moms exp!

Hi ladies ,

I am jus curious to know abt the exp of mom's who have twin babies .....??
is it like a nightmare during and after twin pregnancy......???

 

I think everyone's experience is very different. It can go either way.

 

I would definitely not call it a nightmare. Call me crazy, but I love and have loved every minute - or at least I can say that in retrospect now that we are all getting enough sleep! I had a rough pregnancy with preterm contractions, 14 weeks of bedrest, gestational diabetes, morning sickness the whole time, 24/7, you name it...and taking care of two babies at once definitely takes a lot of work and patience, but they bring me so much joy that it's all worth it.

 

Pregnancy was hard. There's no other way to put it. I really wanted twins and I remember telling DH later in the pregnancy that I didn't consider how difficult carrying two babies would be when I decided that twins would be nice.

Now, after birth, twins are fantastic but they do offer challenges that you do not have to deal with when raising singleton children. That's why we have a whole website devoted to helping each other out with the difficulties. You can visit some of the other forums and see what I am talking about. One of our favorite phrases is "Moms with just one baby don't understand..."

Anybody who gets pregnant with twins is doubly blessed but, having also had one baby, I totally understand why twins scare some people. I can't tell you how many times I've looked at my son and thought, "Boy, am I glad he's not twins." But, of course, I wouldn't trade my girls for the world and their bond and the experience of raising them is such an awesome thing. I would not be sad to have twins again but I'm not going to try.

Twins are not something that should be approached lightly but, if two babies is something that you are blessed with, it really is great.

 

This pregnancy has been much more difficult than my first pregnancy, but its not horrible. Being in the hospital for 8 weeks has been the worst part.

 

My twin pregnancy was actually better than any of my 3 singleton pregnancies overall. I did have a few scares and a LOT of pressure and feeling like I was being stabbed in the vagina was not all that but a nightmare?? no way!! having 2 babies a nightmare? it aint easy but it is AMAZING. I wouldn't trade it for anything. and if it is a nightmare - I don't want to wake up!

 

The pregnancy was hard for me as I gained 55lbs and I had several visits to the hospital with various minor things. All-in-all it wasn´t too bad and I never went on bed rest. I had a good birth - a VB and all over in just 4 hours from start to finish!

As for when the twins arrived, I won´t lie, it was pretty hard for us. These two are our first children and, although we went through a lot to get them (we did IVF), we just weren´t prepared for the massive change in our lives. No matter what people say, you dnt really know until you experience it. Saying that though, things got so much easier at around 5-6 months and they really are a joy. The first 3 months were a haze of nappies, feedings, etc but now they interact with us and play and are more independent. Sure, we have good days and bad but there is no price when you see your babies smiling and being happy to see you!

 

Pregancy was rough for sure ~ but definitely not a nightmare.
The first few months can also be a struggle due to all of the changes, but were also very rewarding

Do you have children already? What are their ages?

 

"Nightmare" is a strong word. But as I mentioned in the other thread where you were asking for ways to increase your chances of conceiving twins, twin pregnancies are high-risk (it's more risky/dangerous for you and for the babies to have two at once instead of one at a time), caring for twins is obviously more difficult, and financially it is, of course, more expensive than having one at a time. (e.g. you need two of so many things, rather than being able to use hand-me-downs from your first for your second) If someone were already pregnant with twins and asking this question, I'd probably try to be more encouraging.

 

QUOTE(SC_Amy @ Dec 10 2008, 11:27 AM) [snapback]1105359[/snapback]
"Nightmare" is a strong word. But as I mentioned in the other thread where you were asking for ways to increase your chances of conceiving twins, twin pregnancies are high-risk (it's more risky/dangerous for you and for the babies to have two at once instead of one at a time), caring for twins is obviously more difficult, and financially it is, of course, more expensive than having one at a time. (e.g. you need two of so many things, rather than being able to use hand-me-downs from your first for your second) If someone were already pregnant with twins and asking this question, I'd probably try to be more encouraging.


Well jsut so you know. Many of us on here have had to go through infertility treatments to conceive our babies and "nightmare" may describe how our journey was to get to pregnancy but not actually gettign pregnant. I find your thread pretty rude and insensitive.

 

Hi,
My pregnancy was rough. 12 weeks of bed rest, gestational diabetes, started pre-eclampsia. Fortunately we made it to 36 weeks and the babies are healthy and chubby now (3 months).
Would I want to do it again? NO
Do I regret it? NO!
good luck, Beth

 

QUOTE(SC_Amy @ Dec 10 2008, 08:27 AM) [snapback]1105359[/snapback]
"Nightmare" is a strong word. But as I mentioned in the other thread where you were asking for ways to increase your chances of conceiving twins, twin pregnancies are high-risk (it's more risky/dangerous for you and for the babies to have two at once instead of one at a time), caring for twins is obviously more difficult, and financially it is, of course, more expensive than having one at a time. (e.g. you need two of so many things, rather than being able to use hand-me-downs from your first for your second) If someone were already pregnant with twins and asking this question, I'd probably try to be more encouraging.



So, I read this over and over and Im sorry to the other poster but... I don't think she IS calling it a nightmare. :unknw:

I do think that Amy brings up a practical point. When considering if you would like to try and have twins (as much as anyone could make it happen anyway) it is important to look at the risks and the finances. Twins ARE a blessing, ANY child is a blessing, but twins do come with more concerns then a single. The OP should ask herself if she is prepaired for the extra challenge and I believe that may be why she is asking. There are pros and cons to everything and no one here will be of any help to her if we are not all honest with our own unique experiences.

My twin pregnancy has been very hard physically and mental but nothing compared to what some of the women have had to go through who also post here. There are some very hard and sad stories here, there are also hopefull and happy stories. If I had a choice I would not be having twins right now. Like I have said in other posts, Jim leaves before they are even due for 6 months, that leaves me here ALL ALONE for 6 months with newborn twins a 3 yr old and 18 mo old. Thats 4 kids under 3 all by my self- no no no help. . Im very stressed out so if I could make the choice, twins would not be practical for us right now. With that said, Like Ive said before, Im already in love with them and very excited to welcome them into the world. I might not have had IVF but I have had my own lost, I understand that pain and the greater blessing of the children that I do have because of it.

 

QUOTE(sfried93 @ Dec 10 2008, 12:24 PM) [snapback]1105444[/snapback]
Well jsut so you know. Many of us on here have had to go through infertility treatments to conceive our babies and "nightmare" may describe how our journey was to get to pregnancy but not actually gettign pregnant. I find your thread pretty rude and insensitive.


I don't understand what you're saying; are you addressing this to me or to the original poster? I wasn't talking about IF treatments at all. I conceived my twins on IF treatments so I realize that. The original poster had a separate thread saying she really wanted twins and was asking for natural remedies to help conceive twins. Several of us posted saying something along the lines of twins are challenging--both the pregnancy and beyond--so make sure you do your research and know what you're getting in for before deciding you want them. (I can totally understand people who have been through IF treatments, are older when starting a family, etc., wanting twins, but there are also lots of people out there who want twins b/c they think it would be "fun" or cool or whatever and the OP hadn't said yet which "camp" she was in.) So Deepti then asked in that thread if we were saying having a twin pregnancy was really terrible, and then she started this separate thread asking basically the same question. So that's why I responded the way I did--to clarify that we weren't trying to say "Oh, having twins is just horrible," but just trying to share the simple facts that it's high-risk, more expensive and more challenging, so I just think parents should make sure they're OK with that before actively trying for multiples. Once you find out you're having twins, I think it's best to focus on the positive (which is why I added my last sentence to my previous post) but if you're just thinking about whether you want to have twins, it's good to be realistic and to "count the cost" (not just financially but the risks) first.

 

And thanks, Molly (you posted while I was writing my post ); you got what I was saying. And I feel the same way as you about twins--I would've chosen one at a time b/c that would've been a more practical scenario for us right now, both financially and in terms of my own health--but now that I'm having them, I love them and am very excited to meet both of them and have them as part of our family. Hugs for you Molly and I hope that some good friends in the area step up to give you help when you need it!

 

Sorry Amy my post was addressed to Deepti not to you. My viewpoint was she was askign if twin pregnancy and beyond was a nightmare and I think she coudl have worded it differently as I was offended by the word nightmare to describe twin pregnancy or beyond. Sorry but that is how I feel

 

Ah, OK, I understand now. I was just confused since it sounded like you were talking to Deepti but you had quoted my post. What you said totally makes sense though. Hugs to you; I'm sorry for all you had to go through to get here.

 

Hehehe Amy I forgot to delete your quote first. Glad you understand though!!!

 

lol I wondered how my quote fit in.

 

My twins are our first children so I can't comment on exactly how it will be after they are born. I know it will be a lot of work and will not always be easy. I also know that I am very lucky in that I have lots of family who are willing to help us in those first few weeks. As far as the pregnancy goes I am 21 weeks 4 days and so far I would consider myself lucky. Both my doctors are extremely pleased with my progress so far and I've had no major problems. I've had a few minor issues that probably worried me more than my doctors, such as some early spotting and cramping and a trip to the ER that turned out to be nothing. As lucky as I've been I know I still have a ways to go and things may happen. I'm just trying to be as positive as possible and not think about all the other possibilities unless its absolutely necessary. My twins were a complete suprise. We were trying to get pregnant and it worked the 3rd try, which we did not expect it to happen so soon! When they said it's twins we were in complete shock, they don't run in our families. So this whole thing as been a big question mark from the beginning as far as what to expect, but I love it and wouldn't trade my girls for anything in the world and they aren't even here yet!

 

Hi fried ,

I m so sorry for using the word "nightmare"...i did not mean it .
in most of my research i read multiple pregnancy exp is really hard ..
so i was jus curious how a mom experienced during and after pregnancy .basically
i want to have twins , and i dont have kids too..i had miscarriage 3 months bac.

i am soory again ..

 

congrats for ur pregnancy...
good luck!!