My twins are almost two months old. I have found out that when I am in the middle of something and I cannot go to pick them up immediately that after about 5 or so minutes of crying, they often settle back to sleep. My ds in particular howls for that 5 minutes but then drops off. I did not mean to let him CIO but it has just happened on a couple of occasions that I cannot get away from what I am doing. I know they are only 2 months old and you are not supposed to let them CIO at this early stage but that was not my intention, it just happens sometimes. Should I actually now keep this going since it does seem to work or will he become insecure as some experts say? Thanks for any advice/reassurance.
Sometimes you have to do that. I do at least. If I'm available, I attend to them. If not, I get there when I can. If they settle down before I get there, great.
I'm not a big fan of CIO, but I do think that learning how to self-soothe and put themselves to sleep is a good thing. It certainly helps in the long run, when you're ready for them to sleep through the night or get on a regular schedule. At this age, crying for a few minutes while you're tied up is not a big deal at all. If they really need something, they will definitely let you know.
I agree, sometimes they just half wake and fuss, if they can go back to sleep great. I had to let DD cry at that age to put herself to sleep, she would not in my arms. I think all kids are different and if it works that is great.
I don't think 5 minutes really counts as CIO - so I'd say this just fine. And it's good that he goes back to sleep.
QUOTE(SeattleLisa @ May 15 2008, 12:35 PM) [snapback]774980[/snapback] I don't think 5 minutes really counts as CIO - so I'd say this just fine. And it's good that he goes back to sleep. This is what I was going to say. There were multiple times when mine were that age where I'd be tied up with one and not able to get to the other right away. CIO is more of an intentional, leaving them to settle on their own for a LONG length of time when you do have the option of getting to them, IMO. I think you're doing just fine. Actually, if your DS is settling down after only 5 min., you're doing great! Mine would cry until I could get to them.
Hi there, First off, you are in the first 2 months of life with twins so you do what you need to do to make it through with some minor sembalnce of sanity! Crying for 5 minutes is really not what I would call CIO. I am not a fan of cry it out either, but I will say that that does not mean that I run to them the second they cry either. In fact, if you want a classification on my parenting style many would say that I am a hippie mommy with attachment parenting tendancies, I still feel that crying for 5 minutes is fine! Even at 2 months crying for that short time occassionally is fine. Give yourself a break and realize that you have TWO babies and not 1 and that makes a huge difference in what you are able to do and how fast you can respond to them. Congratulations on your babies and on making it to 2 months! :love0028:
