Need some reassurance

Just looking for a little reassurance here ladies....

DH and I have become really good partners at looking after the twins. We each pretty much take care of a child (feeding, changing, putting to bed...). It seems very managable right now even with both of us working full time.

My issue is...DH has to go in to the hospital for major surgery and will be unable to help much with the kids for at least 2-4 weeks. He won't be able to lift anything and will be really uncomfortable. I'm afraid I won't be able to handle everything on my own since I've been used to having his help so much....plus I'm going to need to take care of him too and I'm really afraid of the outcome of the surgery..he is having a tumor removed but we don't know if the cancer has spread..

Any words of encouragement?

 

I am so sorry for what you are having to deal with, that must be really scary! Is your DH scared?

You will be more than surprised on how much you can handle by yourself. Mostly it's because you know you have to, you have to depend on yourself to get things done. The idea of managing the household alone sounds scary, but it's not as bad as it seems. You will be fine and your DH will be fine. Hope everything goes well with the surgery.

 

You can do it! It will just be different, but I'll bet you will find a great way of doing things, and be a pro at handling them by yourself. And I sincerely hope everything turns out well with your DH's surgery. :hug99:

 

Wow, that's going to be a tough time. I have no great advice other than the obvious - do you have any family that could stay with you awhile to help out? Close friends that might be willing to pitch in on a regular basis? Even a babysitter you could hire for a few hours a day just so you can get a break? Accept all offers of help, and if you don't get offers you might just have to ask.

I imagine that you'll get in to a new routine and figure out how to do it by yourself. It still amazes me how quickly I can adjust to a change of routine around here.

Good luck, and especially good luck to your DH.

Rachel

 

Good luck and you will be able to handle it just fine. I hope your dh's surgery goes good.

 

:hug99: :hug99:

You can do it! Hurrah for an involved DH, and prayers for a quick recovery.

It may even be that just having his presence will make things easier.

Could you cook some freezer meals, or just plan on take-out? Something to take off the burden of the after surgery time?

 

I don't say this much. but in regards to DH, my thoughts are with you two.

Don't underestimate yourself with the twins. You will be very suprised at what you can do when you HAVE to.
Trust and believe women are a very strong gender. You are a rock for your little ones and for your man.
Don't trip, you can do it.

 

I will pray for you and your husband! I know you can take care of it all, but if there is anyone you can ask for shopping help, cooking help, etc. Take them up on it for sure!

*When my husband was deployed and it was the middle of winter, I really loved having the Schwann's man come every two weeks to deliver frozen food. We don't have grocery delivery near me, so this was a lifesaver. You can't get milk and stuff, but I was able to get a lot. It is a tad bit more expensive, but I needed it.

 

I hope you DH has a quick recovery and everything goes well! You can do this!!! Just remember you can't do everything so if the laundry doesn't get done or dishwasher empty, oh well. Do take out. Whatever will make your life easier. Good luck to the both of you!

 

You can do this. You will be surprised at what you can do when you have to do it. I hope that DH has a speedy recovery and you get great news all around :hug99:

 

Thanks for all the posters for their words of encouragement and prayers for my husband. There is certainly never a good time to get cancer but having newborn twins seems like an even worse time! Oh well...all we can do it get through it...with lots of wine and friendship!

Thanks again ladies and great suggestions on the food and cleaning stuff!

 

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Thanks for all the posters for their words of encouragement and prayers for my husband. There is certainly never a good time to get cancer but having newborn twins seems like an even worse time! Oh well...all we can do it get through it...with lots of wine and friendship!

Thanks again ladies and great suggestions on the food and cleaning stuff!


I'm sorry to hear about your dh. That's got to be scary. Keep visualing a postive outcome.

The only thing I can suggest is to write down your routine. This will help keep you (and all those helpful vistors) on track so the babies schedules don't get too out of whack. Also you won't have to "think" too much about what you're doing. You'll have an idea of what comes next. I know when I get overwhelmed, I'll forget simple things. Also I would definitely go to the store and stock up on everything you can so you don't have to do a whole lot of shopping/errands with the babies. That's one of the hardest things I find is to take both babies on errands. Good luck and Godspeed. You'll both be fine.

 

I agree with pp, you will be surprsied at how much you can do on your own. I hope your husbands surgery goes well along with his recovery.

 

Wishing the best for a speedy recovery for your husband.

You will do just fine. And when things get tough, just vent to us on twinstuff!

 

I feel bad for you and your family. I hope everything goes okay. You will be a fine wife and mother during that time. It will be hard but you can do it.

 

Oh also. My father just got a tumor removed a month ago. on his colon. And they did a full body scan a couple weeks ago and he is officially cancer free

Hopefully that gives you a little hope