need advice on baby announcements, please....

We were planning on buying birth announcements. I pretty much know what I would like to do... I would like a black and white photo of the twins behind a piece of vellum , with the baby info on the vellum and held together with ribbon. Well... my sister-in-law offered to make the announcements for us. She showed me her plan and it is nothing like what I wanted. Pink cardstock with "We're Here" on the bottom, a small picture of the twins in the corner, a pink and a blue baby foot, and the baby info on the back of the card. She said she would alternate pink with blue accents and blue with pink accents. They are very cute, just not at all what I had in mind. So what do I do? Do I accept her offer and just use the ones she makes? It will be a lot of work for her, she lives out of the country so it will be quite a while before we can send them out after the births, and they weren't what I wanted. Or do I find a way to say no thank you, and order the cards I originally wanted? Would there be some way to say sure, you can make them... but here is my idea? How rude is that??? Your advice on this would be greatly appreciated!!!! I realize there are much more important things to be worrying about, but I could really use your input!
Thank you very much,
Helen

 

We were planning on buying birth announcements. I pretty much know what I would like to do... I would like a black and white photo of the twins behind a piece of vellum , with the baby info on the vellum and held together with ribbon. Well... my sister-in-law offered to make the announcements for us. She showed me her plan and it is nothing like what I wanted. Pink cardstock with "We're Here" on the bottom, a small picture of the twins in the corner, a pink and a blue baby foot, and the baby info on the back of the card. She said she would alternate pink with blue accents and blue with pink accents. They are very cute, just not at all what I had in mind. So what do I do? Do I accept her offer and just use the ones she makes? It will be a lot of work for her, she lives out of the country so it will be quite a while before we can send them out after the births, and they weren't what I wanted. Or do I find a way to say no thank you, and order the cards I originally wanted? Would there be some way to say sure, you can make them... but here is my idea? How rude is that??? Your advice on this would be greatly appreciated!!!! I realize there are much more important things to be worrying about, but I could really use your input!
Thank you very much,
Helen

 

I would just tell her that you appreciate her offer but you've already picked some out...then thank her profusely for thinking of you at this time and in such a generous and kind way.

Ordering will enable you to get what you want, avoid any hurt feelings, and enable you to get them sent out in a timely fashion without having to prod her at all and potentially annoy her if it should come to that...just easier all around, IMO.

 

I agree, thank her sincerely and just let her know that you had already picked some out that you fell in love with.

 

You could tell her what you have in mind for the annoucements. Then tell her that you understand if she can't make them the way you want and so you'll order them. She may be willing to make them the way you want.

But if the issue is how late they'll have to go out, then just thank her like the PP said and use the excuse that you want to send them out closer to their actual birth.

Good luck with the touchy situation.

 

I agree, just tell her you already picked some out. Maybe ask her to do a couple scrapbook pages or something so she can show off her efforts in a different way? She could make a framable birth page for their bedrooms or something like that.

 

I agree with the PP. You could also tell her that you'd like to get them out before she would be able to send them to you, since it will take awhile before she can get them to you.

 

Thank you! Now I just have to come up with a way to tell her without hurting her feelings. It would have been a lot easier had I just said something when she first told me her idea, (which was only a couple of days ago so she hasn't made anything yet), but it has been long enough to make bringing up the topic uncomfortable.
Maybe I'll give her a call tomorrow and work it into the conversation.
By the way... Happy New Year, everyone!!!
Helen