Need to find childcare for the twins!

As some of you know my mom was supposed to watch the babies when I
went back to work. I no longer want her to....she has done some stuff
lately that has really irked me. So I have no idea where to start. I
would love to send them to the center Emily went to but they don't
take part-time, and I need something that will be extremely flexible
since I don't know if I am working day-to-day.

My mom has showed me some real irresponsibility lately. It started
when Emily stayed the night at her house cause I was going to do my
3hr test the next morning. I told my mom that I would have to eat as
soon as I was done, but would pick her up after. Well, I called her
and she wasn't there (took her to the park) so I left a message to
have her call me so I knew when she was home. DH and I go to lunch
and I get a call that she is dropping her off right then. I told her
that we weren't home and I had to eat. I asked why the rush all of
sudden and she said she had to go do something....that something was
to go sneak around her ex BF's house....yeah she shoved Emily to the
side to act like a flippin 16 year old.


Then, the other day, she sat there and called my younger sis a bad mom
b/c my mom does have the baby a lot, but my sister works, goes to
school. It got really heated I guess and my mom even tried to keep
her out when she went to go pick up the baby!! Luckily my sis had a
key to get in. There are some issues where my sis does need to grow
up a little, but I definetly don't think she is a bad mom. My mom
offers to take the baby ALL THE TIME, and then turns around and throws
it in my sis's face. She called me just sobbing, and I know how she
feels cause I too have been called a bad mom from my mother and
grandmother (while I was trying to get my degree too). There is
nothing worse than having someone tell you that....nothing.


Then I asked her to take her last night cause of my u/s today. She
didn't get to my house til almost 10 last night!! I told her she was
10 minutes from not taking her cause Em was almost passed out on the
couch. The poor girl was really upset cause she didn't think she was
coming.


Then she just got b*tchy on the phone with me cause my sister didn't
take the baby to ER last night. She threw up a couple times while at
my house and had a low-grade fever....she was fine the rest of the
night so definetly not grounds for going to the ER. I told her that
everyone doesn't go on the drop of dime like she does (my mom is a
super hyprocodriact (sp?) ). She got all ticked off and hung the
phone up on me....that is her way of dealing with things....hanging
the phone up on you...real mature. So I told DH to go pick her up
cause I have had it. She has upset Emily twice now, tried to not let
my sister get her own child, calling her a bad mom, we get called
failures and everything else.


Me and my older sis are taking my younger sis out to dinner for her
bday tomorrow night and we are going to have a pow wow! Uggghhh....I
am sooo tired of her acting like the child and us having to act like
the adult with her.


So that is why I need to find different child care before October.


April

 

Sorry to hear that things are going so rough right now for you! I could not even imagine how it feels to be called a bad mother...has she looked in the mirror lately to see what she is doing....I would not call that the ideal role model!!

I hope that you and your sisters have a great time together celebrating your sisters birthday!

:hug99: :hug99: :hug99:

Christine

 

Wish I had advice for the daycare part, but I'm sorry about your mom being the child. xoxoxox

 

Sorry to hear about that, but good thing to find out now, before the babies come, than afterward.

The biggest thing with childcare is to start looking as soon as possible and have multiple options. When we were looking for a nanny - we actually found a couple of good candidates on Craigslist. You may want to check there under childcare and see if someone is looking for part time work.
Ask mom's you know of daycare options that they use.
Do you know a SAHM that might be looking to expand into part-time childcare?


I know how you feel - before ds was born my mom was supposed to come move in with us a take care of him. She ended up changing her mind because we asked that her dog not be on the furniture!! Yes, we even offered to send him to gentle obediance school and she said no - her dog was to important to her. So, my mom chose her dog over her grandchild. Mind you - we didn't say she couldnt' bring him, just that he couldn't be on couches and beds since my niece has a sever dog allergy and we didn't know if ds would have one or not. She didn't come to see him after he was born because she didn't want to put her dog in a kennel while she flew here. She is living in poverty in the ghetto because she actually said her dog is more important than her kids and grandkids (all of my sisters offered her to live with them, but no dog on the furniture - she doesn't even bath the dog!!!).

 

Sorry your mom is causing you so much grief.

If your schedule changes a lot, I personally would look into getting an au pair. I have a nanny, but I know my work schedule. If I ever need to hire someone else though, I am going the au pair route.

 

I would call your child development services in your area and see if they could recommend/ give a list of facilities in your part of town.

 

Hi,

Sorry to hear that :hug99:. A nanny makes things easy because you don't have to leave your house. They can cost more. Running an Internet search on nannies in your area, checking Yellow Pages for one or an in home daycare are good options. In home daycares many times are listed in small, very local papers - this way you find one close to you. They also have to be licensed.

On a personal note, in my family if mother or MIL are too involved in family matters, drama happens. DH and I like to take care of things ourselves for that reason. Although we didn't always realize this about our families. Good for you to look at other options. There are plenty of people who would love your business and give great childcare to your children .

 

Can't really help on the daycare thing...I'm going to be a SAHM, but the family thing reminds me of a friend.... She was a young mother, whose marriage dissolved before the baby was born. Her mother moved in with her to help take cre of the baby, but since my friend had a boyfriend that no one likes, she leaves her daughter EVERY night to go see him, whether shes still awake or asleep. So my friends mom calls her a bad mom all the time too, but she is the one who never made her take the responsiblity for her child. Seems to me, your mom is doing the same thing, (however my friend is extremely immature and you adn your sister actually had good reasn for leaving your kids!) offering to take care of the kids then complaining about how much she has to do. If my friends mom didn't have something to complain aboiut, I don't know what she would do!!

Good luck, your mom is not the only crazy one, I promise!!

Shannon