Okay, so this couple came over with their children to view the place this weekend [we're looking to rent it out] and her oldest [3 yrs] was sick. We showed them around the condo and when we got to the girls' room Tyler tells the man, "they are sleeping right now but you could quietly peek in to see it". The man tells his son "don't go in there, they're sleeping" then what do you know - the kid races in there and starts touching all over them - thus waking them :S The boy then persists to pick up and play with every toy in sight.

We all go downstairs to talk and here the boy is racing through the kitchen, opening all the drawers and cabinets and putting leftover halloween candies into his pockets. Then he goes over to the babies [now awake and hangin out on the livingroom floor] and starts playing with them [that's fine]. For some reason he starts to put their toys in his mouth and openly SNEEZES on poor Rose! then wipes his snot and boogers on our carpets!

5 mins later the woman tells me "we had a talk in the car to make sure he was on his best behavior". Wtf, that was his Best behavior?!

I wasn't aware that he had a cold/was sick otherwise I would have attempted to isolate my children. I've been hoping/praying that I didn't have to deal with sick babies so early so I have been quite precautious thus far.

So - what do you do when someone else's child is all over yours, sneezing around them and putting all their toys in their mouths? Do you ask them to stop? You'd think that would be the parents' role.. Argh, I didn't want to be rude.. I just looked at the parents. They did nothing. I'm a new mommy and I'm sure I will learn what to do in situations like these, but honestly take care of your kid or have one parent stay in the car with him for crying out loud.

So Rose wakes up twice last night [waking Alyssa along with her]. While feeding her I can hear the poor girl trying to breathe out of her stuffy nose. On the monitor I can hear her coughing and breathing funny. They usually wake for the day around 0800. Today is was 0600 :S While being awake [play time] this morning her nose was running like a little faucet! Thankfully Alyssa hasn't caught anything yet. But I am still pissed off. I guess I just don't understand..

/Rant

Thanks for reading. If you have any current/future suggestions for me, please share. Even if you think I'm just acting like prissy new mama, haha!

 

I've been rehearsing what I'm going to say when this happens to me! It'll include something like "keep your germ ridden children away from my preemies" with a dirty look, or something to that effect. Honestly people, control your child!

 

ewww id be pissed!!

 

I really dont know what I would have said. Im not good at these types of situations either. If the father was really concerned about the child going in the room and waking the babies, he should have held his hand or picked him up or something, to ensure that he wouldnt go in the room. What you describe the boy as doing certainly doesnt sound like "best behavior" to me. I know my kids can get pretty rambunctious (sp) and if I wasnt able to control them/him, I would definitely apoligize and offer to view the house another time. I cant believe they let him run around the kitchen, and put the babies toys in his mouth. . eeeww.. Sorry you had to experience that.

 

I just don't have the patience for other people who do not control their children

one of my good friends is horrible at discipline
and it doesn't help that her daughter is most likely ADHD... so, I know that must be difficult to handle
but she doesn't even try sometimes

and when ppl wake the babies it's enfuriating!!!

and to get them sick, too!!! i'd be more than ticked

poor thing... saline drops should help with the leaky "faucet"

good luck keeping it from Alyssa... i haven't been so lucky with that... it's usually only a matter of time

 

Get several bottles of hand sanitizer and put them in rooms of your house where your babies often are - on the change table, next to where you feed them, and most importantly, some location right by the front door. (Or door where most people enter your house) We kept some on our little entry way table, on the table next to the glider, and the change table. Anyone who wanted to touch the babies had to hand sanitize first - they were 4 weeks early and I could hardly handle them, let alone handle them sick. Everyone was polite and understood.

I don't worry about it as much now. Now I keep some hand sanitizer in my car, and after we live a kid place I sanitize their hands.

That would totally tick me off too!

 

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Do you ask them to stop?


Yes! It took me a long time once my kids were born, to get over the uncomfortable feeling of telling other people or their kids exactly what I wanted, but I am over it now...ha! They are your kids, and you have every right to insist on certain behaviour with regard to them. Go right ahead and be blunt!

I always say to people, "sorry I am paranoid and overprotective, but if he is sick, I don't want him over here/touching my kids/grabbing their toy...etc" I always feel like if I call myself what they probably say behind my back, then I saved them the trouble...LOL!! They are my kids!! OF COURSE I am overprotective!!

 

I would be mad too! I agree with what Aimee to have hand sanitizer all around. I was fortunate that the people that came around us, usually stayed away when they were sick. Now that the babies are older, I don't worry about it so much. The one time they did get sick, they caught it from me and DH. Go figure

 

Vent away, I´d have been furious!

Awkward situation but I think I might have said something. How rude and inconsiderate of the parents to let the child run wild like that. If you rent out the place to them be sure to say thanks for the bugs!

I hope your babies get better asap! :hug:

 

You have every right to vent! That was awful of those parents to not have control over their child!

I agree with the hand sanitizer - we had a big (couldn't be missed!) hand sanitizer pump on the coffee table - and whenever anyone came over, we'd point to it and say "Please sanitize, there's no way we could handle 2 sick babies!" - people would laugh and put it on.

When older kids have been around (fortunately they haven't been sick!) and start to get too rough with the baby toys, I just say something like:

"Oh, those are the babies' toys. They are for babies. Here are some toys that are for big kids like you - and they are much more fun." (and I show him/her the playroom where my older son's toys are).

I am just amazed at how horrible that must have been for you guys! And now your poor baby has a cold. Get control of your kids, people!!

 

that is the exact reason my boys are sick now! Makes me mad too!

 

ugh. i'm so sorry this happened!

1. my cousin told me once "no one is gonna stick up for your kids but you. " after that, i don't care what people think of me when it comes to protecting my kids

2. i've come to grab the kid myself and remove him/her from my babies. for example, this kid was ALL OVER my babies at a party, and his mom was doing NOTHING to stop him, so i grabbed his arm and moved it out of the stroller - a few times. i even put my hands on his shoulders and directed him elsewhere - a few times! but yeah, if the parent does nothing to stop it, i'll stop it myself. again, no one will stick up for your kids but you.

hope they feel better soon!

 

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ugh. i'm so sorry this happened!

1. my cousin told me once "no one is gonna stick up for your kids but you. " after that, i don't care what people think of me when it comes to protecting my kids

2. i've come to grab the kid myself and remove him/her from my babies. for example, this kid was ALL OVER my babies at a party, and his mom was doing NOTHING to stop him, so i grabbed his arm and moved it out of the stroller - a few times. i even put my hands on his shoulders and directed him elsewhere - a few times! but yeah, if the parent does nothing to stop it, i'll stop it myself. again, no one will stick up for your kids but you.

hope they feel better soon!



Great ideas! Thanks!!

 

You are every reason to be upset.
What rude people :angry:

I hope the babies don't get sick.

 

Thanks for all your stories and tips ladies!

I was quite peeved to say the least. And this morning, what do you know.. Alyssa's got a runny nose and is coughing now too. I have the humidifier going in their room. I put a little vix rub on their chest before sleepy and petrolium jelly around their poor nose so it doesn't hurt them so much - me wiping them.

I tried to find the saline drops at the store yesterday, but couldn't find them. Yesterday was a Very frustrating day on top of the whole cold/sickness..