Need advice for a friend!

My best friend recently moved into a new apartment. Her baby, Robby, is 10 months old. He STTN up until the new move & now he is up every night screaming and crying. They bring him back into their room for the remainder of the night. From what I can tell, she sounds pretty exhausted from it. She's not too sure if she wants to do CIO because she doesn't want him to be scared of his new room (they shared a bedroom up until now). Any suggestions on what she can do?

 

I would stop bringing him back to her bed assuming that is not the route that she wants to take. I think that is just reinforcing the night waking at 10 months.

 

I would try CIO because from what I've experienced with my two, it does not make them afraid of their bed or room. We had to do CIO when we were out of the country in our house in Serbia and they never got scared of their room there. :good: Like Rachel said, if this isn't the route she wants to take,she definately has to start putting him in his room or it'll be harder to break this habit later on.

 

If I were her, I'd try going to his room, comforting without taking him out of the crib and then waiting a little longer each night to see if he'll soothe himself back to sleep. It sounds like he just needs to get used to his new room and being alone at night. Also does she have a nightlight in the room? Maybe he gets scared because its so dark.

 

Poor momma :hug: . I would stop bringing him back to their bed. She should leave the lights low or off and just rub his back until he calms himself down and falls back asleep. Perhaps music while he sleeps or a night light would help too.

 

I'd recommend the book The No-Cry Sleep Solution. It's great for people who are not sure about doing cry-it-out. It has different ideas, considers many situations and helps you create an individual plan for your baby/family (not a one-size-fits-all solution).

 

I echo the others who have said to stop bringing him to bed with her. She may have to shush and pat him until he calms down. CIO can also be done in stages, where she can let him cry for 5 minutes then go into shush, pat, reassure him, then let him go 10 minutes, etc. :hug: for your friend!

 

Thank you.. I'll pass this along to her!

 

We moved about three weeks ago and it took about a week for our boys to adjust. They had been STTN for a long time and then as soon as we moved they woke up several times in the night for about a week, we did CIO and some patting/reassurance at times. They were fine after that! Good Luck!

 

I would also do CIO. It probably won't take long since he was previously STTN. GL to her!