Leaving babies with MIL for first time....

Well tonight the babies will be left with my MIL for the first time...My husband and I decided that I need to get out b/c I am so stressed. Besides their first pediatrician appointment two weeks ago and one quick walk around the neighborhood I haven't left the house since the boys were born. So my MIL is coming over tonight around 5pm or so. We will do the 6pm bottles then head out to dinner and maybe a quick stop at a store and be back for the 9pm feeding. I wouldn't feel right about leaving her here for a feeding...I know feeding two babies at once is wicked hard and wouldn't ask her to do that. I now just have to not change my mind between now and this evening. Already feeling guilty for going out and I haven't left yet. It seems way too soon. But I know for my sanity and for my marriage it will be good. Wish me luck...I need it.


Dianna

 

I went through the same thing when the girls were younger. I think DH and I went to a movie when the girlies were about a month old. It was SOOO hard for me and I had my cell phone in my hand on vibrate through the whole movie but it really was a great thing for us to get out of the house. Try to relax and enjoy yourself. Your boys will be just fine with grandma.

 

Don't feel guilty! I am the biggest wuss ever when it comes to leaing my babies but at that age when all they're doing is sleeping anyway, I left them with my MIL several times. Get out now while they're this age because the older they get, the less you'll want to leave them. It will feel SO great to be out with your husband. Enjoy!

 

Enjoy your time out! Everyone needs a break every now and then and you are lucky to have someone to give you that break! :hug99: Hang in there!

 

Definitely enjoy your time out! I remember thinking before I had the babies-that I wouldn't want to leave the house, or leave them with anybody. I was very protective of them. I think for me some of that had to do with having difficulties conceiving them. However-once I left the house-it felt GREAT! I thought I would not enjoy myself, worry, etc...but none of that happened. Yes-a part of me felt rushed because I was worried about what was going on at home, but you need to get out for your sanity!

Even now-if I go two weeks without going out by myself-I start to get really upset and emotional. You need a break-and when you come home you are all refreshed! Enjoy your time out! Try to get out once a week-even if it's to pump gas-it's a quiet moment!

 

enjoy it!!!!

 

Leaving them at the age yours are is ten million times easier than it will be at like 6 mos etc... I used to leave all the time when they were "loaves of bread". (that age where they lay there and cry and poop.)

I would not even have my cell phone.. I was too depressed and hated my life too much to worry about how they were doing at that age.

NOW-- I worry. I don't even want to leave them anymore. I TRY to find places to go but really hate to leave now that they are on such a kick a** schedule.. Inevitably, the babysitter cannot keep them on track.. and we KNOW how that goes..

Anyway, as soon as my scar was healed- I was out and about. Don't feel bad. No reason to.

Have fun ENJOY!

 

Enjoy yourself!!
My husband & I did the same thing for my sanity when our babies were that age.
Also, when ours were 2 months we actually went away for a night and my mom & sister-n-law took care of babies. It was hard for me to leave but, I was so refreshed when I returned home I felt like a new person.

Take Care & Have Fun!

 

Enjoy yourself tonight! You deserve it - and I'm sure you could use the time alone w/ DH. I'm sure your babies will be fine for a few hours w/ your MIL. Besides - you'll be just a phone call away.

 

I am going to try to enjoy myself...I think it will be best for me and the babies if I do

Dianna

 

when ours were about that age DH and I were soooo sleep deprived that my mom ORDERED me to drop them off at her house and go home and sleep! so we dropped them off about 2 pm or so ran an errand or 2 and then picked them up about 10 pm - it was great because we were ready to handle the night!

 

Definitely go out and enjoy yourselves!! Time away from the babies is important for you and your dh (and the babies, too!)
I know how hard it is being away from them, but your MIL can handle it. You will feel refreshed and so happy to see your babies once you get home... Enjoy- you deserve it!!
I love the picture in your profile- so cute!

 

You gotta get out, even it is to the gas station like pp said. I was the same exact way, I even refused help in the beginning because I wanted to know I could do it on my own. No one listened of course. In th long run it is better for your twins like that. I got more and more sleep deprived by t he minute hour day until I just broke down and cried because I felt like I was doing the best job that I could do, and I wasn't because I needed rest. Don't even worry about the feed, if ou are breast feeding pum a couple bottles, whoever is watching your twins CAN handle it. we just dont think they can. Get out and get some rest in the end you will feel so much more energized and be such a better mom for even realizing, and taking the time to break. Good Luck you will be alright. Keep us posted

 

Enjoy your evening out! You deserve it

 

Night out was ok. It was hard to be away from the boys. Can't believe how much I missed them. Of course they both sleep the entire time we were gone...I am glad about that...in a way lol My mil pointed out how easy they are to take care...well, yeah of course they are if you are doing it for a two hour block lol I am glad they didn't fuss the entire time, she may not have wanted to watch them again lol

Dianna

 

Glad you went out.

LOL!! Don't you just love when people say "it's not too difficult" to take care of them and yet.......
they only took care of them for 2 hours NOT 24/7
or
it happened to be there nap time or bedtime so they were sleeping

My sister insists that her 15 month old boy is just as much work as my girls. LOL! I keep trying to tell her that while she's taking care of him her DH is resting or doing something and vise versa. My DH and I always have our hands full. Too funny.

You should definitely have your MIL watch the kids more often. She'll then realize you're a SUPER MOM! :lol:

 

She needs to come between midnight and 6am, when their feeds seem to take forever and normally at least one of them doesn't want to sleep lol

Dianna

 

Glad you enjoyed yourself! You deserve it!

QUOTE(Dianna @ Apr 2 2008, 07:06 AM) [snapback]700493[/snapback]
Night out was ok. It was hard to be away from the boys. Can't believe how much I missed them. Of course they both sleep the entire time we were gone...I am glad about that...in a way lol My mil pointed out how easy they are to take care...well, yeah of course they are if you are doing it for a two hour block lol I am glad they didn't fuss the entire time, she may not have wanted to watch them again lol

Dianna


I used to HATE when my mom or MIL woudl say "oh they are so easy". Ummm, yeah they are. For 2 hours, without breastfeeding and being up all night and not even having time for a shower!!!

 

QUOTE(mandyfish3 @ Apr 2 2008, 03:22 PM) [snapback]701295[/snapback]
Glad you enjoyed yourself! You deserve it!
I used to HATE when my mom or MIL woudl say "oh they are so easy". Ummm, yeah they are. For 2 hours, without breastfeeding and being up all night and not even having time for a shower!!!

Hopefully next week will get out. My mom will be here, staying with us for ten days. So glad she will get to see her grandbabies face to face finally


Oh a shower.....would love to get one of those in some day before my husband gets home LOL But I guess I could do that instead of coming here LOL

Dianna

 

QUOTE(Dianna @ Apr 2 2008, 02:20 PM) [snapback]701180[/snapback]
She needs to come between midnight and 6am, when their feeds seem to take forever and normally at least one of them doesn't want to sleep lol

Dianna

Ahhh I remember those! I had the tv line up from 12am - 630 am memorized, Informercials. Infomercials , Infomercials! Thank God for Lifetime Movie Network it helped me stay sane, during those long nights inthe rocking chair in my nursery. Not that long ago but it feels like years ago. At least you know there is a end in sight. Glad you enjoyed your night. Get out when your mom comes.

P.S. you will still worry about those babies in the shower, so that too has to be planned. Who plans showers?