OK. So as I mentioned in my post about teeth...I had a vent about MIL. I have yet to vent here about her-so here goes! Hold on for the ride! Background-my mil really is very nice, will do anything for us-and has! She's done a lot for dh and I and I don't want to bad mouth her. But I think MIL venting just comes with the territory. Also-dh is one of two. She is close to her kids-as they are her only blood relatives in the US(she's from Italy as is FIL). OK. Enough background.... This weekend we spent with the IL's-Saturday from 4-8 and Sunday from 1-4. They live 10 min away... Here are my vents-it might get long! 1.) She is OBSESSED with them peeing on the toilet! OBSESSED! They are 7 months old! When she changes their diaper, she runs to the bathroom and has them pee on the toilet. Yes-can you picture it in your head? And then she squeals with delight when they do-and they ALWAYS do. 2.) MIL told me that DH was 6 months old when crawling AND pulling up. She tells me he was ALWAYS on the floor. The other day she said, "Put something against their feet. They'll move." Well-no sh*t sherlock! She was here yesterday, Anthony was on his stomach, and she went over, put her hands behind his feet and he pushed. And she said, "See Meaghan!" Yeah-I tried not to... 3.) On Saturday, she wanted toys for them to play with on the foam mat in the living room. Every toy dh gave her she said no to-it was too hard. They need soft. They are going to get hurt. Granted yes-it's going to happen. BUT-my kids are not living in a bubble-and if they were so dangerous-why sell them!?!? 4.) Every time she puts them to sleep, she moves their lovey's out of the crib-or out of their reach(they are not attached to them yet). 5.) And the tooth story, which is why there is a vent. On Sunday I had just mentioned to my mom Anthony was going to pop a tooth first. We were at mil's and I was cleaning the dishes from lunch. Next thing I know she is screaming. All giddy. She took a spoon to Anthony's mouth and yes-she heard something because his tooth had popped through. She kept going on and on that he had a tooth! Comes into me and goes, "Did you know he had a tooth?" UGH! MY BABIES! NOT YOURS! 6.) DH told her we would be leaving around 3. She asked why. He said naps. She said they could nap here. We didn't need to leave and we had to stay for dessert(anyone knows what it's like to eat at an Italian's house-it lasts FOREVER). Lo and behold-dh didn't say anything and just agreed. So nap for one of them was non-existant, and the other was tops of 30 minutes. 7.) Anthony was screaming(tired/teething). She rocks them HARD up and down and jiggles the heck out of them-not how I do it. Anyways-she goes to DH in ITALIAN, "Maybe he wants some more formula." Ummm....NO he does not! They eat roughly every 4 hours and it's 8oz, 6 oz, 6 oz, and 8 oz. He does NOT want or need more milk. Dh goes to go make some so I got up and said to her that's not what he needed/wanted and took him from her. As soon as I did-he instantly stopped crying and was totally fine. Made me feel good. What he wanted was his MOMMY! So his 2nd tooth popped in yesterday and she was here and was going, after rubbing his gums mind you, "I can't believe you have a tooth!" I wanted to say TEETH, but I kept that to myself! :blbl: I just want to know why she is in such a rush for them to grow up???? Oh-and did I mention she was SPOON feeding sherbet to Nicholas? SPOON FEEDING. One taste-that's it. No more. UGH! The icing in the cake is we leave in 2 months for a 2.5 week "vacation" to Italy with her and SIL. Can we say Valium? ETA: #'s 6 & 7. Couldn't leave those out!
I totally feel your pain. I definitely have a love/hate relationship with my MIL. I have to say that in recent months I have been a little more open and direct with her on how I am feeling, and that has helped a lot. Vent anytime!
i can totally understand. before kids i couldn't understand why people didn't get along with their MIL's. My MIL said people were so shocked when she was asked how much of a "B" i was and she would say i wasn't. now fast forward to having twins and her living in the same house but downstairs and i guess she would be telling people of the monster i have become. i don't take her advice. everything she does is wrong. well yeah let me see. 2 bottles a day that's it for a 7 month old and MILK????? yeah ok oh and i remember her babysitting and us coming homw to DD in a dirty diaper and when i changed her the poor things butt was soo raw it was bleeding when i wiped her. yes my kids get food, i can feed them 3X's day solids, no they are not eating too much, no they are not too cold (40 degrees out and they have sweatshirt, sweatpants, a jacket, hat, in car seat with snuggle me over the, and she wanted me to put them in a snow suit at 7 months along with snuggle me and what they had on. they are not to sleep with me. i don't care they do when they don't feel good and if that makes me a bad mommy then i am horrible. yes i kiss them right on the mouth...germs? yeah ok they came from me so i will do it. warm milk? room temp is fine.........get what i mean?......we all have them...UGGGHHH there must be a MIL class just hope i am not like one when i am a grandma
Mine always insists they are cold-It is 80 degrees and she has them all bundled up! Drives me nuts! I always speak my mind to my mil and it has helped, fortunately she knows when enough is enough and that they are my kids! I do love her though!!!!
Oh I totally feel your pain. I hope you are able to have an ok time in Italy despite all the family tension. With my luck, it's always been the great guys who had difficult families so I just try to feel lucky to have my Dh when my MIL is being difficult.
My MIL gets on my last nerves too. They moved here from across the country and are a pain in the a**. I am trying to transition DD to sippy cups and she was telling me they need bottles till 12 months old. No you retard they need formula/breast until 12 months old. Why not go ahead and transition her to sippy cup? Another thing last night we went out to eat and I was feeding the twins real table food and she said it was going to hurt them. They eat whatever I do and I have not and would not ever feed them anything that would hurt them. I tell you those dag on MIL's.
