It's Getting To Me

My girls are chunky little monkeys, I think it's cute, I love all there little rolls, and they are so cuddly too! P & I are not big AT ALL, he's tall and average to skinny, and I am short and average, so really they are just chunky babies, I mean isn't it called BABY fat for a reason? Well I'm starting to get all the comments about them even more now, and I dont mind the wow they are big or things like that, but some just seem rude. One lady asked if there dad was fat, since I wasn't?? That was VERY rude imo. Then here's the topper, P's sister told him that him and I are wrong and our girls are overweight, and that we are doing something wrong. First of all, you rarely hear of 10 month olds being overweight, and for a family member to say this, just seems rude and inconsiderate, especially one who's family called her butterball when she was a baby cause she was really short and heavy, so she looked like a butterball turkey I guess. P told her off, and then she asked him for my number cause she misses them and wants to see them. Well Ill be damned if I'm going to let my daughters around ANYONE who says they are overweight, and she is a freakin NURSE, shouldn't she know better? She thinks she knows everything, but I think I will listen to there pedi instead of her, and he isn't worried at all, he always tells me they are perfect. Oh and at 9 months they were 26 lbs 29 inches and 27.4 lbs 31 inches. Any advice for these rude comments? Especially from family, Im really not sure what to say without being very rude, I mean his sister is NO spring chicken, so where she gets off calling my BABIES overweight is beyond me, although I really don't want to say anything like that to her, since I am trying to get along with his family lol. Do you all think my babies are "fat"? I mean I know they are heavy, but they are long too, I just don't know.

 

You won't be able to get rid of the comments, people are just rude. Ignore and go on.

My nephew is HUGE, but because she feeds him constantly. He is 1.5 and weighs over 40 lbs. He literally looks like a walking marshmallow man. He eats junk food all the time! Have you ever watched Maury when they have the big babies on there? If they don't quit with feeding him bad things, he will soon be that big. It is sad... he breathes heavy and everything.

 

I have no idea what weight a baby "should" or "shouldn't" be, but I have to say, I just LOVE chubby babies! My Brothers in law were huge, and now they are both over 6ft tall, muscle bound and in great shape! I would NOT worry about it unless your pedi says to worry. Give me a break! I'm sure they're fine!

 

Oh, for crying out loud ... some babies are just big chunky babies and that's all there is to it. I'm wondering if mine will be that way, I'm average but their daddy is 6'6" , they are almost 4 months and creeping towards the 16 pound mark or more ... my old boss has a boy who was 24 pounds at 9 months, he's just a big kid!!! Perfectly happy and healthy in every other way.

Tell people they will be the first female linebackers in the NFL and make millions. Or ask people, "Yeah, it's called baby fat, what's your excuse?" :lol:

Ignore everyone and if your babies are healthy, that's just the way they were meant to be. And I wouldn't want her around my kiddos either if she's going to be negative and rude, and I'd tell her so. Some people honestly think they are trying to be helpful and don't really realize they are being condescending, rude, or ignorant.

 

I LOOOOOOOVE chunky monkeys! I am so sorry people are being so rude. FWIW, my brother looked like the Michelin Man when he was a baby/toddler...and he's now 6ft3 and 160 lbs. Total turn around.

I can understand being concerned (realistically and compassionately)about their health if they stay fluffy over the years, but at their age? So not an issue.

 

First of all if your pedi is not concerned then you have nothing to worry about. Secondly, I know the right thing is to turn the other cheek but, sometimes peoples rudeness drives me to distraction. As long you and your husband know they are happy and healthy wee ones do not stress.

 

Sometimes people make comments like that just to have something to say, and don't realize how rude they sound when they are saying them.

We have the exact opposite problem - our babies are tiny little things and I get comments from our families all the time about not feeding them enough, or breastmilk must not agree with them.

My family knows my personality, so when I confront them on it they know I won't hold a grudge, but also know what the limits are. DH's family is another story - they aren't my biggest fans by any stretch of the imagination so I let alot more slide than I would, just to keep the peace for DH's sake. You're the best judge for your relationship with them, if it won't start a feud (or if you don't care that it does ) you could mention it, otherwise I'd just ignore it.

I also LOVE chubby babies - all the little rolls are dimples crack me up! I'm sure there are some kids (not necesssarily babies) who are genuiely overfed and fed crap - which can obviously have health implications later in life and teach them some nasty eating habits - but I don't think that's a concern with 10 month old babies, IMO.

 

I love little chunky monkeys! I remember the pics of your girls....so cute!! :wub:

 

I love chubby babies, too! Zoe kind of buttered up for awhile, and I got a couple comments......but I asked on a checkup & I was told "There's no such thing as a too fat baby". As long as they're not getting fed junk food or sugar, I wouldn't worry at all!!! You just kiss those girls & tell them how beautiful they are! Babies need that fat, anyway, for their extremely fast growing. You'd think a nurse would know that.

 

All that chub is going to come in handy when they hit their growth spurts and start burning all those calories when they are walking. My 2 older somewhat chunky babies turned into string bean poles as soon as they started walking.

Don't let them get you down, that chub is there for a reason.

 

My girls are chunkies too. At first, I was really concerned, but the dr kept telling me that they were fine. Lauren is off the chart and Mattie is hanging on at 97%. But they were also 95 &97% for length too! Sounds like yours are kind of long. At about 7.5 months they weighed 21lbs, & still take no more that 6oz of milk a day.

I know it hurts, but try to not let those people bother you.

 

People are just crass :angry: Ignore them and enjoy your beautiful little ones.

xox
Mariel

 

All but one of my children have been nice, solid babies. And I heard every comment people could possibly come up with about my babies all being so big. All those they sure don't miss a meal, what are you feeding them, look at those pudgybabies comments, and yes, they do tend to annoy at some point. I just responded with I love every ounce of my sweet squishy baby. The problem I have now is the only one of my babies not to be solid is one of my twins. And so now I hear all about the one hogging all the food (and the other one is certainly not small, just smaller). So, I'm sorry people are so rude.

 

I can't understand why people feel the need to make comments like that, especially family! I would tell her "thanks!!!" with a big smile on my face and walk away, let her think about it.

 

I just posted the other day, because we went to their 6 month well baby and they were both over 19 lbs. The doctor said they were perfect. They are little chunk monkeys and I love it. When people comment, I just say they are healthy (the most important thing) and like to eat. And they are eating what they are supposed to. My husband is over 6' and I am 5'3" and on the smaller side (more so before I had babies), so everyone wonders where they get it from. I wonder how those "well meaning" people would like it if we commented on their weight or appearance! I wish sometimes I was quick enough to think of comments to come back at some of those people with. But sleep deprivation has really slowed my ability to think that quickly. Sometimes it is best to ignore comments and move on. Just enjoy your babies!

 

People will always comment on babies because what you don't realize they know better than you and your doctor. I mean everyone else's babies are too skinny, too fat, too delayed, too advanced and their kids are just perfect! I mean their babies slept through the night since they were in utero, they potty trained at three weeks old and they never had temper tantrums. I really don't understand people some days but in this short time with twins, I've gotten a thicker skin. I would suggest the same to you because it seems no matter what status your babies have chunky monkeys or skinny minnie, someone will have a comment.

 

People can be so out of line sometimes! As long as your ped isn't concerned, I definately wouldn't be! We had some similar comments from people. Our neighbors son is 2 months older than our girls and his weight is about the same. She asked us what our doctor told us about our girls' weight because they were "so big"!! I told her that he told us they were perfect!