merry Christmas and small petty rant

I just have to get this off my chest or I might explode. I don't want to complain to my friend today since it's Christmas. I'm so aggravated with DH. We celebrated Christmas with his family last night. He slept through over half of it. He was so tired. He got off work way early and came home and slept but yet was still tired. He claimed he "tried" to sleep through the afternoon so he could be up later but couldn't. Whatever I heard him snoring. I got everything ready to leave myself. He has the nerve to ask if I have everything. Whatever. Like he even knows what to pack. He was in his parents room sleeping last night and I packed up all the kids, the car with all the gifts, and everything else myself. He only saw the kids open like one gift and we got home and he asked where the coffee pot came from. Um, I got it for Christmas. Seriously felt like he wasn't even there. He slept in DS's bed all night since the kids ended up in our bed. So it was nice undisturbed sleeping for him. I went to bed at close to 2, was up at 330 with the babies, and then DD2 was up at 630. Thankfully she laid and watched tv for a bit and everyone was up at 730-8. So we open gifts and BAM back to bed by 11am. He has been in bed ever since. WTH?!?!?! He did help open a couple of the boxes for the kids but I have set everything up myself so far. Fun part he has to be at work at 5am tomorrow so he will go to bed early again.

 

you need a :hug: My hubby used to work 3rd shift and he slept ALL the time. When he didn't sleep he was usually doing something that he wanted to do that didn't involve me. It was a very hard time for us. Third shift was a nightmare, he honestly never could get enough sleep. Looking back, I completely understand some of the things he did, but going through it, it was just incredibly tough on our marriage and our family. I really don't know a good way to approach it but to pick a good calm time to talk about how you feel. I always approached my hubby on the defensive and we ended up getting into an argument. If you don't tell him how you feel, he'll never know, and you'll end up holding a grudge. Talk to him, let him know how you feel, but be calm. I hope the rest of the day goes well and try to focus on the good stuff ahead of you.

 

It's nice how a good nights sleep makes you feel. DH got up shortly after my post. He knew I was aggravated and said he was sorry he was so tired about a thousand times. I ended up breaking down later that night. I drank a couple cups of coffee around 6p and then at 9 I felt super jittery. I think between the caffiene and just sheer exhaustion I was fried. After a short cry I got it all out and felt a lot better. DH decided to take today off which was awesome. We don't usually have him home on Sunday. He let me sleep in as much as I could. I was up a couple times with the babies last night. They didn't sleep well. But DH took care of the 2yr old when she woke up and the three kids (twins were sleeping in crib) and DH and I cuddled in the bed and I got an extra hour of sleep this morning. I felt so much better. DH has been up all day, played with the kids quite a bit, and we just have had a nice day. I just arranged with my niece to come over tomorrow to watch the twins and my 2yr old so I can go out shopping. So it will be great to get out of the house.

 

Ahhh...sleep. It's amazing what it can do overall, huh?!?!?! Glad dh woke up and helped out. I'm glad you two worked it out and he was a major help-and took the day off! Woohoo to that! That's pretty awesome! And I'm glad you found someone to watch the kids for a bit so you can get out! Enjoy your time!

 

So frustrating.. my husband just disengages when he's tired too and we've had so many holidays where he's just snoozing while everyone is busy trying to get everything together. I am glad he turned things around though and you got a rest and a nice day with the family after! It's amazing how things can turn themselves around when everyone is rested.