Leave Them or Take Them?

We are headed to Hawaii in June for 6 days, and the closer its getting the more I realize how incredbly hard it is going to be to take them with us. With all of the baby stuff, and not to mention the Babies...its VERY overwhelming!! MIL offered to keep the babies so DH can go and have some time to ourselves. Up until now I have adamently refused (I am afraid I am going to miss them too much), but now I am wondering if thats a better idea? WWYD?

 

I'd leave them. I wouldn't want to have fun by the pool or ocean and then have to stop to feed and change the babies. Not that spending time with the babies isn't fun, but Hawaii? Not sure how often you get to go, but if it's not often I'd rather go with hubby and enjoy you time.

 

If I had someone I trusted 100%, I would leave the babies behind! Have a great time!!! Relax and enjoy yourself!

 

That's tough Kyrstyn! To be honest, I am not sure I could do it for 6 days, although the thought of it sounds SO nice! Good luck with your decision!

 

It will be one of the toughest things you have done, but I would go on the trip with your husband. Your girls will have an awesome time being spoiled by their grandmother and you will get some much needed rest, I'm sure.
One of the best presents a couple can give their children is happy parents! ;-)

When my DS was just a year old, my husband and I went to Italy for 10 days. It was nearly impossible to leave him, but I know he had an awesome experience with my inlaws and my parents (they took turns watching him). Plus, we found out we were preggo the day before we left and when we got back, we found out it was twins! We are sooooo glad we went when we did...who knows if we'll ever have the chance go to Italy again!!!

Now, I was quite the paranoid mother. I left typed schedules, maps to every location they could possibly need to go, the phone number for every person I've ever met, etc. Their only concern the whole time was how to work the playstation to watch movies. Other than that, everything went perfectly! Since you are leaving two babies, I would make sure your MIL has some support/someone to relieve her at times, too...especially if she does not usually take care of them on her own.

Let us know what you decide. I'm very excited for you - Hawaii - how wonderful!!!!

 

First off, I have to say I'm SOOOO jealous! I have been itching to go to Hawaii forever. We were also thinking about going and bringing our guys with us but I'm with you....there's SO much stuff and I'm afraid we wouldn't be able to enjoy it as much as we could. You are lucky you have someone willing to watch them for that long. We unfortunetly don't. But I'm with you...I would miss them terribly! Of course if you do take them, you are better off then us....you are 4 hours closer then we are. Either way, I think it will be awesome....just different!

 

I am leaving my babies in July for 7 days. It will be so hard, and I will miss them. But I am leaving them with someone I trust and I know we will have fun in the carribean wtih my family(its a no kids trip). I think in the long run you will be glad if you leave them. They will never remember it (good or bad). Just gear yourself up for it and go. That is what I have to do.

 

6 days is a long time but I think I would say leave them. You and your DH deserve some time off. With the whole bedrest, delivery, and NICU I am sure you could really use the time to yourself. I am in kinda the same boat. DH won an award with his company and we are going to Palm Beach for 4 days at the end of the month. We have never left them even overnight. I wasnt going until my best friend said that she would take off from work and stay with the boys. She has spent a ton of time over here with my family. I trust her more than anyone so it is comforting for me to go. As long as you are comfortable with MIL then I would go for it.

 

leave them - go have a great time by YOURSELVES!!

 

I am going to Hawaii in October and I am taking the babies with us. I figure I would miss them too much and we are a family so why not? It can be done and we can have a good time with them too... its all in what you wanna do.

 

I will be the odd one out and say take them. They won't remember it much but they may do well. I wouldn't be able to leave mine for one day let alone 6 but that is just me. We are going to India next year for a month so I am sure it will be hard but so worth it!

 

UGH!! Im so torn! Part of me is so in need of a break!! I totally trust my MIL with the girls she is great with them and spends a lot of time with them. I also dont think we would enjoy our trip nearly as much if we had to take care of 2 babies. But then on the other hand, I cannot even fathom leaving them for 6 days! I feel like I would be missing so much.

At this point I think I am leaning towards leaving them with my MIL. I know she will take excellent care of them, and DH and I could really use a getaway. I think it would be really good for our marriage as the last year of our life has been beyond stressful. We are in serious need for some "us" time.

I will keep you posted when I make my final decision. Thanks for all the feedback!

 

[SIZE=10pt]I would say, if you completely trust your MIL then let them stay home and have LOTS of fun with grandma. You and DH will have a great time (with or without kiddos) and the kiddos will LOVE spending that time with grandma. You'll come back rested/relaxed and refreshed and your lil ones will be so excited to see Mommy and Daddy.

DH and I are actually going to Puerta Vallarta on May 23rd and leaving the kiddos home with my mom. I completely trust her and know that they will be well taken care of. I'm going to miss them all tons ~ although DH and I are really looking forward to some one on one time

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If I had someone I totally trusted, I'd leave my girls. Not sure about 6 days, but for at least a few days I would. If you trust her and you can relax without them then by all means do it!

 

Leave them with your MIL and enjoy your time with DH!

 

That's so exciting to go to Hawaii! We were in a similar situation. We booked a trip last year to Hawaii for SIL's wedding, then got pregnant. Anyways, we decided to leave our twins (3 months old at the time) with my family while we went for 2 weeks! I have to admit that the first week flew by cause we were so busy enjoying the sights, but the second week went by too slowly and I was really ready to come home and see our little monsters .

During our stay I would sometimes wish we had brought them when I would see other people with their babies, but I know we couldn't have climbed Diamond Head or gone to Hanauma Bay with them, and in the end I'm glad we went by ourselves. Either way you will make the right choice for you, but don't let anyone give you any slack if you do leave them...this could be a great time for you and hubby to really reconnect after the last few hectic months!

 

We are taking our 5 month twins to Maui from Boston in a few weeks time.

You can rent baby equipment in Hawaii quite easily (we are renting swings, bouncy seats, gyminis etc), so that should not be a reason not to take them.

 

At that age, we would have taken them and brought someone along to help. DH is still not ready to leave them with anyone for a trip, not even my most trusted mother. I am probably going to win a work trip to the Carribean for next March, and I asked him if he would be ready to go and leave them with someone and he hasn't answered me yet.

 

I would NEVER take my twins on a plane to Hawaii. I personally thought the plan ride there and back was like TORTURE and it was just my husband and I. Seeing that you trust the people you could leave them with, I say LEAVE THEM. BTW, I am so jealous you are going - THAT IS AWESOME!!!! I remember laying on the beach at the Sheraton in Maui and hearing a baby scream. I told myself right then I would never do that.

 

Ideally, leave them. 6 days without them stinks though! I know I would have a hard time with it. My dad goes on a cruise with his wife (my stepmom) every year. When he came home from his cruise in January, he called and told me that he was taking me and dh next time. He asked if I would be ready to leave the kids. I told him that I would have to skip this next year but definitely sign me up for the next one after that. The girls will be 2 years old by then and although I know it will be hard to leave for a week, it will easier because they are more self sufficient. It took me that long to leave ds for an extended amount of time too.

If you can swing it- can you bring another adult to help? That way you have the best of both worlds

 

Kyrstyn, since you MIL is offering, I would leave them with her. I know it will be extremely hard to leave them, but I think you will enjoy yourself much more and come back refreshed. I would leave them if it were me. I'm not saying it will be easy, but I think you will have a much better time just with you and DH.

 

I would never leave them that young.

 

I would leave them at home if you are comfortable leaving them with your MIL. I went to Hawaii a few years ago, and there are so many things you can experience that IMO bringing a baby (or babies) would limit how much you are able to see and do. Plus I am sure you and DH deserve to spend some quality time together.....and I'm sure the babies will enjoy the attention from your MIL. Have fun and relax...I wish it was me with this decision to make

 

Since you have the chance to take the trip W/O them, I will vote GO ALONE and enjoy enjoy enjoy!! It's really a rare opportunity!!

 

Leave them and have a wonderful time with your husband. You will come back rested, relaxed and happy!

I would miss my babies - but, knowing they were in good hands would make it easier.

You are not the first person to leave their babies while on vacation. Go and have fun!!

 

6 days sounds like a long time and though you are going to miss them a lot - I definitely agree w/ the other posts - specially since you have a lot of trust in your MIL - yous should leave them. You need some time to yourself and you definitely don't want to be worried about changing diapers or feedings while laying on the beach.

Remember - in order for us not to go insane and to be good parents - we need time to ourselves. That does mean alone time w/ DH.

I'm sure the babies will be fine. Plus your MIL will not only love the time w/ her grandkids but she'll see how difficult it is to take care of twins and will love you even more.

 

Tony and I left the twins with my parents back in September when we went to O'ahu for a week - if you trust your MIL then do it - Hawaii is very child friendly (there were lots of babies there) but if you can get away for yourselves do it! At 6 months they won't remember that it was grandma's loving arms holding them - not mom's...we left ours at 17 mos - it was harder on them than it was on us...I missed them but I loved having alone time with DH!

 

I would not be able to leave them. I was always on vacation with my parents when I was a kid and I hope our kiddos always are with us.

 

my dh and i just came back from our trip to puerto rico with our 9 month twin girls. we had a FABULOUS time! dh's parents live there and so we had to bring our girls, but we did have a wonderful 3 day break visiting friends on another part of the island while my in-laws watched the girls. the first day we called every 2 hours but by the second day felt more relaxed that they were in good hands and we really enjoyed having adult time together (so we only called 3x that day!). also, i surfed for the first time in 1 1/2 years and TORE IT UP! Twin mom surfer getting props from the locals felt soooooo good! ha! we were lucky to have the best of both worlds, enjoying our girls on vacation (they did so well and loved the ocean!) and time for ourselves. if you have someone you trust i recommend getting some time away for yourselves though. the babies won't remember it now, but give it a few years and they may not let you get away by yourselves!
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lily and sofi are 9 months

 

DH and I went away without our girls for 5 days last month. I was hard but I am glad we did it. My mom and Grandmother kept the girls and they did great! They didn't even act like they missed us when we got back! Think about it...6 mornings to sleep in! (that's what I was excited about!)
Plus, the best thing for me was the day after we got back my mom called me and told me that she has the utmost respect for me and she doesn't know how I do it.
Have fun!!!

 

It's a tough decision. My mother took us on international flights when we were infants, but I would not do it with my twins. Not only is it difficult to travel with infants, but exposure to illness worries me. The recent measles outbreak in the United States scared me in particular. Not everyone vaccinates their children (a controversial subject), so this might not be a consideration for you, but I am waiting to travel with my twins until they complete the majority of their vaccinations (after 18 months). My twins came early and I am cautious about their exposure to more mundane illnesses too. I don't mean to be a fear monger. It's simply that I'm cautious when it comes to these things, probably overly so. Whatever you decide, have a wonderful time in Hawaii.