Jealous @ 9m

Ok, I have two jealousy issues w/ my boys… I did not think they could have this issue so young (as I only had a singleton before)

1ST and not as big of a deal as I know they will “work it out” and I expected this, just not so young… Nathan wants whatever toy Seth has… Nate could have the coveted light up toy and Seth reaches for the lame rubber monkey to chew on and snag Nate takes it… I don’t get involved w/ that and Seth doesn’t care… occasionally if I’ve seen a lot in a day I will then put the light up toy Nate was playing w/ in front of Seth… but thats about it w/ that issue.

BUT the 2nd one that is kind of a bugger… I have a large area padded and “super yarded” in… it is large (two supper yards put together) and they have room to crawl and such… sometime I just sit in a corner and read… well they play happy at the other end… BUT if Nathan get close to me… Seth freaks out and crawls faster than you would think is possible for a 9m old to do just to get in my lap… fiending for my lap… but if Nathan is no were near me (or my lap) he has NO interest in my lap… the problem lies when Nate is feeling needy… Seth is just not interested in letting his brother in his moms lap… of course I let Seth “deal w/ it” and hold both… but I don’t get it… any insight… will this pass?


Thank You,
Elizabeth

 

Oh, this is sooo true at 9 months! Evan is definitely starting to want to come to me over anyone else. He just turned 9 months yesterday. He isn't crawling though. It will pass! Just talk to them and tell them what is going on. Do what you can. :hug:

 

Interesting… I didn’t see any “toy stealing” or things like this w/ older ds until after he was one… but I also didn’t join mom groups or Gymboree until he was closer to one as well…

Thanks… it so interesting to me… I just thought they are too young… just like the other night Seth obvious had a BAD dream… more like a night terror (like sleep walking)… and I only pulled him out of his crib to rock him so his screams didn’t wake his brother… but it was so bad older DS came in wanting to know what was wrong, should we call a hospital… after he “woke” and went back to sleep I couldn’t go back to sleep because I kept saying, what could scare him? He doesn’t know fear… he’s never fallen or gotten hurt… I was lucky and haven’t had to do cio ever… but DH assured me he knows a form of fear… hes not to young…

 

hugs Elizabeth :hug:

about the toys... yes, I see it in my girls too and I hope it passes (quickly!) because it does make you sad (as a mom) to see one always sort of getting the short end of the stick - kwim...

regarding the lap issue - gee, not sure what else you can do that you're not already implementing (like holding both)... what if you have older ds or nanny bring Nathan to you (in the other room - where Seth can't see) and have some undivided attention that way...
I'll keep thining on this one for you....

 

:lol: i had to laugh at the toy story im living that daily too! Charlotte is my aggressive one and she steals any and ALL toys that Eve has even a crummy one :lol: she will also try to get me to stand with her if im with Eve its def a sibling rivalry already!

 

I have both those issues going on here too. They say mamamama all day long and both will cling to me. They do not like it if I'm holding the other baby even if I'm holding them both at the same time. I think it is pretty normal....but no fun

 

no help here but mine are doing it too. halle is the toy stealer. tonight she was surrounded by toys (including blocks). sean had one block he was chewing on and she reached over and took it. he just gives in and finds something else to play with, occasionally he'll hold tight. its cute now, but i doubt it will be when he gets sick of her taking everything and bops her on the head lol.
the other thing, mine arent crawling yet but if theyre in the exersaucer and jumperoo and i pick one up the other who was content playing flips out. same thing if i walk by one with the other in my arms. lets hope it passes!!