Midwife appt today

I went and had my physical done. That part itself went fine, but all **** seemed to break loose when I asked about having an u/s at around 24wks. You would of thought I was asking for a million dollars. I got the "you may want to see a specialist if you do not trust us". I never said I didn't trust you, all I wanted was one more u/s. So am trying to discuss my point, and all I kept getting was that I should think about switching. When the midwife left the room (and she is my least favorite there), I broke down. Why was this so difficult?? Then when she comes in, she explains that when I go to MFM (maternal fetal monitoring) that they take over when it comes to u/s and I will have them at least every four weeks starting at 20wks. When the other midwife told me that I should go there (Thursday), she didn't explain how this would all happen. So then, I understood what was going, but was still getting the "you need to discuss this at home on whether or not you are staying". I felt like that the babies and I were being shoved out the door. I go back in 4wks and I see the midwife that I misunderstood from Thursday.

The rest of the appt went well. Babies are doing great, and my cervix is long and thick. Pap hurt some, but that is about it. She said I was measuring a little bigger...of coarse I think I blew up over night. I still haven't gained weight though, but they said nothing about it.

I cried all the way home though. I just feel like the bad guy now since they think I don't trust them. I do trust them, I just wanted one more u/s. Everything else I am perfectly happy with.

Plus, I am beyond sleep deprived since I have been up since 1am. Need to sleep so I can watch Idol tonight. Eathing lunch and going to bed. Thank goodness DH is on vacation this week

April
14w4d pg with twins!!

 

wow! I can't believe they were so hard on you. It is your right to ask for things that make you comfortable.
I had a doc when I was in the hospital on bedrest that made me feel dumb anytime I asked a question that I really disliked. I would have to stop her from leaving the room so I could ask questions. I am so glad she isn't my regular doc or I would switch.

 

If being proactive about your health care offends someone in the field---then so be it! They are not the boss of your body--you are! I think we get so used to being bullied by dr's that it feels unnatural to bring up certain things, or express concerns--it is so backwards! You did exactly what you should have. Good job, and congratulations on healthy babies.

Reyna

 

I am so sorry you had a hard time. If you are not comfortable with the way they are treating you I would switch before you get further along. You need to feel like you can ask anything without being treated like a child. It is your right to ask any and everything that you want.

 

I don't blame you for being frustrated. The most important thing is that the babies are good and you are comfortable with the care you are getting. I know as soon as my regular ob found out it was twins he immediately referred me to a perinatologist who sees me every two to three weeks. I still see my regular ob every two weeks. My ob does what is asked by my peri (certain blood work, cervix checked every visit etc...). There is nothing that goes unnoticed between the two and it is a very good feeling. So I would encourage you to speak up about what you want. I went through this in the beginning until I asked a bunch of questions and really got on the same page with everyone.