Need to rant

Yes Im back again and I need to get this off my chest...

My B/G twins didnt gain much weight when we went for their monthly check up so we had to return after 2 weeks, which we did last Friday. DS had gained fine but DD has lost 20 grams (not even a pound!) so nothing to worry about but the pedi wanted to do a urine test which came back all clear. She did have inflamed ears and throat and she is finishing the meds now.

I have told both the lady who helps & MIL that she will eat and drink what she needs and not to push it. Both eat a huge bowl of puree and fruit puree during the day and are not looking thin or wasting away. The pedi is fine with this and so am I. The babies will eat what they need. However, I went to the lounge to discover the helper trying to make DD finish her bottle (she had left about 4oz out of 8oz) and she was crying. She didnt want anymore. I have repeatedly said that they will eat what they need and not to force them. Along arrives MIL and starts "oh, por thing, she´s going to lose more weight..." I just want to scream. Also today MIL was querying the yoghurt I had bought for them asking what it is, teh texture, etc etc then when she saw it she said it was cheese (it isnt). Then she´s fretting over the lost 20g - OMG PLEASE!

Also, I put them to bed without their blankets (they are in sleeping suits plus PJs) as they move around so much before sleeping and because its warm these days. MIL asked me of they shoud be covered and I said no, giving the reasons stated, and that I cover them up later when its cooler and they´re sleeping - if they need it. Ive just gone upstairs to find them wrapped up in their blankets. I am fuming! Why ask when she´s already done it! :angry:

Has anyone else suffered this?

Thanks for letting me vent...again!

 

:hug: that sucks! it's so frustrating when things like that happen. my DH is pretty anxious with the girls, often second guessing things i've done & i just want to tell him sometimes "how would you know?! you're at work all day!" but i know his heart is in the right place - he just wants the best for them. it doesn't really make it any less frustrating though.

 

I am sorry that you are pulling your hair out. I think they are just concerned and want the best because babies at that age should not be losing weight. I am sorry that you are so frustrated. :hug:

 

Rach, I'm sorry they are frustrating you. :hug: :hug: I wish I had some suggestions but all I'm coming up with is maybe you do all the feedings? No matter what you say or do, the grandma's are always worried about the grandkids. I know my two would gain weight and I had one or the other saying that they think the kids look thinner. :huh: I hope things ease up a bit so that you aren't feeling so bombarded all the time. :hug:

 

It's a tough one because the babies shouldn't really be losing weight at this age, but on the other hand MILs can be pushy sometimes. I am sorry you are dealing with this...

 

Rachel, I am sorry that you are going through this :hug: It can be trying when you have said what you want to do with the children and here come other people who just disregard what you say. I think they are just concerned about the babies losing weight and like Liz said, grandparents worry...my Mom calls me 3 times a day (still) to see how the babies are doing. It's tough. Hang in there!

 

Thanks, girls, for being so nice. It´s good to know I´m not alone!

MIL has her heart in the right place but she´s the panicking type and I´m not. 20 grams weight loss is nothing (we´re talking 0.7 ounces here!) so I´m not worried and neither is the pedi. My mum´s is very calm and so different to MIL. Im just going to filter my info, I think, and try and time the visits to the pedi when she´s not around...!

Im sure DD will start packing on the pounds again. The pedi said that they both gained weight quickly and that they are just balancing out now. DS just keeps gaining but his sister is quieter and doesnt use so much energy!