loosing my mind! HELP

my kids don't listen, they are running this houe hold and i wam loosing my mind as well as patiences (sp) no matter what we do or how to correct them they llaugh and walk all over us. forget resturants and outings, they through comeplete tantrums and ppl look at aus....HELP :blush:

 

Chelle, what have you tried in terms of discipline? I find that when timeouts aren't working, I have to take away something that is special to them (like their "snuggles", special animals or blankets). I try to give them to the count of 3 to listen. Then I do a time out and then the taking away. I make sure that I sit them down to explain what behavior has caused them to be punished and when the punishment is over I have them tell me why they were being punished.

It is so hard with little ones, I find that some days I am just at the end of my rope. That's when I give myself a time out and step away from the children, either out to the front steps, into my laundry room or into my room.

 

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Chelle, what have you tried in terms of discipline? I find that when timeouts aren't working, I have to take away something that is special to them (like their "snuggles", special animals or blankets). I try to give them to the count of 3 to listen. Then I do a time out and then the taking away. I make sure that I sit them down to explain what behavior has caused them to be punished and when the punishment is over I have them tell me why they were being punished.

It is so hard with little ones, I find that some days I am just at the end of my rope. That's when I give myself a time out and step away from the children, either out to the front steps, into my laundry room or into my room.



I have tried time outs, taking thier loveies, toys etc, I have even smacked thier hands ( not hard of course) but my kids seem to have an attitide and tell me Mom that don't hurt me, they yell and slap me, Alex pinches and head buts me...I am so failing as a mom

 

You are not failing :hug:. I think it's just a matter of finding what it is that will make the most difference to them(their "currency" in the words of Diane (dfaut). For my Meggie, it's when she doesn't have her snuggles. Nolan is a little bit harder but I have taken some of his "guys" away and he listens.

When I put the twins in a timeout, I typically put them in their room for it and set the timer on the oven. They get 3 minutes, if they come out before the 3 minutes, it starts all over. I am able to shut their door such that they can't get out if necessary. Maybe there is a place you can set aside as the "naughty spot" (as Supernanny says), a place that they are kind of locked into.

Just make sure to be consistent with their discipline and always follow through. (It's easier said than done, believe me).

Have you looked into any of the books out there? My local library has a whole parenting section in the children's room. Maybe take a look around and see if there is a method out there that works with your kids and your child raising philosophy.

I know people have had success with 1-2-3 Magic. Here is a list from an Amazon search, maybe check them out and see?

I wish there were a cut and dried answer to your issue, but I don't know that there is. :hug:

 

Sounds like a typical 4 year old to me. I ditto on the taking something special away. Also before you go into somewhere it seems to be better when you do tell them what you expect.. Like.. Sit down be quiet, ect. Also.. Stick to whatever you are doing.. If you let it slide once.. It will let them know that its ok. :hug: I know how hard it it! (Well with just one.. I will be there with 2 in a few years,...)

 

You will get over this bump in the road and that's all it is, a bump. You are NOT failing as a mom. Be consitent, as hard as it is. Don't cave in. For a while it's just going to suck. My little two are testing me at every possible turn. Give an inch, I swear they take a hundred miles. Hang in there, I'm right there with you.