is this normal?

i know that right after giving birth our hormones are all out of whack. and i've been crying about EVERYTHING! the only time i'm really content is when i'm holding my babies (or sleeping haha). i'm getting better each day, tho, so i'm not too worried about it.
what's weird is that, i really miss the babies being in my belly. i'm so glad they're here, and can't stop loving on them, but at the same time, i miss so much having them wiggle around in my belly. is this normal? has anyone else felt this way?

 

Yes, very normal. I felt hollow. And had a big case of the baby blues. The littlest things would set me off into tears. After about a month it went away (around the same time I stopped breastfeeding; no connection, that is just how I remember when it ended).

 

I cried alot. I think the sleep deprivation is definitely a killer!! I did go see my OB about it though. So if you have any doubts go see them. That is what they are there for after you give birth!!

 

Danielle, I think crying about everything (might be an exaggeration?) is a bit much. Be sure to remain open to the idea that you can have the baby blues or even PPD and be willing to talk to your OB the very next time you go in!!! :hug99:

 

I felt the same way. You are definitely not alone. Like Becky said, just keep an eye on the emotions to make sure it's not more than the baby blues. :hug99:

I can't relate to missing them in the belly. I had all-day sickness throughout my entire pregnancy and could not wait to bring them into this world.

 

I still miss my pregnancy - I am so in love with these babies but somedays I wish I could feel that one more kick.

 

Hormones are definitely driving the bus here! Personally, I didn't miss pregnancy one bit, because I felt like dog doo almost the entire time, and I was so worried sick about the problems DS was having in utero that it was a huge relief to see him thriving out in the world. But I know lots and lots of women really miss having the babies in their belly.

Agree with pps - keep an eye on it, and if you are concerned about PPD, talk to a doctor. I had PPD myself, and the earlier you get treatment, the faster you recover. Some things to watch for:

-not taking any pleasure in things you used to enjoy
-feeling flat and empty
-feeling disconnected from the babies and other loved ones
-anxiety (more anxiety than you'd expect as a new mom of twins, that is)
-hopelessness, negative thinking (when you think of a problem, it seems like the worst thing in the world and there's no solution)

Hope it's just a passing case of the baby blues, and that you feel like yourself again soon! :hug99:

 

aww, I got teary eyed reading this. I miss my babies in my belly too. That is such a wonderful feeling. I was HUGE and uncomfortable...16 pounds of just baby (6.14 and 8.13) but I loved every time I felt them move. I feel sad thinking that they were my last babies. Ur totally normal in my book :hug99:

 

I think it's totally normal. At least you recognize it. I had no idea how emothional/depressed I was during that first week or so until my boys were almost 3 months! And as far as missing themin your belly, very normal. In fact, when I'm trying to make mine go down for a nap I wish they were still in my belly. Never had to rock/pacify them in there !

 

I felt the same way during the first two weeks after I gave birth. I cried, but I think mostly because I was so tired and recovering from my C-section. I still have some teary moments, but I feel so much better. The first week is so hard because of the sleep and also being a first time mom for me all of the diaper changes and feedings and getting up in the middle of the night with two babies was overwhelming. I hope that you have help. My mom is still here and my babies are almost a month old, I don't know how I could do it without her. When she leaves next week, my husband's sisters are coming to stay with us to give help through the second month. I think all of the help has allowed me to enjoy my babies so much more.

I miss being pregnant too. My husband said that he misses me being pregnant too. We got so used to going to the doctor every week and the hospital for our non-stress tests that we missed the routine of doing all those pregnant things and spending that time together. My pregnancy was very uneventful, and I was pretty much able to carry on with my normal day to day things until our scheduled c-section at 37 weeks 5 days.

Give it a little time and if you are still feeling bad talk to the doctor. Hope you get to feeling better soon!

 

Totally normal... I still cry over nothing.. Its better than it was a week after the birth tough!

 

I can totally relate..... These first few weeks have been a complete emotional roller coaster -- I cried several times/day the first two weeks, but this week has been better. I miss being pregnant, too. I loved having babies in my belly..... Hopefully, your emotions will begin to normalize in a few weeks, but for now, cut yourself some slack! No one warns you how incredibly tough the first few weeks (months?) are.....

 

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We got so used to going to the doctor every week and the hospital for our non-stress tests that we missed the routine of doing all those pregnant things and spending that time together. My pregnancy was very uneventful, and I was pretty much able to carry on with my normal day to day things until our scheduled c-section at 37 weeks 5 days.


that's the other thing! i got so used to going to the doctor twice a week, for nst's and bpp's, watching them in my belly, talking with the staff at the office... it's all changed now...

i mean, how stupid, but i actually miss being on the expecting forum... !

 

Sleep, sleep, sleep. That is what I needed so I could function. If you have someone to watch them between feeding for a day, take advantage of it. It is always hard but I found I could function if I got enough sleep. Find someone for just a day or two and it should really help.

 

Yes, what you are feeling is normal. I went through the same thing with my twins. Cried all day long every day about just about anything too. I was really sappy. I still miss my pregnancy as well--even though I was miserable during the end. It is such a bitter sweet thing--hang in there, you'll get through these days!

 

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that's the other thing! i got so used to going to the doctor twice a week, for nst's and bpp's, watching them in my belly, talking with the staff at the office... it's all changed now...


i miss my ob too! i just went back for my pap about a month ago and we sat chatting for about half an hour, we just have a great rapport and i missed talking to him every week...he even asked me for a recent pic of the babies, and quizzed me on his new billboard music collection

DH used to sing a made up song to the babies in my belly, and soon after the babies were born i mentioned that i was "empty" now (no babies) and he began singing the song but instead of the babies names, he sang to my kidney and liver!! we had such a great laugh, i never thought about it anymore but it think it's definitely normal to miss them inside you

take care

 

thanks, all, i feel a bit better knowing i'm not alone.