Need Real-Time Support...Tell me that sleeping training worked for you...

We did a bath, stories, snuggles, everyone got their soothies, stuffed doggies, fuzzy blankets, teddy bears and frogs. We explained, we kissed...we left the room. They are WAILING! It's been 16 minutes. "Mommy, mommy, oh no!" and "Daddy, daddy, please". Tell me this is going to work...

 

They're still crying and it's been 28 minutes. It's even harder than when we did this with James as an infant in some ways, because they're talking: Mommy, come up. Open door. Mommy sleeping?

Ohhh...I hope this works. We've been dealing with sleep issues for months (and months and months) and with a new baby on the way it was getting impossible. We were spending 20-60 minutes sitting with them at night before the finally fell asleep and then we had to sneak out of their room. I know that's not a good routine for nearly 2 year olds. Every time they wake in the night they expect us to be sitting there in the chair in their room and they freak out. I know they need their sleep. But this is tough!

Anyone been through this?

 

No but gosh you are making me glad that I did CIO before they could talk. Hang in there, I don't know that I would be strong enough! :hug:

 

we did CIO at 7 months
(((((HUGS)))))
i know its so hard.
i know i used to crawl into there room and peek at them from under there bumpers to check them.
althought i know yours are older and thats not an option

 

Keep reminding yourself, that as soon as you go in, you will start it all over again. My mom once asked her ped how long she could let my brother cry--he was around 2. He told her 4-5 hours. Now, he really didn't mean that, but he told her that to get the point across to stay out of the room. The first night, I think he cried for about 30-40 min. A week later he was going right down.

 

Thanks. I'm glad people responded - I was getting worried that you were all judging me!

It's been 57 minutes and I think only James is crying now. Let's hope they both fall asleep soon. I'll let you know what happens.

 

:hug: It is so hard with older children!!

I had to do something similar with our older DS when I was pregnant with our twins b/c I, too, would sit on the chair in his room and read a book or I'd lay on the floor and read a book until he fell asleep. There were some nights I was up in his room for over 1 hour! It was getting ridiculous and I knew that once the babies arrived there would be absolutely no way to continue that type of routine. So, one night shortly after he turned 3 (I was about 14 weeks pregnant with the twins at that point) I told him that I had to leave his room after putting him to bed and reading stories, etc. b/c I had a bunch of laundry that I had to put away. He didn't like it but he asked where I was going to be - and I told him in our bedroom, right next to his. So, I left and he called my name a few times and I'd just say "Lennon, I'm right next door putting laundry away - it is time for you to go to sleep". It took probably an hour of that - he was older than your two, so I was able to explain it to him better - but it still wasn't fun.

Good luck to you - you'll make it through this - and everyone will be happier (and better rested!). :hug:

 

My heart goes out to you for what you must be going through! I hope they are sleeping by now and that tomorrow night is a better night. :hug:

 

Hope it went well. My 2 are over 3 and still require help falling asleep and staying asleep. I wish I was able to successfully do this when they were younger. It is worth it, especially if it works. My problem was it would work for a few weeks and then they'd start crying again.. I couldn't take it!

 

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I did CIO early on too, and they had always been good sleepers. Now, at 2, they are having a harder time. DD likes to take off her pjs and diaper (I obviously have to go in for that) and they have both been crying after lights out. I've been going in once for dropped toys, diaper off, crying, etc and telling them "Mommy can only come in one time". I know it's not by the book, but it's been working ok. They are old enough to understand that and seem ok with it. I really hope you have success.

 

If this your first night with cio? If it is, it will get better each day. We started cio when they were about 5 months but I have had relapses. Just two weeks ago, Josh my good, go to sleep guy all of a sudden started crying. Silly me picked him up and held him. But as soon as I put him down, he started screaming again. I thought he was hungry, gave him something to eat (this was about 3 hours after they went to bed) and tried to put him back down. I finally figured out what was going on and just let him cio. It took him 4 more nights for him to go right to sleep. The first night he cried for over an hour, second for about 35 minutes, same for the third and by the fourth it was just for a few minutes. Now both of them know I will not go in there and usually fall asleep within 5 minutes.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

Stay strong....you can do this. :clapping:

 

Hope it went well last night and is better tonight too. :hug:

 

Hope it went well!! CIO was the best thing we've ever done. They both go to sleep so well now! However, if the spend the night at Grandma's, we have to CIO again since they get spoiled at Grandma's!! They learn so quickly! Keep it up- it does get easier each night!

 

:hug: I hope you all eventually got some sleep! I did CIO with my 3 boys, it's tough! But, so worth it!

 

Evan cried for about 45 minutes and James cried for about 65 minutes. We finally had to go in to James at the 60-minute mark because he reached a new level of hysteria. He pajamas had come unbuttoned (and he's a particular kind of kind - that would be intolerable to him!). So my husband buttoned him up, spoke softly to him, layed him down, and he never made another peep. Evan woke up soaked through at about 4 and then went back to sleep after a change (in our bed - I didn't have any clean linen handy for his bed) and slept until 6:30. James slept straight through until nearly 7. So it was very hard, but we survived and I'm hoping tonight will be better. We'll get there.

Thanks for the support. I might be back tonight!

 

Hope your night is going well! Ours went down around 7:30pm without a peep and now at 9:00pm Peter is up crying.....I've left him for 6min so far.....we'll see.

 

Good luck - I hope last night was better for you.

I had good sleepers but around 21/22 months my son regressed big time. He was spending a lot of nights in our bed as he took to screaming in the middle of the night. It was unbearable. We have slowly gotten better but I, like you spent many nights just lying in their nursery waiting for them to go to sleep so I could crawl out. It was ridiculous.

We are still have a few evenings when he cries himself to sleep but it has gotten soo much better.

Stick with it...

 

How'd it go last night?

We did the Ferber-style CIO (with checks every so many minutes) when the twins were around 9 months old. But in the last month, I've gotten strict about putting them down drowsy but awake for naptimes. Most days it goes fine. But we still have occassional rough days with some crying before sleep. I think sleep training helps a lot, but it does take some patience and perseverance.

 

It will be one of the hardest things you do.... but also the best. Well rested children are happier children and a well rested mommy is a happier mom... so everyone wins!!!! I did CIO with my first child and swear by it. We also did it around 7 months ...however each of my children have gone through phases where we had to reteach them that you stay in bed until morning. We are very strict with this unless someone is sick.... they they sleep on a futon in our hallway next to the bathroom if they are getting sick. They love this....but it is ony when they are sick. With four kiddos we can not have kids i nour bed or there would be no us.... there is barely us time as it is!!!

 

Thanks for checking in with me, ladies.

Last night the boys cried for 12 minutes and then talked to each other. That was it. They slept through until 6:30 this morning. James fell asleep sitting up, but my husband just layed him down when he went in to check on them. I hope tonight goes as well.

 

I am so glad you had an easier night last night! :banana: I hope tonight even goes more swimmingly! :hug:

 

I've missed your prior posts and this one until now, but I just wanted to pop on and say "Good Luck" and hope things continue on a good note.

 

Okay, I am coming back to this old thread to report that sleep training WORKED for us! Evan and James cried the first three nights and by the fourth night they were waving to us as we counted to three and walked out the door. Now they go to bed without even a peep every night and it's like a dream come true! Thanks for your support, everyone, and if anyone is thinking of doing sleep training with their toddlers at bedtime, please let me know if you need any help.

 

YAY!! Congrats to you and your boys on good sleep habits! :banana:

 

Yea!! I am so glad that it worked out for you!

 

Well done to you! Have only just read all the thread and so glad its worked out for you. We still rock ours to sleep and even though it only takes 5-10 mins most nights I know I have to get into the practise of putting them down awake. We are moving house soon so I thought when we are settled in we will do it then! I keep puttin git off. I can't remember having problems with Lara - she just seemed to go down at dome point by herself.

 

Hooray! :woohoo:

 

Glad to hear it went so well!!!!!


Erica