Leaving them for the first time

My twins are almost 5 months old, and since they came home from the hospital I have only left them MAYBE 4 times - and those times they were with their daddy. Well, tomorrow is our 6yr anniversary, and I just found out earlier this afternoon that DH has made surprise plans for me. He is having a friend watch our LO's so he can take me out for a special evening to celebrate. He is the sweetest, and I truly appreciate his efforts, but I feel like I am having a panic attack ever since I found out! I really want to enjoy the night out with DH, I just don't know if I am ready to leave my LO's with anyone other than their daddy.

:blush: I know I am probably being ridiculous, and making a bigger deal out of it than it really is, but these are my babies! How do I let go for the first time?

:wub: Thanks for being a shoulder to lean on.

 

Your husband is a great man. :wub: :wub:

I think what you are feeling is what a lot of moms feel the first time they leave their babies with someone besides themselves or their SO. :hug: :hug: It's going to be hard but definitely go and try to enjoy. Can you have the babysitter maybe call you ever hour or so to let you know how it's going? How far away will you be?

The first time is always the hardest. :hug:

 

it is hard, isn't it?!! good thing your dh didn't tell you further in advance!

yes, the first time is the hardest, but you will make it through and will enjoy your evening with your dh. hopefully you can have a nice evenings.

yes, an idea is to be able to call in for updates! but truly the babies will be ok, and you should enjoy your time.

 

I hope you had a great night. You deserve some one on time time with your DH.

 

Thanks everyone. We go out tonight. DH doesn't know that I know someone will be watching the kiddos, and I don't want to ruin his surprise. :wub: He is such a wonderful husband, and I am so lucky to have him. I have no idea where we are going, but the place we usually go is about 30 min away. I am happy to get this time with DH, but I am still anxious about leaving the LO's. Calling in to check on them is a great idea, so I will definitly be doing that.

Thank you all for understanding. I am sure I will wake up tomorrow morning, having enjoyed my romantic evening with DH, wondering why I was being so silly!

 

It is always hard to leave them the first few times & that is completely normal. I think you will find, once you get out of the house, you will enjoy yourself & worry a lot less than you thought you would. Have fun!

 

I hope you have an amazing evening. Your hubby is super sweet!

 

Thanks for all the support. I just wanted to update and say, yes, we went out, and yes, we all survived! We were gone for about 3 hours, and had a wonderful dinner. It took all I had not to cry when we left them, and I was so stressed on the drive to dinner, but once we got there I started to relax, and we really had a nice time. Before I knew it, dinner was over and we were headed back home... which I must admit, I was anxious to see my babies again! Overall, it was so sweet of DH to surprise me with this special evening, and I think it was something we both needed!

 

:clapping: I left my boys for the first time around 7 months with my inlaws. It was so hard! We went to a Springsteen concert and I cried several times. It was the first concert after one of their band members passed away so I blamed it on that, but I was really crying b/c I missed my babies. :FIFblush: I'm glad you made the first step. It gets much easier after that. Now I'd leave them with a babysitter if I could just find one!

 

Awww bless!!

I am glad you enjoyed your "surprise" meal, you deserve the break but yes i can totally relate to how daunting it is. I kind of feel like our next time will be our first time all over again as we haven't left them with anyone since they were 4months old! They have stayed out 3 time's, once when i was in hospital at 6wks, at 3mths they stayed at granparents as it was my birthday and then at the granparents again at 4months and we ended up having to go get Amber as she was going wild - unbeknown to us she had a viral! The next time will be the first time the babies will be kind of aware that we are not around and i'm quite worried for them but we are going to work on seeing the granparents more often before we dessert them for the night.
Are you going to try and make this a regular date then? I wish i'd of done it more often.. it may well of been easier now if i'd of stuck with it more.