My dear son bites!

I mean, what do I do? I have redirected, taken him away from his sister when he bites her, taken him to his room and placed him in his crib when he bites me. I was told by daycare that he has bitten his sister maybe once or twice there, and never any of the other children, but he seems determined to comp on me when he gets home. my Dh and I had just finished giving the twins a bath and we were hanging out on our bed, and Lucas crawls over to me and in the blink of an eye he bites my arm and tugs back with his teeth. It left this quarter sized red welt and bruise. My husband took him and said no biting, and placed him in his crib.

I am at a loss. I have to admit I even popped him on his mouth once when he bit my,.....um.....nipple!! I didn't mean to, it was a reflex, and I felt horrible. I don't know what else to do. I don't want my son being a terrible toddler who runs around biting other people's children or us when he is excited or upset. :unsure:

 

I am right there with you except mine are way older and should know better
My girls are both biters...they mostly do it when they are upset over a toy or something but sometimes they do it randomly. We have just been putting them in time out and telling them "owies hurt mommy!" or something like that.

 

I have posted my final straw on this board before, so I'll share it again.

I got to the breaking point of being bitten. I had done time outs, ignoring, lectures, etc. Nothing worked. I kept getting bit. Generally on the shoulder because I would have picked him up and that's where the anger was unleashed.

DH kept telling me to bite him back. After about 2 months, I did just that. One day, he bit me. I CONSCIOUSLY bit him back. Not out of rage or anger, but a conscious and calm decision. I hate it when I react in anger. So, I bit him and he cried. And I felt horrid.

He never bit me again. Seriously.

Now, if I could just address his hitting....I am struggling more with this than the biting.

 

I too had/have a biter who selectively goes after her twin . She is 3.5 and I "think" past the stage, but have been wrong before. In DDs case, she always bit when she was teething, starting just after a year when she got her first tooth. I really had no success with telling her it hurts or discipline when older. The only thing that worked was to catch her in the act, tell her no, and re-direct before it happened. Since her biting came in waves with teeth, I was very attentive to her signals during that time. Overstimulation also resulting in biting so when things got a little to wild, I would calm things down to avoid an incident.

Best of luck -- some kids are just biters...

 

Yours seem too young to understand "discipliniary" actions. I think it may be a phase. We went through that at that age and generally I could predict when the biting would occur and try to distract before it happened. Sometimes they will still randomly bite, but now mine are old enough where they are consciously making the decision to bite. My suggestion would be to be consistant with distraction and redirecting. They are probably just getting teeth and trying to figure out what they do...

 

My two bite each other (13 months) one will put her fingers in the other ones mouth, while the other twin grabs her sisters fingers and bites. The one bites me and then gives me the biggest smile when I try to correct her. The other twin at least acts remorseful for doing the behaviour.

I have one girl who now has all her teeth and hopefully it will slow things down for her at least. no advice really.

Heather