lagging baby b

Hi all...at 6 weeks, I had my first two ultrasounds. Baby A had a fetal heart beat of 103 and we saw a small sac for baby b but no confirmed heart rate. the following week Baby A, was measuring 7.1 and had a heart rate of 133 and Baby B had grown visibly and was measuring 6.3 and had a heart beat of 99. we were thrilled! Then my obgyn calls and says to not et my hopes up about Baby B due to this lower heart rate. I have been doing a lot od research and while I know 99 isn't an ideal heartrate, isn't it too soon to say something like that to me? I dont know how I am going to next Friday any one else had something similar?

Thanks, Andrea

 

I've read other stories similar to yours and they had healthy babies. I know that doctors have to tell you that, but they could at least give you some words of encouragement also. I hope friday comes fast for you. Wishing you well at your next u/s, hang in there.

 

We saw both sacs at 5 weeks and no heartbeats. Doctor told us to come back in 2 weeks and we would see how things were going.
She also told us not to get our hopes up due to the high rate of "vanishing twin syndrome". I think as a doctor its part of their job to prepare you for the worst. That way if things do turn out that way you are somewhat prepared and not totally blindsided by the whole ordeal. If on the other hand, things go the other way well of course you're going to be estatic.
It worked out great for us I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

Hang in there!!!!

 

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I think they have to say that, honestly, I think they do. My two measured only two days apart and both had heartbeats and I was told about the vanishing twin syndrome. I guess they feel it's better to prepare you? I'm not sure but I know it's not any fun. :hug: I hope friday comes around fast and I'll be sending you many positive vibes. :grouphug:

 

I'm 21 weeks today and mine started out similar to yours - with about a week difference. I was told that my Baby B was not viable but she's still around =) There is a possibility of a vanishing twin or other complications but there is also the possibility that this is perfectly normal. Good luck on your next ultrasound.

Edited for - btw- about the heartbeat, it could be that Baby B's heart started beating not too long ago. It starts off slower and then gets faster. That could be normal too.

 

:hug: That early on my OB told me that there was a very good chance that one twin would 'vanish' as well, I agree with the others...they feel they need to prepare you for all of the scenarios.
I will be sending lots of good thoughts to you for Friday :hug:

 

I'm in the same boat as you. I'm about to go in tomorrow for my 7w4d ultrasound to see how things are developing. Last week Baby A was measuring right on time--6w 3d--with a heartbeat of 125, while B was only measuring 6w0d with a heartbeat of 85. My doctor said that the second one pulls through about 75% of the time. I don't know if she's just saying it to make me feel better, but I've decided to stay hopeful because of all the other positive stories from the people on this board.

Good luck--I hope it works out for both of us!

 

They just want to express one of the possible realities of the situation....though some doctors are more blunt than others

 

Please let me know how your appt goes today. I wish you the best of luck! I am going on Friday and it cant come soon enough.

 

I wish I had better news about today, but unfortunately when I had the ultrasound they found that Baby B stopped developing, probably last week, and they couldn't find a heartbeat today. Baby A is just fine, but I'm pretty upset about Baby B.

The only thing that's comforting me is that the doctor said that since the baby didn't start off with a very strong heartbeat, that it likely had some chromosonal problems that prevented it from developing properly, and that it's better this happened now rather than later in the pregnancy when it would be a danger to me or the other baby.

I'll keep you in my thoughts and hope everything goes great for you on Friday. I think that I'm in the minority on this one, as most of the ladies here seem to have gone through something similar with happier results in the end.

 

Oh I am so sorry to hear about this...but as you said it is better that this happens sooner rather than later. I will say prayers for a happy healthy remaining pregnancy with Baby A. I go tomorrow and am prepared for either scenario. It took me a long time to get pregnant so I've been strong this far...might just have to continue to be strong. thanks for the update

 

At 9 weeks I found out I was having twins and they were 5 days apart. The OB came in and said, "We'll be cautiously optomistic." and I thought it was a horrid thing to say. Sabrina (baby B) continued to lag behind her sister, and the difference between them grew. At birth she was 2 1/2 lbs smaller, and now at almost 4 yo, she's 4 inches, 11 lbs and 4 shoe sizes smaller. But I have 2 wonderful girls. I think like others said, they have to say those things, to warn you of possibilities. But it doesn't mean that bad things have to happen!

 

Thanks for everyone who took the time to write to me. Baby B did catch up and he is measuring only a few days behind Baby A now. his (or her) heartbeat jumped from 99 at week 7 to 153 at week 8!!! So for now i will stay cautiously optimistic...thanks again for all your comforting words. andrea