My own little pity party...

So, I just need to vent, or better yet, throw myself a pity party.. I'm 27 weeks along today, and being pregnant this time around is really getting to me. My first pregnancy I LOVED every second of being pregnant, I felt great, I felt sexy (even in the end when I'd gained 50 lbs), I enjoyed being big and voluptuous. This time around has been really hard on me though. I've had a total of 2 weeks that I haven't been in pain. I have severe "under belly" pain, the bottom of my belly hurts so bad that walking from the bathroom to the couch almost brings me to tears. Now I have back-aches that stop me from doing almost anything.
I've talked to my OB and Peri about it, my cervix is nice and long, so they just say "Try and take it easy". It's so hard for me to "take it easy" I have a 2 year old to entertain. I already only do one thing a day to keep the house clean, so it's either, dishes, sweep, vacuum, or laundry. Everything else I haven't done in weeks, because if I do I'm in massive pain 20 minutes later. :drown:
My husband is out of town on business until monday, then he'll be extremely busy with work when he gets back. He is home for a few hours a night, and takes care of our son while he's home.

Anyway... I'm really depressed today because I wish I could enjoy this pregnancy more. Right now I'm just trying to get through each day without crying at the end of it. I know I have a long way to go, and that scares me... 10 more weeks of this?! (give or take a few)... UGH....


thanks for letting me vent.. All of my friends seem to be super busy this weekend, and I can only cry over the phone to my husband so much.. :FIFblush: Poor guy is probably scared to come home after the blubber-fest I just had on the phone with him..

Thanks for listening!! :sorry:

 

:grouphug: I'm curious to know if anyone actually enjoyed their twin pregnancy. Every time I mention to DH that I'd like another baby, he says (and I quote) "Do you REMEMBER being pregnant???". Yes, I remember, but it was SO worth it. I'd do it again in a heartbeat. I can't imagine being pregnant with a 2 yr old...which is why we're waiting a bit longer. Big kudos to you for even being able to do ANYTHING at home! :woman:

 

I'll join your pity party. :drinks: Tonight I am sitting at home feeling super fat and uncomfortable while my DH (in his defence he was reluctant to leave me) and a group of our friends are enjoying a dinner party/get together.I just cannot get comfortable today, feels like the babies are under my ribs! I've gotten considerably more winey in the last few weeks, which is tiring to anyone around me. I'm still on slight bedrest, so I shouldn't be doing much anyways. But I hear ya, even minor housework is exhausting. I cut my toenails today...what an effort! I was out of breath and my tummy was sore from trying to bend over. And to put on or take off underwear is becoming almost a joke...hook my foot wrong and I almost topple over.
Everyday I tell these babies to stay put because they need to grow more, its too early to see the world. (we are having some issues with baby B not growing as well) But a selfish part of me wants my body back. I think the crying is normal, I tear up a lot, but last week I did lose it on my DH. The aches and pains suck. But I know it will be soooo worth it when these babies are born. Hang it there! And whenever you need to vent know that you can alway find a sympathetic ear around here :hug:

 

I'm right there with you. Throughout this entire pregnancy, it's been one thing or another. In the beginning, it was horrible morning sickness, then in the teens, it was the round ligament pain, leg cramps, and back pain. Then in the early 20's, it was more general discomfort as babies got bigger (at 23 weeks I was measuring 35 weeks). I was put on bed rest at 25 weeks due to a shortened and funneled cervix. So now not only am I not able to do anything (luckily I dont have other children to care for, this is my first pregnancy to have gotten this far), but I'm getting bigger by the minute! Which is good, I know, and I know bedrest is important to keep those boys in there.
I too have underbelly pain, and also constant back pain. It's really hard to do almost anything, and for me I also hate being completely reliant on my DBF, as I am not allowed to get up except to use the bathroom and shower. I feel guilty sometimes because it's not that I'm ungrateful for this blessing, but man, twin pregnancy SUCKS sometimes. I'm also seriously emotional, I dont know if I'd be the same if it was just a singleton or not.
So let's pity party it up!

 

Thanks ladies! I feel like I've been whining to DH too much lately.. I don't want him to dread coming home.. but he is so supportive and keeps telling me how great I am and how I shouldn't feel bad for whining... it's nice to know I'm not the only feeling like this! I want so badly to enjoy my pregnancy, but boy is it hard...

Oh did I mention I've taken on the task of potty training my 2 year old?! What the hell was I thinking?!?! It's going good, but slow... But I'd rather get it done now than have to do it with 2 infants and while my husband is deployed.. Atleast this way my hubby is here to help some of the time...

I'm off to take a bath.. I'm going to close my eyes and dream of drinking a wonderful glass of wine... Oh how I could use a glass of wine right now!

thanks again ladies for understanding...

 

So sorry your feeling bad, i know your pain. I have a 10 year old and a 19 month old and both pregnancies were a piece of cake. This twin pregnancy however has been anything but. I had morning sickness untill i was 6 months, I had a sciatica nerve pinched to were i couldn't walk and woud sob for day's because the pain was so bad. I have two rods in my back from Scoliosis so the back pain has been unbearable at times, SPD ( Symphysis pubis dysfunction) makes me waddle and ive had this sinces 21 weeks, and now to top it all off i started getting morning sickness again at 36 weeks. All i can say is hang in there and keep thinking about the glass of wine you will enjoy when it's all over Lol!!! Good luck to you!! :woman:
Oh yea my husband thinks i'm MENTAL Ha Ha!! :tease:

 

Right there with ya! My first pregnancy was enjoyable, and I too, felt like I could conquer the world and I felt beautiful

This time when I hit about 20 weeks, it was all downhill from there. I feel exactly how you described. I can hardly make it from the sofa to the potty w/o crying. I have that same under-belly pain you describe, and a trip to the grocery store for five items kills me. I can't go anywhere alone now, for fear I may pass out.

I know it's tough and I just wanted to let you know you're not alone.

 

I appreciate you sharing because I thought it was just me! And i've also been feeling something must be wrong - I actually went and had a test for anemia because I was convinced that's why I was feeling so horrible.

Do any of you still work fulltime? I'm entering 24 weeks and still work fulltime at a stressful desk job. Honestly i'm ready to start a reduced work week. I've saved all my vacation and 5 days of sick and I think its time to start using them before I switch over to disability.

Thank you again for sharing! It atleast makes me feel sane for once in a long time!

Jen

 

Uh oh -- I got started early . . . I had my half glass of wine Friday. :sorry:

To the OP, hang in there Mama -- you are in the home stretch and there is nothing at all wrong with feeling crummy. Your body is carrying two babies -- no easy task and you are entitled to as many pity parties as you want to throw.

 

:hug: it's hard, I remember those days! You will get to the end, I know it doesn't feel like it now. Carrying more than one baby is soooo hard you deserve a pity party!! I hope things get better for you!

 

Goodness do I feel your pain! I am 24 1/2 weeks with di/di boys and am verging on miserable already. there are days I can't imagine making it another 12 weeks...but I pray I do...

My first pregnancy was also a breeze. I felt great the whole time...never got miserable, and taught kindergarten the whole time as well. This one is another story. I am still working full time teaching kindergarten and its about to kill me...and then I come home to a lively 2 year old. I agree with the previous poster...THANK YOU for posting this! It makes it easier to know I'm not the only one feeling this way!

Praise the Lord for a wonderful hubby and family who helps out a lot...

 

It's so nice to know I'm not the only one feeling this way.. Just venting helped me feel a little better.. I'm scared at how I'm going to feel in 10 weeks.. But as long as it means the babies will keep cooking, I will keep neglecting that housework!

 

My wife is almost 21wks, and I can def tell she is getting a bit more on the uncomfortable side. She had morning sickness until 13wks, and it got pretty bad at points when she had to miss work because of it. Now, the twins are big enough for me to feel them kick, and that is not proving well for her. They are extremely energetic, and don't seem to give her a moment of rest, which I can tell is getting to her. I am deploying in a month, which is hard enough, but knowing that that will be around the time it gets harder for her definitely doesn't help. I do my best to make things easier, as I'm sure your husbands do the same, and it really sucks that we can't do more. Maybe someday they will invent some way for us to take over for a day *crosses fingers and prays it doesn't happen during my lifetime*.....after these babies are born (when they are a few months old), I'm taking my wife on a much deserved honeymoon!

 

You are definitely NOT alone and I am so glad that there are other people feeling awful! I mean, I'm not happy that people don't feel great, but I was starting to feel like everyone had these wonderfully easy twin pregnancies! I've had horrible varicose veins since about 12 weeks (that i didn't have with my first pregnancy) and if I'm on my feet for more than 20 minutes or so I'm in so much discomfort and pain. Of course, I'm still running around after my 2 year old and my belly is SO heavy it's just beyond uncomfortable! SOOO, not easy. I'm 27 weeks and already as big as I was when I gave birth to my son!!! I have about 8 friends who have been pregnant this year with single pregnancies and I feel like they think I'm crazy b/c I complain so much, which is really difficult! Oh well! As long as those babies stay comfy inside, I'll just have to bite the bullet, cry and complain to everyone about this till they're out!

HANG IN THERE!