joy of having twins

I am very anxious and nervise about having twins and sometimes reading this forums makes me a little more nervous as to all the hard work and challenges that I face ahead...so I was wondering if you would share some of the good stories of
having twins, all those good moments and rewards

Thank you for sharing....

 

Congrats on your pregnancy! Having twins is HARD work, but there are so many benefits as well, at this point I can't imagine my life any other way!! Some of my 'special' moments include:

When I'm feeding them their bottles they often hold hands, they do this when playing too, it just melts my heart.

They are starting to play and interact with each other, DD army crawls to where DS is playing and they 'share' toys and have a good time.

There is always someone to snuggle with.

It is so amazing watching their little personalities form, seeing how they are alike and different. DD is my go getter, always playing and always on to the next activity and always so curious about the world and how things work whereas DS is my studier, he's content to sit with one toy for a long time and loves loves loves to snuggle. I don't know that I would appreciate the subtle differences in demeanor if I just had one baby, b/c there would be no one to compare them to.

 

Congrats on your twins!

Yes, having twins is hard work, but my friends who have singletons say that is hard work, too!

Some good moments: when they will hold hands while nursing (or did when they were little); waking up to find them lying in their co-sleeper EXACTLY the same way; now having them start laughing at each other; babbling over lunch at each other; always liking to be next to each other (even if they are fighting over toys - rarely will one be playing in one corner and the other somewhere else - they always seem to be in the same area); knowing that when I leave them in their room at night, crying because they don't want to be there, that at least they have each other and aren't alone; watching their different personalities and likes, even though they are ID twins; double smiles; just being able to watch TWO babies play and learn; I could keep going.

My mindset has gone in about three stages: right after they were born I would always think "ha, I LAUGH at your ONE baby"; at about three-four months I would think "oh, my, why couldn't I have had just one??", and at about six months and on "I wouldn't want it any other way, and in fact, I feel sorry for those who only have one baby!"

Have a great pregnancy - don't start worrying too much about the first year yet - enjoy your pregnancy and the miracle of growing TWO babies!

Erica.

 

Congratulations!!!!!

It is scary at times, and I was equally terrified as the boys neared one and I read the 1-4 forum so I totally understand.

I loved when they were bfing and they would hold hands. Sweetest thing ever!!!

I love when they hold hands now or try to "hug" each other...very sweet.

When we started solids and they got their pincher grasp...they would try to feed each other cheerios.

When they were younger, they would sleep right next to each other in the same position, but always had some part of their body touching brother's.

Now that they are getting old, there is nothing that beats seeing two happy babies crawling (sometimes trying to walk) toward you to give you a double hug!!!!!!!!!!!

Where one goes, the other follows (sometimes this is good...sometimes not...but cute nonetheless, they love being with each other, even at daycare).

There are double the feedings, burpings, diaper changes, etc, but there are also double the love, hugs, kisses, smiles.

so many other things just aren't coming to me now...but there are tons!

You'll be fine. Just remember, it is hard work but the rewards definitely pay off.

 

Congratulations! Having twins does have its fair share of challenges but it has double that in rewards!

Like pp's said watching them hold hands and smile and laugh at each other will melt your heart. Seeing how alike and yet how different they are. Watching them play together and "talk" it is all so rewarding, and that is another thing i like about twins, yes its hard sometimes but the sense of accomplishment I get from doing it everyday mostly on my own is huge!

Oh and I hate to say it but I'm one of those people that likes all the attention we get when were out shopping!

Erica

 

I agree - it's totally worth it - but very hard. I wouldn't want it any other way. I tell myself that when I'm really frustrated. here are some great things:
-they way they know each other and are comfy w/ each other. They always end up sitting back to back playing w/ their own thing -but still touching.
-the way they laugh in their high chairs when i'm not in the room - like it's a secret joke no one knows but them.
-how they chase each other into my arms. sophie scrambles up on me laughing when lyla's crawling after her.
-how they reach for me in their cribs and nestle their heads in my shoulder when they're tired - they don't do this w/ anyone else

It's great - you're going to love it. Don't be discouraged at first - it is VERY HARD. But it gets sooo much better (I didn't believe people about that at the beginning - I thought I was sentenced to a life of no sleep and crying babies.

Now they hardly ever cry - and if they do I (most of the time) know why.
Good luck - it's the best!

 

Oh and another thing that's great. I'll be playing w/ one - say the other's still sleeping - and then all of the sudden the other one wakes up and I get excited every time - it's another whole person w/ their own personality!!!! It's great!

Oh and another thing that's great. I'll be playing w/ one - say the other's still sleeping - and then all of the sudden the other one wakes up and I get excited every time - it's another whole person w/ their own personality!!!! It's great!

 

One of my favorite times comes because of a challenging issue. Both my girls have reflux. They have the most trouble after their early morning feed (5:30 or so) because their meds are wearing off. So a lot of times they need to be held and cuddled because they don't feel well and to keep them more upright. We will sit in the recliner with them leaning up against my chest. They stop making their grunting/discomfort noises and we all take a nap in the recliner together. My DH has often volunteered to do the holding so that I can go back to bed and get some "real" sleep, but I really enjoy the cuddle time and I do get some sleep in the chair, so I just keep doing it. I sure wish we didn't have to deal with the reflux, but it has given the three of us a special time that I will always remember, even if they don't.

 

I'm going to take it a step further and say that I think I'm a better mother to twins than I would be to a singleton, because I don't have time to obsess over little details that don't really matter anyway in the long run. I have learned to "go with the flow" and this is good for babies as well as parents!

Having almost made it through 1 year with twins now, I feel more confident than I ever have. I feel like if I did this, I can do anything! And boy do I appreciate even more the rare times when we get to go on a date.

The other cool thing about twins is that sharing (toys, me, you name it) is second-nature to them since they've done it from day 1. They are always having to wait for each other (to get a dipe changed, to get dressed, to get fed, you name it) and, fingers crossed, I feel like they will be well-adjusted kids as a result.

This morning I was unloading the dishwasher and it got kinda quiet so I went and peeked around the corner and there they were playing peek-a-boo with each other behind one of their toys. It was so sweet!

You'll do great!!!

 

You probably read one of my posts and got scared...sorry! Seriously-it has been great these past few weeks and I am truely happy and cant wait to get home from work to see my little babies...I love them so much! (about a month and a half ago I couldnt wait to go to work )
When they were just about a week old I could hear all this sucking when they were in their PNP and I looked and my dd was sucking like mad on my ds face, and he was just laying their looking around-it was so cute and funny!
Now they both get so excited when they notice each other, they start smiling and laughing and kicking their legs.
I love being able to kiss all those big chubby cheaks..and we are lucky enough to have two baby cheaks to kiss!
Mine are only 3mo so I dont have too much experience with twins, but right now it is heaven!
Good luck to you and please dont worry...if all else fails just post your problems/feelings on here EVERYONE is GREAT!

 

I agree with pp that said "better mother with twins than with a singleton". I think we are only given what we can handle and everyday I remind myself that I CAN handle this and I CAN excell at it! There is no greater joy than seeing not one, but two happy babies running around your house.

I love having twins because:

DH and I can each have one and we don't have to fight over who gets to play with/hold/ soothe the baby!
Now that they are older, 10 months, everything is delightful - like pp said, I even look forward to them waking up from their naps!
They play play play together which means I do not have to resort to baby einstien to get a little time to do the dishes or jump on this forum!
They wrestle, which is HYSTERICAL

I am not going to lie, the beginning was a nightmare and nothing like I thought it would be. Now; however, is heaven and I am sooo thankful everyday for the life that I have and the blessings that my babies are.

It is possible to do things with twin infants --- you can still go out to dinner, go to the park, take walks, etc... you just have to bring double the stuff!!!

Congrats on your twins and don't expect too much from the first couple of months, but do know that things get much much much more bearable, AND FUN!

Amy

 

QUOTE(JenniferTwinMomMinneapolis @ Apr 16 2008, 10:02 AM) [snapback]724175[/snapback]
I'm going to take it a step further and say that I think I'm a better mother to twins than I would be to a singleton, because I don't have time to obsess over little details that don't really matter anyway in the long run. I have learned to "go with the flow" and this is good for babies as well as parents!


I agree totally. I'm very Type A, and having twins has forced me to be more laid back about the things that don't matter.

I feel very lucky to have twins. They have this special relationship, and I get to be a part of it. Plus, I get TWO babies - seriously, how lucky are we?

Special moments - DD has always wriggled around to be close to DS in the crib or PNP. DH says they are like magnets. If they can sense each other, they come together! We will find DD upside down in her crib because she has wriggled to find DS. It's adorable, and I can't wait to see them interact throughout their lives. I won't lie - it's really hard - but it is so very much worth the effort.

Congrats!

 

QUOTE(Lesley Anne @ Apr 16 2008, 10:15 AM) [snapback]724190[/snapback]
When they were just about a week old I could hear all this sucking when they were in their PNP and I looked and my dd was sucking like mad on my ds face, and he was just laying their looking around-it was so cute and funny!


We have a picture of DS sucking on DD's head. It was hilarious!

 

the first few months ARE hard, but they go by FAST, and it's such a SHORT TIME compared to all the time you'll have watching them grow and explore and learn... it's so worth it!
things to look forward to...

-they hold hands whenever they're lying next to each other
-they talk to each other and smile and laugh
-they reach out for each other if they're both being held by someone and close by
-if one is crying, the other will pat her head to try to comfort her
-if one is crying and something is wrong (not just crying for attention), the other will cry... a good way to know that something is wrong lol
-when i have them both on our bed, when i lean over them they both grab my face and want to give kisses

you will love it! and congratulations!

 

Congrats to you! I must say being pregnant with two was so much fun, you get to feel not one kicking but two and trust me it is such a cool feeling.

I haven't read the other posts so I may just be repeating what they said, but I thought having two would be non stop stress and breakdowns. It is tough to get adjusted to, especially someone coming from not having any kids to having two. the first month is the toughest mainly because of the lack of sleep you get, so what was always told me to me I will tell you - get as much sleep as you can now

good things:
you never get bored because you have two different personalities to entertain you

You get two little smily faces staring at you

When they interact it's so freaking cute you just want to cry

you will get twice the attention from people

You get discounts from alot of places

You have full on bragging rights over those who only had one baby

 

:hug99: It's completely normal to be nervous, and the first few months will be hard, BUT I cannot imagine my life any other way and I would feel so cheated had I only had just one baby. There are SO many joys, every day there's something new I love about having twins, but here are some I can think of right now:

- looking down at 2 big grins
- two sweet little giggles
- 20 toes to tickle and kiss
- having an armful of babies
- looking in at two sweet sleeping babies
- the endless hours of entertainment of watching two babies interact (eating each other, holding hands, "wrestling," sharing toys, babbling and smiling at each other)
- watching two unique personalities emerge, it's amazing how different two babies can be!
- being the envy of strangers and having people stop you to marvel over your beautiful twins
- knowing that as they grow they will always have each other and share such a special and unique relationship

:wub: :wub: :wub: I LOVE having twins and wouldn't want it any other way. Even in the midst of all the challenges, every day I feel incredibly blessed and lucky!

 

I was where you were a few short weeks ago... i can say 100% it is worth it. I fell instantly in love with them and every time I look at them they fill my heart with happiness and smiles. They are awesome. Yes there are down sides but that goes with everything. Forget the horror stories... they are just the motions of the game... you will do just fine and the forum is here when you need us!

 

My twins are two and have started really talking well lately. The greatest has come in the past few weeks - they now call each other "buddy". Buddy, come here. Buddy, play ball. I love you, buddy. Precious.

 

when you go into the room to get them the look of pure happiness and love that you can see coming from their eyes and when you pick them up you immediately get a nice big hug then a nice big raspberry

hearing them laugh at each other or just laughing in general.

seeing them learn from each other. my DD learned how to put her foot in her mouth by watching my DS doing it.

when they are eating and reach out their hand to touch the other.

when one goes to give the other a kiss or a gentle caress on the head or cheek.

when the other laughs as the other spits their food out because they don't like it.

oh there are so many to write down. yes it is hard work and there is always going to be something that will be going on but the rewards are so many and when they give you a smile or hug it just melts my heart. I love being a mommy of twins and i would love it even more if i never heard stupid remarke from people but that is on another post lol. you are going to love it and find you own heartstopping stories to tell. congrats on the pregnancy.

 

[SIZE=10pt]Okay ladies ~ you have all brought me to tears this morning

I'll have to come back later and post my 'joys'...right now I'm going to go hug both of my lil munchkins

April [/SIZE]

 

Elliot is very affectionate, Clarissa is not (and will push me away when I try to kiss her . . . DH says she got that from me!)

The other night they were sitting on the couch together with a blanket over both of their laps. Elliot turned to Clarissa and said "Can I give you a hug?" and she said yes, so he hugged her. Then he asked "Can I give you a kiss?", and again she said yes, so he gave her a kiss. It was one of the cutest things I've ever witnessed.

-Rachel

 

QUOTE(RachelJoy @ Apr 16 2008, 10:28 AM) [snapback]724552[/snapback]
Elliot is very affectionate, Clarissa is not (and will push me away when I try to kiss her . . . DH says she got that from me!)

The other night they were sitting on the couch together with a blanket over both of their laps. Elliot turned to Clarissa and said "Can I give you a hug?" and she said yes, so he hugged her. Then he asked "Can I give you a kiss?", and again she said yes, so he gave her a kiss. It was one of the cutest things I've ever witnessed.

-Rachel


OMG that is the sweetest thing!! I hope mine get along like yours

 

First of all, congrats on your twins!!!!

I am sorry you got scared from all the posts but I am so glad you started this one.

For years I prayed for just one baby but I got double lucky and got two!

I wouldn't trade it for the world. The beginning was very hard and even though you will remember it, as time goes on you will just learn to savor every minute.

I love when Arjun looks at Indira and she smiles, he laughs hysterically.

I love that they learn things from each other.

I love that they will always have each other.

I love that I can play games with one and all different games with another (they are so alike but so different type of thing)

I love that I have twice the amount of kisses, hugs and love

I love that my DH and I can each have one and then switch so everyone has even time

 

Congrats on your Twins! Get ready for the ride of your life!! There are alot of ups.....and alot of downs, but I would not trade any of it in for the world! The best thing for me about having twins are:

Watching them smile and coo at each other.

Holding hands when having play time on the floor.

Laying in my arms and talking(cooing) to me. They do this alot at night, part of their fighting sleep! LOL

The smiles I get when I enter their room.

Knowing that momma can turn the tears into smiles.

Overall being a twins mom is the best cause I know I am gonna get twice as many hugs and kisses!

Good luck to you and your twins. You will be a great momma! :good:

 

Seeing all your replies definetly put a smile and some happy tears on my face and look fwd to having them

 

Everything I feel has been said already. It truly is the best time of your life. 2 babies...what a miracle. Enjoy every moment!

Lisa

 

Today my joy came when I was sitting on the sofa with a baby in each arm. They were both full and happy They were making little noises at each other and keeping wonderful eye contact. I love watching them look at each other. I look so forward to watching their relationship with each other grow.

Dianna