Just a rant

I know everyone here can relate to this!

I watched my nephew the other day and I was watching how he could stack those color rings and stuff and feel like I'm soooo far behind with the boys!!

Its hard though when this is how our "learning" time goes. Jack is obsessed with putting blocks in the bucket (one of those shape sorter things). JT is obsessed with dumping them and pretending to drink from the bucket. Fight starts over the bucket so Mommy removes it til one forgets about it. One wants to read a book...the other comes and tears the book out of my hand. One wants to play patty cake or something....my version...."Patty cake patty cake a bakers man. JT get out of there! Bake me a cake as fast as you can. JT come here. Roll it...pat it...mark it with a *CRASH*!!!! JT...No no no, please come out" Then I have to get up and remove them from whatever they shouldn't have been in...mostly the baby monitor on the end table.

Its just exasperating sometimes! My sister is like sit and read a book with them...uhhhhh....OK...you try sitting in the chair and reading with them. They are 2 different people who want to do 2 different things in 2 opposite directions! But when Mommy is paying attention to the "other one"...Oh boy! I need to be there too!!! So it seems like they never get 1 on 1 time with just me or Andy to read a book or whatever!


OK Rant over....its just hard sometimes....Thanks for listening!

 

Sounds like you were visiting my house! I agree that it's so different trying to teach two at the same time. I have also had experiences like yours where the singleton seems so far advanced compared to my boys. It can be very daunting at times and I do catch myself feeling overwhelmed even thinking about all the things you have to teach one baby, let alone two. Just know that you are doing the best you can and your LO's are going to succeed at everything they do because you taught them; it just may take a little longer and I, personally, am okay with that because I had to teach two individuals, not just one. :hug:

 

We can definitely relate in my household. Just reading your description made me laugh...not at you, of course, but because we have so many of the same experiences here, too.

 

Wwe still have this going on all the time. The boys each seem to want my attention and they will do whatever they need to get it.....even if they know they shouldn't like standing on the couch or climbing on top of the dining room table. I feel like they are so far behind, especially with cooloring etc. because I never have time to sit with them and teach them individualy. DH and I have tried very hard to get one on one time with each of them, but it's difficult.

 

Oh ya. sounds like my house. only worse!

Fun for the whole family, right?

All.Day.Long.

 

Same here!

Im finding that if my attention is with one, the other wants it too! It´s harder to read with two toddlers around! Hang in there!

 

this was my reaction: :laughing: :grouphug: i so know what you mean! and i loved your version of patty cake.

 

So funny! I was thinking the same thing last night when I had one on my lap (she wanted to be read to) and another on my back who wanted to be rocked back and forth. Sitting down I was able to pull it off for about 10 minutes. Of course the one being read to was a bit annoyed but you can only do what you can do right!?

 

Sounds exactly like my house too. Mine are delayed in speech and if one more well-meaning family member or friend with a singleton tells me I should read to them more I swear I am not responsible for what I do. I try, but usually it ends up me reading to them while one is standing on the chair and the other is trying to climb into the dump truck (neither of which they are supposed to be in)! I just don't think anyone can understand, unless they live it, what it is like to have two little people who both want your undivided attention and have very creative (and mean) ways to try to make that happen!

 

I also love your version of the "Patty Cake" :slap:
In my house ds is the one "creative" that goes and gets and toy, brings it to me, or goes on the
riding car, and then dd follows and wants to take everything he is doing. He climbs on the couch and
she gets upset because she can't climb yet.
Sometimes when she is entratined with something else he seems so happy just playing alone...
but lately they have been entrataining each other and making each other laugh instead of doing it
for me to get my attention!
I feel guitly about taking them out all the time sometimes and not having the patience to
be at home to teach them things, read to them, etc....but it is hard to keep to have
"learing time" with two.
They don't really have many words besides "daddy" for ds and "momma" for dd...
and even simple things like identifying body parts...I guess they will just learn with time...