Is this how it goes?

Hi! I have been lurking here for a few months. I have ID twin girls who were born 3/23 so they are 7 weeks now. For the most part they are on the same schedule; we feed them at the same times, they sleep at the same time etc. But there is usually one girl who isn't hungry or needs to sleep a little longer. Usually we juggle things around to get them back on the same sched. Is this how is going to go to go from here on out?

 

Hi! Nice to see you out of hiding! h34r:

Yes, the first few months really are a juggling act. I tried to keep my boys as close to their routine as possible. I think I woke them both up for feedings until they were 3 months or so. (If one woke up, I woke the other to eat as well) After about 5 months the boys and I suddenly found a schedule of their own making and it was much easier to take care of them. You could literally set a clock to them!

 

its quite normal for them to be not as hungry or not as sleepy. they are identical twins but they ARNT identical in the way they act. their differences will come out alot more soon.

just do the best you can, your twins were born around the same time as my daughter tanya. congrats.

 

That's how it was for us for the first couple of months. When one woke up to eat, we always woke the other up. If she wasn't that hungry, we would just feed her what she wanted and went from there.

 

QUOTE(MichelleL @ May 12 2007, 06:09 AM) [snapback]252610[/snapback]
That's how it was for us for the first couple of months. When one woke up to eat, we always woke the other up. If she wasn't that hungry, we would just feed her what she wanted and went from there.

Same here.

:sign0016: to TS! Congrats on your babies!

 

we are at 7 months and i finally feel like a have a schedual!!!

 

Thanks everyone. I don't want to end up feeding a tired and not hungry baby just an ounce and then have to wake up an hour later to feed her more! So far that hasn't really happened.

Oh, and :wavey: hi everyone!

 

My twins are 8 wks today. They have similar schedules, but vary some depending on when they fall asleep for bedtime and naps. The first month, I really tried to get them to eat and sleep at the same time so I could have some down time. This past month they have fairly close schedulels, but sometimes one does fall asleep faster or sleeps longer so they end up not eating at the same time. I just try to go with the flow and try to catch up throughout the day. My bigger twin has also started sleeping longer at night so I no longer wake her if the smaller twin wakes during the night. It sometimes means I have to get up an hour after the other one goes back to sleep, but the smaller one is sleeping better too so I know they'll eventually be back together again. Last night they both slept 11-6! Anyway, I'm new to this also!

 

QUOTE(HT @ May 12 2007, 05:24 PM) [snapback]252911[/snapback]
My twins are 8 wks today. They have similar schedules, but vary some depending on when they fall asleep for bedtime and naps. The first month, I really tried to get them to eat and sleep at the same time so I could have some down time. This past month they have fairly close schedulels, but sometimes one does fall asleep faster or sleeps longer so they end up not eating at the same time. I just try to go with the flow and try to catch up throughout the day. My bigger twin has also started sleeping longer at night so I no longer wake her if the smaller twin wakes during the night. It sometimes means I have to get up an hour after the other one goes back to sleep, but the smaller one is sleeping better too so I know they'll eventually be back together again. Last night they both slept 11-6! Anyway, I'm new to this also!


Wow, 11-6 - color me envious!! Mine are starting to do 5-6 hr stretches, but not 7!

We also have twins who are just about 8 weeks old. I do the same thing, trying to keep them on the same schedule. It doesn't always work, sometimes one will not be as hungry or just won't wake up to eat, but for the most part, they are on the same page.

 

We tried keeping our twins on the same schedule but found that they are less fussy if we feed them when they are hungry and let them wake up on their own. Especially DD! DS will go with the flow a bit more. At some point during the night, they get back on the same schedule. I am finding that I enjoy just having to feed one at a time and getting some one-on-one time with that baby before I have to feed the other. DH on the other hand much prefers to do everything at the same time.

 

QUOTE(MichelleL @ May 12 2007, 10:09 AM) [snapback]252610[/snapback]
That's how it was for us for the first couple of months. When one woke up to eat, we always woke the other up. If she wasn't that hungry, we would just feed her what she wanted and went from there.


We did this for the first 3 months. We continued to keep them on the same day schedule; however, at night we let each baby wake on his/her own to feed. We began developing a more consistent schedule at around 4 months and it has continued to improve. I'm so thankful for a schedule today because I am able to plan my day around their feedings and naps.

Good luck! Having twins is by far the best thing that has ever happened to me . . . the hardest too!

 

QUOTE(Stephanie M @ May 13 2007, 12:52 AM) [snapback]253215[/snapback]
We did this for the first 3 months. We continued to keep them on the same day schedule; however, at night we let each baby wake on his/her own to feed. We began developing a more consistent schedule at around 4 months and it has continued to improve. I'm so thankful for a schedule today because I am able to plan my day around their feedings and naps.

Good luck! Having twins is by far the best thing that has ever happened to me . . . the hardest too!


Same here. Around 3-4 months I started letting them do their own thing during the days and sometimes one would be up longer & nurse more often though in general their schedules were the same and we always got them back on synch at night. Then around 5 months we started experimenting with letting one sleep when the other woke up at night. This sometimes worked & other times we seriously regretted it. Finally about 5 weeks ago it has worked very well and now they either never or very rarely wake up at night. Days they are on synch within about 30 min of each other with naps and I keep it that way. The feeding is regular now too.

So... it will change. But keeping on a schedule is truly worth while although it is nice to allow for some fluctuations once you have things mostly under control. It helped me get to know them better one-on-one when one was up and the other napped (during the day).