my 1st bad twin experience

Okay, I'm sure this happens all the time but....
A friend and I took the girls and my buddy's 7 year old daughter to Ikea yesterday for a little shopping trip.
We dropped off all 3 at the playground/ballroom, ( it was the twins first time) and normally they are very good in that type of situation, but within 2 minutes I was being paged back.
Well Drew was done~ crying her butt off, wanted to be shopping with us.
So we headed off again, the 3 of us when I was paged again...Shae didn't want to be without Drew and was freaking out.
Well so much for our mommy only trip, cause all 3 girls tagged along with us~ It actually worked out fine, the girls were really well behaved the entire time.
My question is, they are starting preschool in Sept and I'm wondering if this is how it's gonna be for awhile?
I take them out 2/3 times a week for playdates, and never thought this would happen ~ any advice??
Thanks Pam

 

Oh wow I would never leave my kid with strangers at a play group at the Mall. Even my 7 year old girl said she does not want to stay w/out me. I go there often with them though. I never see anyone watching the kids who are left alone. I helped them alot with playing dress up and with toys.

Sorry it did not work out though

 

Sounds like you made the most out of it!! My DD wouldn't do very well in that situation either. I have to leave her in her stroller to drop her at the rec. center daycare! It's her comfort zone!

 

We have a supervised play area in one of our grocery stores and I have been trying for a while to get my 4 and 7 year olds to play in there while I shop. I think that they would love it. However, they want nothing to do with it.

Ironically, I think that my twins are at an age now that they would love to go in the play area (and probably would without me) but they are too young (the kids have to be 3 and potty trained). I have a feeling that by the time they are old enough to go in there, they won't want to.

I'm sorry that your shopping trip didn't go as planned That's too bad! I keep trying to talk my DH into going to Ikea (it's about 2 1/2 hours away) but he's just not going for it, lol.

Robin

 

We have a drop off childcare at the gym and it took a couple of times before they got used to it. Actually- one of my gals LOVED it. The other, not so much. By trip #3 they were both fine and now they love it. I think it is just a matter of getting used to a situation.

Good luck!

 

We have a drop off daycare at our grocery store too. Jon loves to go to the store with me, just so he can go to Scruchies, and he is the one who was tough about letting me go.

You still have plenty of time before Sept., and they will grow a lot by then. You also might want to look into a drop-off camp that is once a week or so over the summer, just to get them used to it.

 

Maybe the situation just completely caught her off guard and she wasn't expecting being dropped off? IMO, it's quite a different scenario than a playdate. I tend to agree with those that say that over time they will both most likely be fine with preschool.

We have a really good drop-off childcare center at the YMCA. Jake loves to go, but it took Ben quite a few times before I could drop him off without a hysterical scene. And then after that, he got very sick and couldn't go for nearly 3 weeks, meanwhile becoming VERY attached to me. It took several more weeks to get him back to being okay with it. The staff there says it generally takes a child 10 times to learn the drill and be okay.

 

Wow am I the only one who thinks dropping kids off at aplace like that is crazy? Do you know if the employees have been fingerprinted or have a criminal past? Sure you have a pager but by the time you get paged and get there someone could have taken off with your kid

The story about that boy who was kidnapped and found along with another boy who was kidnapped years before whose captor ran a pizza joint? YIKES!

It is different at childcare center at a workout place though.

 

I have to say, I know for a fact that the people who work at our Shoprite are checked out before they work there. I know one from before I was a mom, and she was a registered nurse, and told me about the requirements. Also, the door is locked from the inside. If I drop my boys off, even my DH CAN'T pick them up! I also cannot drop off a child who is not mine, even if they are registered. Oh yes, they have a full registration form that must be filled out before you can leave your kids. Finally, if a child is left for over 2 hours, they will call CPS. So, yes, I feel my boys are very safe there, and much happier than if they were shopping with me.

 

That is very good to know about your shoprite. I hope more of these places are like that and I am just overprotective mom!

I was listening to someone dropping off a child at Playdate (that is what is it called here in VT). Just sign a piece of paper, give us X amount of money and shop all day! WHOA! Like I said, these kids were asking me for a drink, where is the potty etc. I did not mind at all helping them when I had a second while chasing my boys and my girl. But there was only ONE person running the place. Sure the half door is locked from the inside. But most of the 3+ year olds could figure it out easily.