Just want to vent or moan

HI Everyone,

I just wated to vent/moan for a second I'm just having one of those days.

I'm 29 weeks now with my second set of twins and I am just feeling overwhelmed today. My current twins (boys) are 3 and just have been recking havoc since they got home from preschool and it just seems a continuation from yesterday tantrum fest they bestowed upon me. My husband has a new job (yay!) but he works long hours now and its just me and the boys till about 7pm.

I just want to whine because I'm tired, very tired (my eyes are tearing up as I write this). As you remember by this stage in the pregnancy sleep is hard to get because it's just so hard to get comfortable - and I'm not sleeping longer than 30 minutes spurts at night. The last two night my boys have decided that bedtime is playtime and even though they have gotten put down at 7:30 their normal bedtime - they don't fall asleep till about 11 - which makes for a really fun morning! And it's killling me to get them ready for school and myself ready for work.

We're still trying to get the soon-to-be new set twins room ready and now Thanksgiving is around the corner and I have tons of family coming into town to "help" - which in reality just makes me hostess/waitress for the holidays, while they sit on the couch or go shopping... I just can't stop crying today and just want to throw my hands in the air.

I've been having crazy BH contractions and cramping and even though I try to stay off my feet as much as possible it just doesnt seem to be happening especially with work (I can't walk from my desk to the printer w/o a cramping feeling). i've been told by my OB just to take it easy and put my feet up when I get home - but how do I tell 2 3 years olds - I need to rest when I have to cook them dinner and give them quality time. I feel like such a bad mommy because the last 3 nights for dinner - i've put their highchairs in front of the TV and let them watch Word World while they eat and I just sit on the couch behind them...

I've tried to talk to DH about it all but he's so overwhelmed with his new job - he literally comes home, gives the boys a bath and helps put them to bed and goes straight to his laptop to work.... I just just feel lost (at least today I do - ask me again tomorrow and i'll probably be my normal self again). I don't think he understands and his go to answer is "I'm sorry, is there anything I can do? Oh wait I've got to answer this email first".

Okay I'm done venting...

 

I am so sorry. I am in a similar position as you but not working. I don't know how you do it. My twins turned 3 in July and I am 25 weeks. It is no fun. My DH works 2 jobs and is rarely home. I defiantly have days like you have. I don't have any magic answers but it helps to know sometimes that other people are going through the same things. I am just counting down the weeks until the babies are here. I am still sick and that is no fun. Hope your boys get back on a good schedule soon.

 

Would it be a bad thing for you to just ask your dr to pull you out of work? If you could manage, that may be the best thing to do. When I was pregnant with my twins, I had no idea how we would ever survive if I had to stop working but once it happened (my baby A had low fluid and had stopped growing at 29weeks so my dr put me on modified bed rest) it was nice to at least not have to worry about work and getting everyone up and ready before I had to work - I got everyone up, ready and off to school then I sat my self on the couch all day.

:hug:

 

:hug: I'm so sorry. Being pregnant with twins is SO hard- chasing after 3 year olds is really hard, too. How about a college student to help every night from 4-6? S/he could help with dinner, cleanup and playtime. It sounds like you need a 2nd set of hands. Heck, even a 12 year old could do some things- and you probably could pay less.

 

:hug: It's got to be so hard to be pregnant with twins and chasing after 3 year old twins and working full time. Wow. :woman: I agree with Heather - is there any way you think your doctor could get you out of work?

 

It sucks now, but alot of it is just the pregnancy talking. Once those babies are out you will have your energy back and feel soooo much better. Just remember that you wont be pregnant forever and it will be over before you know it. Until then use the TV as much as possible to give yourself a break.You deserve it, and the kiddos probably love it. Its win win. I was pretty cranky from 28 wks on this time around and was guilty of using the TV ALOT. But now things are back to normal and even with the baby, I have so much more time and energy to give to my kids. You'll get there before you know it!

 

Oh hun, I have no advice that the other gals haven't given...just want to say HUGS HUGS HUGS. It was hard enough chasing a 3yr, 4yr and 6yr old around, let alone TWO 3yr olds! The older two were the easiest...

HUGS HUGS HUGS HUGS