Need a day off?

Do you ever just have a day where you wish you didn't have to take care of your twins? Don't get me wrong, I love my boys and think they're great, but every once in a while, I wish they were like a real job where you get vacation days. Today is one of those. If I was working, I'd call in sick today and just spend the day doing nothing, running errands, lying on the couch, reading a book, etc. But of course, I can't do that with two little ones wanting to be fed and entertained. I haven't had a day off in five months and it's starting to grate on me. My husband helps when he's home but I can't exactly ask him to take over on a Saturday so I can lie on the couch and do nothing. And I don't think he realizes how hard it is to be home with the boys all day. He knows I'm busy and that it's not always fun, but he doesn't seem to understand how lucky he is to be able to go out to lunch and have free time and being able to goof off.

Sigh. I really need a vacation from my life.

 

:hug99: I know that feeling. I am sick today along with all my kids and I even took the day off of work for it. But I was just thinking that is might be worse being here than it might have been going to work. Vent away. :hug99:

 

I had my first "day off" from my babies last Saturday. My husband took both of the babies from 8am (right after their first bottles) until 5pm. I went out for a ME day...got my hair done, did fall clothes shopping for ME not for the babies, had lunch with my girlfriend...it was wonderful! You deserve a day off! I feel so much better and know I am more engaged with my babies since my day away!

 

I think I could have written this post! Yesterday was my first day back at work. And although I cried all weekend about going back, yesterday was like heaven! I sat at my desk, ate in peace, daydreamed for 20 minutes listening to my ipod while pretending to work. I went out for lunch, ran errands WITHOUT 2 babies and a double snap and go! It's so hard to be home. I think going back to work has saved my sanity!

I don't know if you are a SAHM or if you are going back at some point. All I can say is I sympathize and understand. I am currently working 3 days a week and staying home 2 days. And I think I will enjoy the 2 days more since I am out of the house for 3 days.

If you are a SAHM, would you consider maybe doing something part time to get you out of the house for a few days, bring some extra money in and save your sanity?

If this is just a normal vent, hang in there. There are good days and bad days. For the rest of our lives our kids are going to drive us crazy! I feel like the older they get, they will gain some independence and you will be able to veg on the couch and read a book while your boys watch a movie or something. You're a great momma! Send hugs!

 

:hug99: Yes, I need a day off! Even just a couple of hours to yourself can change your whole perspective! You deserve it!

 

Sad but i need a day off from my DD. I didnt get a day off from her for 18 months.. DH and i have already gotten to go out with out the twins so i cant complain yet...

 

QUOTE(caba @ Sep 18 2007, 11:34 AM) [snapback]412900[/snapback]
I think going back to work has saved my sanity!

And I think I will enjoy the 2 days more since I am out of the house for 3 days.


I agree with both of these statements. The time I spend with my ladies is better for the time I'm at work.. even though I miss them madly when I'm not with them.

To the original poster, you need to have ME time. Its not selfish at all. You need to either arrange to have someone watch the kiddos (DH on the weekend or if you have family near you), and then go out for a little while. Even if its to a coffee shop so you can sit in peace and read a magazine for an hour. Or go get your nails done, or go to the movies. Or if you prefer to stay home, send DH out with the kiddos for a walk for an hour to two so you can lay on the couch and stare at the ceiling!!!

Taking care of two little ones is exhausting because you have to be 'on' at every moment. You can't just zone out. But you need down time. This is a 24/7 job, but I think you need to build in some ME time every week. Talk to your DH about it.

Good luck!!!!! and :hug99: -Leighann

 

OMG - I'm right there with you! or was.... I had major melt down last week. My girls are 7.5 mos - teething and have colds! I'm a single Mom and work, but the girls were hardly sleeping at night and I was EXHAUSTED. Family lives near by and my older sister took one girl for the night and my younger sister took the other. 8 hours of continous sleep. It was heaven. I went back to work when the girls were 6 mos. I HAD to. Between being single etc. but also - for my sanity. It is extremely exhausting taking care of 2 babies all day and all night - 24-7. I felt SO alone etc. alot. It was hard leaving them at daycare, but they adapted so well. Now I have the patience to really "be there" for them at night to play etc. and on the weekends - they are wonderful as I look forward to spending the days with them and am not totally burned out. I agree with the other posts too - you need to take time for yourself - you will be amazed at how a full or even half day of YOU time will do for your sanity and mood.

 

I am so right there with you! In their 10 and a half months, I have had 1 partial day off and 1 day off. The first, to take our summer help (teenage cousins) to lunch and the second, for my sister's bridal shower that I was throwing. I don't even need a day off from them, I just want to play with them and have someone else do the work. It is definitely not easy to take care of 2 little ones 24/7/365. Vent here anytime.

 

Ditto - and you DO deserve some time off, even if it's only a few hours. I've had a few conversations w/DH who comes home 'tired' from work - i told him that going to work was a freaking VACATION compared to what i do 24/7......and if you have a husband or partner it IS their responsibility to take the babies, if only for a few hours.

I know the first time i left them and was able to just go to the pharmacy w/out the double snap-n-go, or wondering if someone needed to eat or whatever felt like i had been liberated after years in prison (NOT that 'm comparing being a twin mom to prison; i adore my daughters and can't imagine life w/out them). But - we ALL need a break.

I had my hair done when they were a few months old and couldn't WAIT to get back to them. Definitely talk to someone about getting just a couple of hours - it will bring a new freshness and perspective. You probably have a cell phone, so you can be reached in case of emergency. Yes, even sitting in a coffee shop w/a book or magazine (NOT a parenting one!) will be rejuvenating!