Is this the "terrible twos"

My DS has always been impatient and easily frustrated, but lately, it seems to have spiraled out of control. If he doesn't get his way, or if i take something away from him he shouldn't have, or tell him he can't do something, he goes berserk! He throws himself on the floor, or if he is in my arms, flings himself backwards. and he cries like someone is hurting him. It lasts anywhere from a minutes to 15 or so, depending on why he is mad. There are days when i lose count of how many times it happens. I swear on Saturday it was up to about 30.
He is also seems to get obesessed with things. He has been this way with cars, trains, for a while. If he can't have it, like in a store or display, he throws the tantrum. And lately, he has been crazy with light switches too. He wants to turn all the switches on and off all the time. If i tell him "no" i get another tantrum. I try to limit that to "okay, just once" and sometimes it works, sometimes not. Oh, and he always has to have what anyone else has or is playing with. Or again, a tantrum.
Anyone else have this problem? His sister is sooo not like this!
Ugh! Tell me its a phase!

-Candi

 

I would say definitely a phase. My oldest was like that when he was 2 and 3, and he was very obsessed with things. Now as a 6 year old, I have noticed that he still has that obsessive trait (which can either work in his favor or not ) but the tantrums are over and the complete fits are over too.

If this is any consolation, his obsession helped me get him PTed in three days with no accidents! Bribes of trains worked well! :good:

:hug: :hug:

 

definitly the age, as I have two of them <_<

 

My son is a lot like that but his tantrums don't last that long. He is obsessed with turning the lights on and off and it drives me crazy. My son is into throwing things, knocking things over for no reason, and when he really gets worked up (either happy or mad) he likes to bite especially his one sister and dh. You are definitetly not alone and then my niece who is two weeks younger than him is the complete opposite as him and is very calm and quiet.

 

I can relate. My son doesnt throw tantrums for that long, but he will fall out on the floor, and cry/whine, or possibly scream. It is not as often/bad as you say your DS is, but I definitely think it is a phase, and age appropriate.
DD is the one who wants what everyone else has, and will cry/throw a fit if she cant have it/ take it away from them.

I hope it gets better soon.

 

We go through the same thing with the constant fits of rage, whining over any time he doesn't get his way. I try to ignore it as much as possible. When it gets too loud or I just can't take it anymore, he has to sit by himself until he is under control. Then he comes and gives me a hug and we play together.

I have tried to prevent the outbursts from happening, especially over the trains, by letting them pick their trains/cars/trucks that they are going to play with. They get those, no questions asked until they are put away again. That way they have some sort of possession (which seems to be really important right now). If one wants what the other has, then they have to trade and both agree. If they both don't agree, then there is no trade. I am a constant referee, but it seems to be working for the most part. The important thing that I have found is to be consistant.

I know that we are going to have a lapse in the rules during the holiday with all of the people in and out of the house and not everyone knowing all the rules, but come the new year, I will have to get strict again!!

 

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My DS has always been impatient and easily frustrated, but lately, it seems to have spiraled out of control. If he doesn't get his way, or if i take something away from him he shouldn't have, or tell him he can't do something, he goes berserk! He throws himself on the floor, or if he is in my arms, flings himself backwards. and he cries like someone is hurting him. It lasts anywhere from a minutes to 15 or so, depending on why he is mad. There are days when i lose count of how many times it happens. I swear on Saturday it was up to about 30.
He is also seems to get obesessed with things. He has been this way with cars, trains, for a while. If he can't have it, like in a store or display, he throws the tantrum. And lately, he has been crazy with light switches too. He wants to turn all the switches on and off all the time. If i tell him "no" i get another tantrum. I try to limit that to "okay, just once" and sometimes it works, sometimes not. Oh, and he always has to have what anyone else has or is playing with. Or again, a tantrum.
Anyone else have this problem? His sister is sooo not like this!
Ugh! Tell me its a phase!

-Candi


its a phase - you've just described my son to a T!