Just a vent

I know this comes up for everyone from time to time, but had my first :woah: :slap: jaw-dropping moment when after I posted a vid on my FB of the twins and my toddlers having a simultaneous meltdown at breakfast--my lovely start to each day--my friend and mother of ONE kid said, "Yeah we have all been there." Um no, sorry, but you just haven't. I had one child before the twins and it does not compare to THREE meltdowns, TYVM.

 

My favorite is when people whose kids that are 13 or 14 months apart think they know what twins are like b/c their kids are "just like having kids". I don't think so! I understand there are different challenges to each age and each situation, but unless you HAVE twins, don't tell me you know what it's like.

 

I have 3 little ones too. One just turned 3 year old and 7 month old twins. I totally agree. My friend has 2, one 3 year old and 1 year old, she knows she has no idea what it is like to have twins. All she says it is hard and glad she has only 2. I am thankful for that.

I haven't encountered many people yet, we don't leave the house much, its too cold and just not worth it yet. So when the weather changes we will be going out, lets see what people say.

 

Sorry that your friend said that :hug: I think some people just don't think before they speak (or type on FB).

 

I'm sorry :hug: that is my hugest pet peeve! We have 4 month old twins and a 19 month old and I'm sure our breakfast routine looks similar to yours somedays, I have a friend with 1 kid who always says "Oh tell me about it blah blah blah" seriously one kid and you are thinking you have it as rough as us???? UGH!!! I just can't take her anymore! My ILs are the WORST too! They are ones who don't get it and seriously don't even care enough to get it anyway.

 

I can relate! I have a three year old and four month old twins. Most of my mom friends all have a toddler and one infant. They expect me to keep up and be at all functions as if it's a piece of cake. I get so frustrated when the comments start like my son was so bad as a baby it was like having twins! I don't think so!!

 

I don't know what some Mom's are thinking. I have a friend that is expecting her second and has a 18 month old. She says all the time that she is going to be busier then me with twins. Her reason is that she'll have 2 children at different stages and will have to be taking care of baby and be running around after her son and for me it just takes longer to do the same thing!

Kudu to you Mom's with twins and another baby, Wow!!

 

My nephews are 14mos apart and thankfully my SIL has never made a comment like that in fact the opposite - I love her!! :wub: But I hear it all the times from patients (even ones that don't know I have twins) I sooo badly want to say something but its not worth because even with my correction they still wouldn't understand (its still totally irritating to hear though :gah: )....

 

:headbang: :catfight: :catfight: :slap: :grr: :gah: thats all i have to say haha!

 

My husband and I were talking about this very subject today. When I was pregnant I would read messages on these boards about the same thing getting under folk's skin, and I thought to myself, 'well, I'm sure comments like that won't bother me as bad.' Huh, bull. Now it gets me so mad to hear folks say they know what we're going through when they've never had twins. When you have 2 little people having the exact same needs at the same exact time day in and day out, then you let me know how it's just like what you've been through. I know there are challenges in raising kids close in age, but unless you've spent a week trying to take care of twins, triplets, etc., then don't tell me you know what I'm going through!

 

People who have just one just really don't understand. Of course, since I've had L&L most of my friends wouldn't dare say anything about having been in the same boat, they usually are too busy thinking I'm nuts for having so many kids!

 

Ohhhh, my cousin's wife think she has to have someone accompany her EVERYWHERE to help her with her ONE baby, ie. dr's visits, restaurants, shopping. She even got my cousin's parents to come and sit with the baby so she could take her Christmas tree down. Umm, HELLO????? I really think it's just called her being L-A-Z-Y! :headbang:

 

My mom, who raised me and my brother who are 18 months apart and who watches our boys daily while me and DH work, says the same thing!!! She said she never realized just how hard it is to watch twins, and that people "have noooooo idea until they've been there!" It's nice to have a mom who fully understands why I'm unshowered and the house is a mess at 12pm on a Saturday

Me and DH and his parents actually went out to dinner at Olive Garden tonight and I ran into an identical twin I went to high school with and her mom. The twins had 2 brothers that were a few years older, and I leaned over and said to her mom "I don't know how you did it with toddlers too!!" I just had to give her props because I don't know how anybody raises twins while having other small babies I read other posts here by moms who have one or two toddlers and I am AMAZED how you function at all with twinfants too.....so hats off to you ladies!

 

OMG! I just have to say, I've gotten nasty with people about the subject. And I'm not a confrontational person. But when you have people trying to tell you that you have to get out more, or that you "just have to....blank...", and they've only had one kid... Grrrr... :headbang: Now when people criticize or try to give advice, I just say "Thanks, but it's different with twins, and I'm connected with moms who've had twins, I now take advice from them only."

OH! And I wanna second that whole kudos to mom's with Toddlers and twinfants! Godbless you women... I just pray your toddlers can at least go fetch you a diaper or hand you a binky.