My first day alone w/twins...

I bow down to all you twin moms who were on their own way earlier than me!!!!

My mom has been with us for 9 weeks now. but of course, the time had to come for her to go home.

twice today I've had 2 screaming babies... but twice I have also gotten them both down for a nap.

I imagine we'll survive somehow... guess there will just be more crying since there is only one set of arms.

feeling sad, lonely and anxious.... but also feel like we're on the road now to figuring out how to make our new bigger family work.. just DH and me.

thxs for listening

-maria
DS1 4 yrs old
DS2 DS3 9 weeks old

 

Im sure you will be fine.. you will learn all the twin mommy techniques soon enough. You are more than welcome to post any concerns and/or vents here..

 

Coming from experience...It WILL get easier! A lot easier!! My boys are going to be a year old on Saturday, and I can't even begin to tell you how fast the year is going to fly by! So-please-savor every single moment. It will be a distant memory soon enough. Take LOTS of pictures(this is coming from someone who took almost 3,000 in a year!), and LOTS of video. You will never have enough! I wish we took more video of when they were little.

This is a great website full of TON of advice. We've all BTDT-so definitely come here whenever you need to. We all have.

Congrats on your twins!

 

You will be surprised at how fast it all works itself out. TS is a life saver though once mom is gone!

 

You're going to do great! It's so scary at first, but onc you get into the swing of things, you won't believe that you really are "SUPER MOM". Have a good day!

 

WAY TO GO for getting them down for their naps! :bow2: That is awesome! Celebrate the little success'! I was petrified that after 3 weeks my dh was back to work. It all worked out! :hug: IF I had a real bad day I knew I could call my neighbor. :hug: It does get easier! As a matter of fact, I remember heading home from my mom's once thinking that it is actually easier doing it all by myself vs having help! Really! It was truely a lightbulb moment! (to this day it is that way!)

 

I know how scary it was my DH dropped me off at home from the hospital and we've been on our own during the day ever since.....it was scary but you'll get the hang of it trust me.

 

You'll be fine! Enjoy your time as a family... It's ok if they cry for a bit while you take care of the other. Believe me, they will have forgotten all about it as soon as you feed them.

 

:hug: congrats on getting them down for their naps! and before you know it you'll have a whole arsenal of tricks to keep things running smoothly. as PPs have said - crying isn't going to hurt them. just take a deep breath & do the best you can. no one can ask for anything more! :hug:

 

You will be surpirsed how quickly you figure out some "tricks" to dealing with 2 babies by yourself. I also had help for several weeks after the twins were born. I used to try to sooth a crying baby right away and when you have an extra pair of hands you can do that, when you are alone you can't. What helped me was just accepting that they were going to cry and it wasn't going to hurt them, they need to learn patience at an early age when they are a twin....

 

Congrats for getting them down for their naps - go on, you've earned the right to do a victory dance!

Its definitely hard to get your head around taking care of two babies at once. We never had any help at all (my family lives in a whole other country), so it has been just us since day one. I did get used to having him around though, as he was home a lot (flexible work schedule) for the first couple months when they were born. Any time he'd be gone though, I'd almost always be in panic mode, just anticipating the next time they tag-team cried. Don't worry though - you'll come up with a whole mountain of strategies for dealing with it soon enough! Its amazing what one person can do when they have to. I look after mine most days by myself now while DH is at work, and it really doesn't phase me any more, although its definitely work, and its exhausting! Good luck, and big congrats

 

good job! you'll do great!

 

You will do fine!!! You are LUCKY for having someone there for 9 weeks!!!!! I had no help from day 3 on. :hug: It does get better!!

 

I remember that day when my parents left, I was terrified, but you will do great and will learn new ways to do things in no time at all and the babies will learn too! :hug:

 

It sounds like you are doing great so far. My dh was home for 8 weeks and I did not think I could do it when he went back to work, but I surprised myself. It gets easier. Swings and bouncy seats were a huge help.

 

Aww, I remember that dreaded first day alone with the boys! My hubby was here for the first two weeks...thank god!
You'll find a schedule that works for you & your confidence will grow each day with the twins alone!
I wish you the best of luck & remember you're not alone ~ you have all of us on the forums! :hug:

 

You'll do great :hug:. Post anytime!