Is this the beginning?

Hi Ladies,
So, yesterday I got 2 letters from my daughters' preschool. My oldest is in PreK4 & my babies are going 2 days a week. My odd got a note from her teacher, but the babies got a combo letter: Dear Claire & Susie. I am annoyed! I know that I'm blowing it out of proportion, but I feel like this is the beginning of my fight for their individuality. Am I taking it too far? I probably won't say anything to the teacher. My dh says that it's not the letter itself, but what the future holds! Ugh.
Thanks for letting me vent. I appreciate any perspectives from moms who have been there (and moms who have thought about it).

 

:hug99: Yes, I think it will always be somewhat of a struggle. Some people just lump them together, and don't even seem want to see them as seperate individuals. I have experienced people who deal with them weekly (Sunday School) who don't even try to tell them apart (they don't look alike and can easily be told apart) but just say "one of the twins" all the time. It's frustrating, but then I guess it is our job anyway to be the ones to mold them into their own person. It's just crummy when some people who are important to them don't seem to try to see or care that they are still individuals.

 

I don't know if I would have even noticed. When we got stuff from the preschool, it was addressed to Ben and Hannah, but it was not an individual note from the teacher. I was just a typed letter, sent to everyone in the class.

I could understand if they were able to read and understand (say kinder, first, second grade), but at two, it would not bother me.

BUT, do you remember that one post in PC back in the spring about the twins getting ONE completion certificate? THAT would have bothered me.

 

The flip side is that I can get two copies of everything. It accumulates quite quickly.

 

I hear what you're saying. I actually try to dissuade my family from calling Evan and James "the twins" - I don't like them just being lumped together with one name. BUT...although I've always tried to make sure my boys are individuals first, twins second, they are actually really close and like being together all the time. I can't even give one a sippy cup without him holding out a hand for another cup for his brother. This closeness developed naturally over time, from about age 1, and I'm excited to see where their relationship goes over time.

 

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The flip side is that I can get two copies of everything. It accumulates quite quickly.

Ditto. But actually, our daycare is pretty good at figuring out what I need two copies of and what I don't. And I appreciate that more than anything! We get two copies of things the girls are going to care about (class snapshots that the teachers print out themselves, certificates, etc.) but only one copy of most parent notices, etc. The other parents have also been really good about giving each child a birthday party invitation or thank-you note.