Just trying to add a little flavor

Now I have had some strange comments from people and a few have actually had the nerve to ask me if I took drugs to get my twins----WHAT????? I would ask back. (I don't have problems with others taking them because of the fertility issues but i have never had any problems conceiving and I guess these people out there are like out of their minds to ask such a personal question about a woman's body let alone how I conceived twins in the first place.) Then I would finish the answer with a "HECK NO!!! I didn't use drugs!" or I'd make some absurd or hysterical comment like "Heck no I just wanted to see if i could pop out another kid and ended up with two instead."

I am still not liking every time someone sees me and they say, "Wow! You are getting huge!" and think that I don't care or that I might not get upset. I am sorry but I really don't like being called HUGE! I think that I know that I will be the size of a truck by the time these babies come and I am well aware of that! I don't need someone to shout it out or tell me a million times that I am HUGE.

Getting to the "DO YOU REALLY WANT ME TO ANSWER THAT" stage.

Some questions are just so absurd that I have to ask "Do you really want me to answer that?" something like.

What size clothes are you in now?
Are you able to wear maternity clothes or do you have to wear a MooMoo Dress?
Where on earth can you find clothes that size?
Are you having trouble getting in or out of your car yet?
Can you still drive?
What did your husband say when you found out that it was twins?

Please bare with me I have just lost train of thought with these questions. (Most of which I get asked on a daily basis.) And by now I have memorized every answer. And I am sure that you all have had bouts with people that just have no clue!

I'm sorry folks, this is pregnancy! NOT A CIRCUS!!! JUST BECAUSE THERE ARE TWO CHILDREN IN MY BODY RIGHT NOW DOESN'T MEAN THAT I NEED TO FILL OUT YOUR QUESTIONAIR ABOUT WHAT MY BODY GOES THROUGH. IF YOU ARE WRITING A BOOK, LET ME KNOW BEFORE HAND AND I WILL SAVE YOU THE TROUBLE BY WALKING AWAY BEFORE THE FIRST QUESTION!

I just thought that I'd try to make light of the stupid questions that I have been getting. Maybe I really do need to make the T-Shirt--lol

YES IT'S TWINS!
YES BOTH ARE GIRLS!
NO YOU CAN'T RUB MY BELLY! !
AND NO I DON'T THINK THAT MY FAMILY IS TOO BIG!

Lots of love ladies and gents!
Meshell

 

I remeber feeling the same way!! now that my twins are here, I get the are you finished? don't you know what causes that? or even now that you have girls your family is complete! from perfect strangers!! and instead of rubbing my belly - we have traded that for everyone wants to touch the babies!!! YUK!!!!

 

here's a shirt from cafepress.com....

twinstshirt


^^^ hope that works!

 

p.s. these will be our first kids, and people are like, "wouldn't that be great if it was a boy and a girl? then you'd be done!" ..... no, we wouldn't.

 

I totally feel you on the front of "Don't you know what causes that", "Did you plan this", "Are you done front"!

I have a DS and DD and SO MANY people think that if you have a boy and a girl you are done! So apparently the twins are an oopsie and we are done after this! Not so fast! No, I didn't "plan" on twins, but we knew we wanted more children; and we'll see what life is like with 4 children before we make a decision on being "done"!

People can be very negative, but I've found they get annoyed when I'm extra cheery! Some days it's hard. My new sly comeback when people don't know when to quit is to say "Oh, I'm sorry, you don't/didn't enjoy your children?" It generally gets people to slow down a bit and (hopefully) think about how dang negative they sound.

Hang in there! Children are a blessing and we will enjoy ours!

Jen

 

The first question out of most people's mouth is what fertility drugs were you on? Then they seem shocked when I say none. Like you can't just have twins. Then after I say they identical, they ask wouldn't it be great if they were a boy and girl???? What???

 

i had a girl who has NEVER HAD KIDS OR BEEN PREGNANT say to me, "twins??? oh man, that's gonna be SOOOO hard for you!" and then when i told her my husband is convinced it's two boys, she said, "oh man, good luck with that! boys are impossible!" are you kidding me? i looked at her and said, "this is a blessing, not a burden. We live life with a POSITIVE outlook." it amazes me that the people who know the LEAST have the most to say.

 

SOrry to break this to you but the stupid comments only get worse. Just wait til those babies are here, oh my goodness, will you be in for it :wacko:

 

I mostly get "Do they run in your family" No, they are conceived from fertility meds (no procedures though so Good Job DH's Sperm ). I mostly get positive comments when I tell people it is twins. I have had a few "I feel sorry for you" comments, but mostly good ones...especially from those who have twins or are grandparents to twins. They get really excited!

Now I am getting, "You don't look like your having twins." Trust me I am. I am actually glad that my girls are doing great, but I don't look like a house yet.

Cannot wait to hear them as I get farther along.

April

 

i got asked so many times if i took fertility drugs

i started answering "no just the pen*s"

that stopped alot of people in their tracks!

 

I mostly get asked if twins run in the family, which I don't mind so much -- I think people are just trying to make conversation.

But I HATE getting asked if I took fertility drugs....because yes, I did, and I had a very rocky start to this pregnancy, including losing a triplet....it's not a big secret, but why is my reproductive history anyone else's business? It's very personal -- and painful -- I wouldn't dream of asking someone I know these questions, much less a stranger!

 

QUOTE(mhouse @ Apr 24 2007, 02:51 PM) [snapback]232543[/snapback]
i got asked so many times if i took fertility drugs

i started answering "no just the pen*s"

that stopped alot of people in their tracks!



OMG that is a great answer. lol

 

QUOTE(mhouse @ Apr 24 2007, 02:51 PM) [snapback]232543[/snapback]
i got asked so many times if i took fertility drugs

i started answering "no just the pen*s"

that stopped alot of people in their tracks!


:rotflmbo: :rofl: Now thats funny!

 

QUOTE(Becca34 @ Apr 24 2007, 03:04 PM) [snapback]232557[/snapback]
I mostly get asked if twins run in the family, which I don't mind so much -- I think people are just trying to make conversation.

But I HATE getting asked if I took fertility drugs....because yes, I did, and I had a very rocky start to this pregnancy, including losing a triplet....it's not a big secret, but why is my reproductive history anyone else's business? It's very personal -- and painful -- I wouldn't dream of asking someone I know these questions, much less a stranger!


Im sorry for the loss of your triplet baby :hug99: