Like the nanny better?

I have a nanny who comes a few times a week and she is great with the girls. It just seems like they do so much better with her than me !!!! They were angels yesterday with her and last night...Aubrey was screaming and didn't want to go to sleep.

Now the nanny is back this morning and they seem so content. Am I paranoid or doing something wrong? It makes me sad.

 

I have a nanny who comes a few times a week and she is great with the girls. It just seems like they do so much better with her than me !!!! They were angels yesterday with her and last night...Aubrey was screaming and didn't want to go to sleep.

Now the nanny is back this morning and they seem so content. Am I paranoid or doing something wrong? It makes me sad.

 

Babies have naturally fussy times. My girls get fussy around 5:00-5:30pm. Since the nanny leaves at 5pm, I could get paranoid that they like her better than me, but they even get fussy at that time of day on the weekend too.

Don't worry...your babies love their mommy!

 

Your babies love their Mommy! I think two things are happening here: First, the nanny is a novelty. She's different and new even though they've seen her many times! Secondly, they feel comfortable with Mommy. They aren't afraid to cry around you because they trust you. Anyway, that's my 2¢!

 

Just wanted to reinforce the comments of the pps -- night time is ALWAYS fussier around here. When we have the in laws come "help" they always get the kids early in the AM because I know that's when they will be content and easy to care for. And novelty/change is a powerful force in baby's lives -- if I've been with the kids all day and hand them off to my DH, they are suddenly calm, but the same thing happens if I leave them with him to run errands and then take them when I walk in the door. So it isn't that they prefer one of us to the other, its just that they calm down when things in their surroundings catch their attention. You can note the change thing yourself just by switching rooms when they are fussing. One of my can be in full scream and then suddenly start giggling just because I walked with her from the family room to the kitchen.

Kim

 

Don't worry!! I've heard a lot of Mom's say that!!

I haven't noticed it with my Nephew and I don't think his Mom does. (Except that I can get him to sleep a little longer for naps sometimes) but he's always really happy to see them when they come to pick him up!

 

Maybe we all need to just switch kids....

 

They act the worst around the ones they love the best. I've nannied part time for twins and they were wonderful with me and then I've nannied full time for Nicole and Danielle and had them about 60-70 hours a week. The twins I was with part time were angels for me and N&D were the same with me that they were with their parents. The twins I nannied for part time weren't totally comfortable around me so I was fun for them. N&D were totally comfortable around me and wouldn't have a problem acting up or screaming or whatever. When I went back to visit them after being gone for 6 months (they live in CO, I live in NJ) at 20 months they were perfect angels for me because they weren't comfortable around me like they used to be. It was nice that they behaved so well but I missed how comfortable they were around me when I was with them full time.

 

I don't think you are doing anything wrong. I agree with pps and I think it's BECAUSE they love you so much that they are crying when it is time for bed. Maybe they just want to be with you instead of going to sleep and maybe they have figured out that you might not be there with them the next day so they want to be with you now. Sounds to me like they have a very healthy attatchment to you and love you very very much!