Lonely Day

I feel so guilty for the way I am feeling today....

We went camping this weekend, and I ended up coming home late last night with the twins and our two year old. It was just so much work, and I felt like it wasn't fair to everyone else. My two oldest daughters played with our friends all day, but one of us was with the twins while the other one was with our toddler. So, I decided to leave and let my older two have their Daddy. Then nobody else would feel like they had to help with babies, etc. Our friends are great, but they don't have any children younger than 5.

My day was much easier at home today, but I miss being able to do the things I love. Right now they are boating and tubing, and tonight they will go see fireworks over the lake.... I miss my older girls and feel like I never get to do the fun stuff with them anymore.

So, I ate myself sick and just had a little cry. Stupid, cuz now I have a headache. Well, thanks for listening, Lisa

P.S. Don't worry about me, I am going to pack up the little ones and go to my sister's for the evening. She has two year old twins, so I guess we'll do the kid thing together!

 

Yes, it is hard. I have a 4 YO and we do the same thing. One of us will stay at home with the boys while one of us does something for her just to make things easier. But it will get better because they wont be babies forever. Hang in there. Its great that you can go to your sisters and you dont have to be by yourself. Thats cool. :hug:

 

Ohhh....I feel for you! I don't have older kids but I do miss the old days...so much some days. Especially during the summer when it seems everyone else it out enjoying the gorgeous weather and we're at home.

I keep telling myself that it'll be so much better next year....

You're not the only one feeling like this.

 

I do feel like I'm missing not being able to do more. I know this will happen later, however. You're definitely not alone :hug: .

 

There are all these cars in my cul de sac… both my neighbors are having BBQ’s w/ friend and family… but nope, not us (older ds in next door swimming.. but not us)… they are just at that point where its hit or miss… emerging out of those early dark days… but still have ties there… I feel like this whole summer was a waist (for me)… usually we have friend over every weekend but haven’t had anyone who wouldn’t understand since they arrived… I know you know it temporary and I know it is… but to think it won’t be the “old way” for a few years is sad…. And my oldest will probably be into girls then… so good by mommy and me… that makes me even sader :cry: …

 

I can 100% relate! (although, I have to admit... I know I probably wouldn't have even gone in the first place :blink: so kudos for making through one night of camping! ... dh has done a LOT with the 3 older boys this summer... while me and the 3 "little ones" stay home...)
have fun with your sister and I hope you binged on something yummy! LOL
big hugs! :wub:

 

I am already home to bathe the litlle ckicks, but I do feel better. Thanks for understanding everyone! I am so glad I have all of you... :hug:

 

i feel the same way a lot. i feel like my life is over sometimes. and when we DO go somewhere with the girls, i still miss out because i'm taking care of them. i can't tell you how many times i haven't gotten to eat at a function because i was too busy feeding the girls, changing the girls, soothing the girls, entertaining the girls...

 

I feel like I have been "stuck" all summer, until school started back and I went back to work as a teacher. Now I want to get home and rest in the afternoons but at the same time I wish I could still do "other stuff." Things change so much one you have babies! I love them and wouldn't give anything for them, but it is easy to kinda miss the old days when you were able to just take off anytime and do anything!

 

I can relate...we spent 3 wks at the family beach house when the girls were 5-8 wks old and I also had a broken foot! You can imagine that I couldn't do much at all-- I only got to the beach a handful of times and when I did it was all about the babies.. Then after we got back and my foot is now better we have a membership at a pool and when we all go I usually end up having to stay with the babies and DH goes into the pool with DD OR we switch and can never swim together. A few times I have gone out with my DD and just one twin and I can't BELIEVE how freakin easy it is!!!!

I do know that this is temporary-- there will be a day when they can join in all these things and I think that will be great. For now we just have to grin and bear it.

 

When i was out at the mall a few months ago (without the babies - rare moment), I ran into another twin mom - her kids were like 2.5yrs old - and she said to me - it does get easier, I promise you - she said around 18mnths things started to get so much fun. And, she said I know saying 18mnths seems like forever away, but it will get here.
I too am missing my old life, my old body, my old relationship with dh and everything else that went along with before kids.