MIL rant!

Ugh, so yesterday was my FIL's birthday and the family was getting together over at my in-laws house for breakfast. Well me and the babies decided to skip because both boys are sick and we thought Spencer might have croup(which we found out he doesn't.) My MIL is now pissed off because she thinks I used that as an excuse because I didn't want to go.

For Thanksgiving we always go to my father's for lunch and DH's family for dinner. She just posted on facebook asking my SIL if it would be ok to have thanksgiving for lunch :headbang: . Well, my SIL and MIL must share a brain because if one is mad at someone the other is automatically mad even if it doesn't concern them.

I am pissed that she does not respect the way I parent my children!! My SIL will take her kids out if they are sick and doesn't mind having them over at family functions, but I do! With all that is going around, and my SIL was throwing up and sick just this Wed. I don't want my babies around others.

So now I guess we aren't invited to Thanksgiving because she knows that we already commited to my dad's.

The immaturity of some!! :grr: :gah:

 

:hug: I'm sorry. It's so difficult dealing with family sometimes. As a parent, you just have to do what you feel is right for you & your little ones. If other people don't agree, I guess it's just their problem. After all, they are the ones who will be missing out if you guys can't make it for Thanksgiving.

 

Families are so difficult. Something you dont learn until you have kids of your own. :hug: I hope you guys can work it out.

 

:hug: Gotta love the in-laws!

 

has your hubby spoken to your mil about the thanksgiving time frame and explained that you guys wouldn't be there if they do dinner earlier? that might change her mind, she may not realize that you have other plans...the past few years i've had thanksgiving here at my house with jason's family instead of going to my mom's...honestly i prefer it that way...jason has always had the day off (he had a different job than he does now)..this year he is working on thanksgiving so i'm taking all 6 kids to my mom's...for the day after, his family is coming up for dinner (they really aren't doing anything otherwise anyway)...i wouldn't want to take the babies if people were sick, or you thought the kids were sick...if she can't understand that, then that is her issue and you should try not to stress out about it..i know relationships with mil's are tricky...my mil doesn't exactly care for me, however she also doesn't like much of anyone so that helps a little...

 

we do the same thing every year...they always have dinner. After not showing up at the birthday party, she suddenly decided to change it and asked my two SIL's if that was ok, but not us!

 

i have persistent problems with my MIL and if there is a problem between her and i then her daughter, my SIL, will be just as pissed at me over something that doesn't concern her at all. they like to chit chat all the time and there are no secrets between them so if there is a "problem" somewhere with someone else in the family everyone seems to tag team up against the "bad guys"...aka me. so i feel for you!

i hope they are able to get over this and everyone is able to have a HAPPY holiday!! whatever happens just make sure YOU have a wonderful day with YOUR family