need to vent

my MIL is here helping us. our boys are 2 weeks old. she keeps saying how much harder it's going to get as they get older. it's making me crazy! i have a 4 yo, so i know that the boys will become active and may wake each other up at night (which they aren't doing now), but i really need her to stop with these warnings. they are causing me anxiety and serve no purpose whatsoever.

thanks for letting me vent!

 

Tammy, I would just nicely ask her to please stop forecasting doom and gloom. It's not helping you and you have very young babies and really would like to enjoy what you can right now. :hug99: Good luck!

 

QUOTE(~* dfaut *~ @ Oct 19 2007, 04:04 PM) [snapback]458389[/snapback]
Tammy, I would just nicely ask her to please stop forecasting doom and gloom. It's not helping you and you have very young babies and really would like to enjoy what you can right now. :hug99: Good luck!


I agree completely!

Missy

 

Tammy, I am sorry she is doing that to you! That's just not right! I would actually talk to your husband about it, you have enough to deal with already! Maybe he can gently tell her to STOP IT already! :love0028:

 

QUOTE(becky5 @ Oct 19 2007, 04:10 PM) [snapback]458399[/snapback]
Tammy, I am sorry she is doing that to you! That's just not right! I would actually talk to your husband about it, you have enough to deal with already! Maybe he can gently tell her to STOP IT already! :love0028:


I agree with Becky. I would have my dh do it, since it's his mom and there is no reason to add this to your to-do list. I hope she respects your wishes and stops saying that. :hug99:

 

Sorry your MIL is not helping with her comments. Fortunately my MIL is a mom of twin boys so she knows, but keeps the bad comments to herself. MY mom on the other hand is constantly telling me how hard it is going to be, I am going to kill myself trying to do everything.. one day I finally snapped at her and told her to stop telling me I can't do it because I already have been and I have been doing a pretty dam* good job so far. She still says stuff and it still bothers me but I try to ignore it, lol but end up venting here too.

 

I feel you. People are constantly telling me 'you think it's difficult now, wait til they....Fill n the blank: crawl, walk, go to school, drive, etc..

I finaly learned ot say "i CAN wait, thanks, i'm really focused on the here and now"...mostly i'm polite about it, but sometimes there's a little edge. I mean, sheehs, REALLY, WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THAT!

I agree, ask your DH to talk to her, and if she persists, do as pp said and try to politely say that all the doom and gloom is NOT helping you adjust.

Jeez, MILS!! (although my mom does it too and i keep reminding her not to. For all that THAT'S working!