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I am having a really hard time right now. I am sorry to dump on you all but I have to vent and I hope you can understand. Dh is not helping much with the twins. I am hurting (severe back pain and pelvic pain), I keep getting blown off by my dr, the bills are backing up, a got turned down for another fulltime job (I have very good reason to believe it is because I am pg), and I have not slept more than 2 hours a night for the last 2 weeks. I am exhausted. I cannot quit crying and am not functioning anymore. I know a lot of this is hormones but I also have depression and I think my meds are no longer helping. I feel like a failure and have no one who understands. I have no help.

If you made it this far thanks. Any suggestions on what to do?

 

:hug99: :hug99: :hug99: :hug99: :hug99: Hugs to you!!!!!! Is there any way you can get out for a little "me" time?

 

Right now I have no one to watch my duo and cannot afford to do anything. I just need a break from everything.

 

When I am having rough patches like that, I let mine watch a little more TV than usual and I plop myself down on the couch to relax. My girls are a little younger than your kiddos, but it seems to work well for us. My OB even suggested it! Would that work?

 

:hug99: :hug99: :hug99:
Is there anyone you can talk to and ask for some help? someone who will watch the kids for a little while so you can collect yourself? does dh konw how bad you are feeling? sometimes there someone who's willing to help us but don't know we need help or what it is we need. I hope there is someone you can reach out to.
can you get out of the house for a little while after the children are asleep? I knoew if you're feeling bad it might seem too difficult to do something or that you won't enjoy it but once you get out and about it gets easier and easier.
Can you adjust your meds? who's perscribing them to you? maybe you need to get them re-evaluated?
Hope things get easier for you real soon.

 

:hug99: I'm so sorry you are going through this. When I needed some 'me-time' when the twins were younger, we went through the church. A lady who was in my mom's bible study class came out and gave me a couple hours a day, a few days a week. It was a godsend!! Is there any groups in the area who you could turn to? Yes, videos are my friend right now. Have you talked to your dh about your concerns? :hug99:

 

:hug99: :hug99: :hug99: :hug99: :hug99: :hug99: I am so sorry. I use the videos also when I need a little down time. I would sit down with Dh and really explain to him not only doyou need his help with your duo and daily stuff but your in need of some help for yourself and this beauiful baby your carrying. I pray that he is able to listen and understand and your able to regroup somehow.

 

I did break down to dh a little bit ago. He did take E&E for a drive (45 min) but the phone rang nonstop. I am sure my mom would help more if I asked but they watch the kids while I work and had them last Sat. Videos and TV don't really work with mine. Emma is glued to me.

I should be seeing the OB tommorrow so I will see what he says about meds. Thanks

 

I'm so sorry honey! :hug99:

 

I'm so sorry to hear you are having such a tough time Missy. I wish there was something I could do to help. I've had my fair share of hormonal days lately too. I'm glad that DH at least understood enough to take the kids out for awhile. I say get a good book, light some candles and plop yourself down in the tub for awhile.

Sending many hugs your way

 

when I feel like that I will have days where pretty much as soon as dh walks through the door he takes "over" and I go lock myself in the bathroom for a nice long and QUIET shower....then I sneak off to my room, close the door and just have some quiet time. It feels different than waiting for the kids to go to bed...still early enough to have some energy. I also do let them watch a little more TV during the day. And I focus on baby steps.... that things won't always be this way, spring is around the corner. Focusing on the little breaks I do get makes it easier too.

 

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I'm so sorry to hear you are having such a tough time Missy. I wish there was something I could do to help. I've had my fair share of hormonal days lately too. I'm glad that DH at least understood enough to take the kids out for awhile. I say get a good book, light some candles and plop yourself down in the tub for awhile.

Sending many hugs your way

That is a great idea to get a good book and read. I love the new Twight light books. You won't be able to put them down. Maybe you can take your mind off of what you are going though.

Good luck.

Erin

 

didn't want to read & run. I wish I had some sage advice for you but when you're in the middle of it, nothing seems like it'll work. yes, it's partly exaggerated by the hormones (have been victim to that repeatedly this pg) but if you struggle w/ depression it's no wonder it feels like the world is closing in right now.

hoping your dh gets a clue and sees how necessary it is for him to help out right now & that the light starts to break for you soon.

always here for a vent, sending some big hugs :love0028:

 

Well I went to the dr today and he gave me pain meds so maybe I can sleep. Dh and I are running away tommorrow. My parents are keeping the kids. We are going to a hunting expo so I am taking a book and going to find a chair and that is where I will spend my day.

 

I am glad that you are going to get a little down time tomorrow (today?) A little bit 2-3 times a month even, can go a long way. I hope that the meds help you get some rest as that will also make a big difference. I know that I wake up just as tired as I was when I went to bed the night before.

Vent away any time that you need.

And...next time hubby takes the kids for a ride, turn off your phone's ringer. Or have him drop you off at the movie theater or book store.

 

I am so sorry. :hug99: I know this doesn't help, but I can certainly relate. My husband doesn't help much at all with the kids. Never has either. Some days I feel like I'm going to go out of my mind. I have to do everything myself- baths, bedtime, playtime. I never get a moment's rest except for naps (thank god they still nap!). I'm so sorry you're dealing with so much right now. Have you tried talking to your husband? I have tried with mine but was told, "this is your job. This is what you signed up for when you wanted to stay home". I love what I do but a break every day would be nice.

 

I hope you are feeling better. I had a really bad day last week. My sister came over and played with the kids and made them dinner while I shut myself in my bedroom for a good cry. Not sleeping is horrible. No wonder you feel like you do. Hang in there, Lisa

 

I am doing better today but Saturday was really rough. I guess I overdid it and I was having contractions every 3 minutes. I drank a ton of water and they let up. I guess big adventures are out from here on out.