Letter to your children

I have heard of writing letters or A letter to your child(ren). I want to write one but have no idea what to say. I know I should just go with my heart and write but I am not sure if I should talk about myself, how they came to be, what I think or all of it. I am a story teller so I could go on for pages.

Have any of you written letters and if so, what have you said.

TIA

Damiane'

 

I've thought about it, but like you, don't really know what to say. I guess it could be anything really. I always liked the idea of writing them a letter on every birthday.

 

I had meant to do this when i was pregnant with them but never got to it; puking for months, sick, bedrest, etc. Well, they turn eleven months tomorrow and i've been thinking about it as part of a birthday gift to them (matter of fact, i think it would be a great annual b-day gift; to talk about what they've done that year,how they've grown, how proud i am of them and how much i love them. But - taht's for later)

for now- well, there is no 'right way' I say absolutely go with what your heart tells you; don't censor, don't worry about it being 'perfect'. Imagine what a gift it will be to them as they get older; if/when they become parents, when you are no longer around.

in fact, i'm getting a bit teary just thinking about it.

 

What a great idea!! Like pp, I would definitely get teary doing so. :cray:

 

I write my girls a letter each month... actually I started at 6 months and missed month 10, so I'll revise that statement and say I *try* to write my girls a letter each month. I put down what they did that month and the things that were happening in our world. Its more for me and helping me remember everything, but I think they'll like to read them someday.

 

I have been writing a letter to them since they were born. i wrote on the birth experience, what they do, how they are, appointments, where we went, things i do with them, how much i love them. these r ur babies tell them whatever u want to. they will love it when they r older. i write how they interact together, it's also good for u to look back on and say oh yeah.....

 

What a wonderful idea! I have been printing out my blogs and saving them in a "book" as a way to document their first year, but I love the idea of a letter just for them. I like the birthday idea, a letter every birthday - what an amazing gift to give them at HS graduation! Just write what you feel, I bet once you get started the words (and tears!) will flow !

 

What a nice idea! I keep a journal, and it's full of lots of notes about the babies. But I hadn't thought of writing a letter for them.

 

I started a journal while pregnant, don't get to it much now since they were born(it's hard to get to their baby books), I try to every now and again and just say what's on my mind for that moment and or what they are doing that week/month.

They are going on 1 year and I think the last time I got to it they were 8 mos. SO alot has changed so I should get to it soon.

I wished I had had something from my Mom. A journal IMO is easier bc you'll always want to add to it and a letter is done after you sign your name to it, not that that isn't a good thing to do by any means but maybe a journal which could be ever growing and changing throughout their lives???

 

This might sound kind of morbid, but is honest... I was a high risk delivery for uterine atony (i.e., hemorrhaging of the uterus) so I was afraid I might never meet them, and not return to my big girl. I needed 4 units of blood after my first c-section after 30 hours of labor and a 9#7oz baby. (I'm 5'3, 120#!!). Very scary.

To ease my mind that I'd done all I could, I wrote them all letters to tell them the things I thought they should hear. Imagine me, on bed rest, lap top on belly, kleenex all around typing these letters, balling to myself!!! Funny picture now that I am blessed enough to be here, but it wasn't funny then.

 

i use the keeping up with their growth as a reason to buy a seasonal card.
i just write in it how much they are growing, what they are saying and doing, and how much i love them..

for easter, valentines, birthdays, halloween, thanksgiving and christmas..

they will never know just how much i love them.

 

i wrote them each a letter around their first birthday and put it in the baby book.

But i like the idea of doing this more often, I really want to try. I had thought of doing a blog, but that will never happen, so this is a good compromise.

 

I bought a journal when I found out I was pregnant. All throughout my pregnancy, I wrote to the beebs. And since they have been born I have continued to write to them. I told them how much I love them, and how wonderful an experience the pregnancy was for me. I told them what they were like in my belly, and about their ultrasounds. Now I tell them about who is doing what, and how amazing they are. I plan on giving them the journal when they are ready to start their own families. (And I plan to continue journal writing to them through the years).

 

I also have been writing letters to each of my children since pregnancy - just what they are doing, how mommy and daddy love them, funny stuff they do and say. It is so fun to go back and read them.

My mom and grandmother wrote letters every day when we moved away from my mom's home town for about 10 years. It is priceless to read the stories of the antics we pulled as little kids. With the age of email (unless we print them) much of this will be lost.

 

I'm another one who is journaling. Each of my girls has a blank journal that I started when I was pregnant, and I write in all of them a couple times a month. Each page is a mini letter to them, and has sort of a snap shot of what is going on in their lives at the time. Just whatever comes to mind. I'm planning on giving them to them on their 18th birthday.

 

Write about the things that make you happy. Think about the things that you would want to know about your mom or dad. Tell them about your life experiences or give them advice. I think that I would want my kids to know that they are loved and that their mommy did the very best she could to make their lives easier.

I hope that this gives you some ideas!
Lots of love!
Meshell

 

I started writing the kids a letter during the first year. I just tell them things that they are doing and things we have done as a family. I started doing this because right after we found out I was pregnant my MIL passed away. My DH never really knew anything about his childhood, like when he started walking and things like that. He is really into info like that and I wanted to make sure that if something happened my kids would know. I am going to do it for each year of their lives and maybe give it to them when they have kids, or as a wedding present. I just keep the letters on my computer and add to it when I think about it.

 

WOW!!! What a great idea! I'll definitely make sure I make time to do this for their 1st Birthday. I'd love to try and do it every year for their b-day. The thought of them getting to read this in 5, 10, 15 , or 18 years from now - AMAZING! :FIFblush:

 

OMG I am such a sap... I am crying just thinking about it! I think I will do it for girls first bday in May... Buy two small journals and write a letter each year... How will I keep up with them for 18 years!!??!!

 

My grandmother wrote a poem for me every year on my birthday. I'm not very poetic, so I decided on a letter instead. I wrote about how they spent their year and how much we love them, etc.

Birthday Letter