so most of you know dh left wed for boot camp. no phone calls for 9 weeks and i wont get a letter for another 2 weeks. pretty tough but ive been dealing with it okay, few tears here and there but nothing too bad. so he has 2 wedding bands, 1 that fits him, and the first 1 he had when we got married, he lost weight and it didnt fit, so we just got another 1. we've only been married 6 months. so when he left for bootcamp i got the ring the didnt fit and was planning to put it on a chain of some sort, and was planning to buy 1 today when i got to work (i work at wally world). ive been wearing it on my thumb. kinda loose, but i play with it and keep it pushed down. so i got to work at 7am, went to use the bathroom and as i was standing up to pull my pants on the ring fell off and into the toilet. so i throw my hand into the pee filled water, no big deal, i want that ring back! and of course, friggin walmart automatic flushers start to go and sucks the ring out of my hand. and then i lost it. on top of being pregnant and crying over stupid little $*%@ i lose my husbands wedding band. the original. it somehow made me feel better to play with it throughout the day when i was missing him. i havent sobbed that way in a long time. full out hysterical sobs. and you know, it kinda felt good to let it all out. i dont know if i was crying because i lost the ring, or because i havent let myself be really upset about missing him, or because i dont know! blah today has really really sucked. i called my mom and she came by to shop and see me. she hugged me and said i had 2 very important pieces of him growing in my belly, sweet of her. ah i guess the plus side is he's ONLY in boot camp, and not some foreign country. right? anyway, thanks for listening (reading, lol whatever)
Jeez I can totally imagine how upset you are that would just kill me. I hope this time goes quick and you get a letter to perk you up. I hope it gets better soon.
Oh no. That is just awful... I have broken down for far less than that, believe me. I ordered new checks a couple of months ago and did it on-line. When I was typing in the information like name, address, etc., I forgot to put my husband's name on too. I sent in the order and didn't realize I forgot him until I checked my email later and saw the confirmation from the company. I called the 1-800 number and was sobbing like a lunatic. I can't explain why, I guess because I missed him so much and was so worried about him that I couldn't stand the thought of checks being printed without his name on them. They told me that they were already being printed and there was nothing they could do. I continued to beg, and she agreed to send new ones to the printer right away! My daughters were so worried about me that they called my sister. I don't think the hormones help in situations like that. What your mother said is true. Your babies are the biggest part of him you can have. And even though your husband is at basic training, you still have a right to be lonely, scared, and worried. I am sure you are on his mind day and night. Thoughts of the three loves of his life are what is getting him through. Hang in there, Lisa :cray:
I am so sorry, I can only imagine how upsetting that would be. You're mom is right you're babies are the biggest remembrance of him you can have. I bet it felt really good to just let it out though. I hope you have a better day tomorrow. :hug99:
you ladies are simply wonderful. i feel so stupid right now, and definatly pregnant and full of hormones. i keep reaching for my thumb to push the ring back down and its not there and then i get all weepy again. lol i seriously need to get a grip. 5girlies- i would have cried over the checks too, so dont feel bad. btw- i love you daughters' names, do you have 1's picked out for the new babies?
QUOTE(cottoncandysky @ Mar 15 2008, 08:19 PM) [snapback]670870[/snapback] you ladies are simply wonderful. i feel so stupid right now, and definatly pregnant and full of hormones. i keep reaching for my thumb to push the ring back down and its not there and then i get all weepy again. lol i seriously need to get a grip. 5girlies- i would have cried over the checks too, so dont feel bad. btw- i love you daughters' names, do you have 1's picked out for the new babies? By the way, I also have slept in my husband's clothes every night. That helps too! I do not have names. I continually post in the "naming your twins" section because we can't come up with any. It is hard after coming up with three girl names already. I hope we can narrow it down to a few names and then maybe when we see them? I don't know. Have a good day, Lisa
:hug99: My dh took his ring off in a bathroom at an office building, set it down and left (washing hands). Luckily someone found it! I'm sorry.
omg why cant i get a break? i was at work today and i went to see what time it is, pulled my phone out and it said 1 new voicemail. my phone never rang, nothing. i listened to the message and it was him. and i missed the call. goodness just 1 good day. just 1. he did say he sent out a letter friday, but he was upset and down when he wrote it, so that means i'll probably cry when i read it. i cried when i heard his message. he was upset and said he misses me so much. he even cried, i heard it. that man never cries. ugh i want him with me now
I have missed calls too. What an awful feeling. And you are right, his letter probably will make you cry. He is bound to be emotional at the start of basic training. I remember feeling like I was in a bad dream. He will adjust though, and it will get better. He'll get into a pattern and won't be sad all the time, trust me. He will find his one or two people that he gets really close to, and they will help each other through. And you will get into a pattern too. Right now it is new, you are pregnant with twins, worrying about him... It is no wonder you feel like you can't catch a break. You have so much going on right now. Just take it one day at a time. I promise, it will get easier. :hug99:
