Is there anything I can do?

Over the past couple weeks I have just been getting madder and madder. I don't know why and I hate it but I find myself getting so upset over the smallest and stupidest things. It doesn't matter who or what even. I get mad at my 2 year old DS, DH, the neighbors, the random person walking down the street, my dog, the couch, even the trash because it smells. I don't know what to do. The doctor says o your uncomfortable it's just going to get worse get used to it. So they are no help. But I catch myself yelling at my son all day and then halfway through it I just wish I could send him away.

Am I the only one who feels like this? I know others are uncomfortable and stuff but any of you just so angry you want to scream all day? I'm not scared about the babies coming or stressed to get stuff done. The only stress that I have from the pregnancy is my family and my in laws always on me about am I ok, is everything going ok and stuff like that.

One more thing, the farther along I get the less I am wanting to share the babies. When my son was first born everyone else wanted to hold him. With my in laws it was he is our first grandchild and we are leaving in a few days so let us hold him as much as we want. With my mom it was I'm leaving in a couple days you can hold and take care him then. I finaly told them well he is my first child and I just had him I would like time too. Do I not deserve that after carrying him for 9 months? Why do I have to wait to get to take care of him til he is 2 weeks old? And they have started acting like it is going to be that way this time. My mom says she can take care of them the first two weeks and my MIL says she can come take them for a week. Now I don't want help I want to take care of my own babies. Has anyone managed to do it with little to no help? DH will be here at night but works during the day.

My mom took over so much with my sister's kids that they called her mama first and always wanted her over their real mom. So I'm always afraid she going to try to do that with my kids. She goes by O'ma so that her name is as close to mama as possible. I even caught her telling someone my neice was her daughter one time when she was younger.

Sorry this is so long. Any advice on anything that I put is greatly appreciated. Thank you

 

Thank you! thank you!Thank you! for posting this. I thought for a minute that I was kinda losing it. You are not the only one who is experiencing this. I know that everyones intentions are on the good side ( I think) but it sometimes feels overwhelming. And I don't like to feel overwhelmed for example:"Over the past couple weeks I have just been getting madder and madder." Well the way that I feel is annoyed. The smallest things annoy me and maybe that is because I am doing everything that I know how to remain comfortable cause the belly is getting bigger and there are times I feel out of breath..also trying to balance this pregnancy mentally. We have to ward off so many negative feedbacks and comments that we have to be a keeper of our mind to savour our peace."One more thing, the farther along I get the less I am wanting to share the babies." I been prepairing for that day. That's why I don't accept any help or anything that I feel have strings attached. I actually cancelled a baby shower for that reason. The girl giving the shower wanted to christian my sons and I did not want that. Just last week I gave in and asked this lady in her late 40's (who has no kids) for a little help around the house and once that lady got in my home she immediately started calling my sons her grandbabies and telling me how I should eat and where I should not hang things and so on.And then she started calling a bit too much monitoring what I ate.One word (OVERWHELMING!!!) I had anxiety for 2 days trying to figure out how to push her away because I forgot to mention that she just made her own plans without my permission to be at my labor & delivery. Hell no!!!! The only people that I want at my labor and delivery are my husband and my mother.That is it! "the farther along I get the less I am wanting to share the babies." I will not share my babies this is my 1st pregnancy (and probably by choice be my last)and it also seems the further along you get you can see them piling like vultures. I want that moment to be sacred without ANY interferrences. And I don't want any visiters when I bring my babies home because I want to learn them 1st hand. I don't need a coach. That's what the pediatrician is there for. I want to mold my own children. So I ended up telling the lady that (in so many words trying not to hurt her feelings) that my mother was going to be there and I no longer needed her help...and she went on to say ohhh I'll still come by you all won't even notice that I am there. Now I am not answering any calls that I don't reconize.And I hope that she gets the picture and if not I will have to flat out tell her! So you are not alone...And Thank you for assuring me that I was not losing it. Good Luck on your end fending off the vultures (hate to put it that way).

 

I think its the extra testosterone from these lil boys we're cookin ladies. When i'm having boys i get mean and angry REALLY easy, but with my DD i simply cried and was emotional. I feel bad because i've snapped at my dd and actually made her cry. I try not to be pissy, but its hard when everything just makes you mad (i think donald duck describes me well)! I know the fact that i'm a redhead AND prego with boys probably doesnt help . Being totally uncomfortable i'll admit doesnt help the situation, especially those nights you cant get comfortable and dont get any sleep. I just keep telling myself that soon enough this evil part will be over and i can enjoy my boys.

As far as wanting to keep the babies totally to myself, i may be that a lil, but i dont think i have it so much with other kids running around my house. I look for the reprieve i'm going to get from my older kids so that i can focus on the twins a lil at first. I've gotten offers to help, but dont feel that anyone is trying to step into my spot and feel i'll welcome help where i can get it.

 

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I think its the extra testosterone from these lil boys we're cookin ladies. When i'm having boys i get mean and angry REALLY easy, but with my DD i simply cried and was emotional. I feel bad because i've snapped at my dd and actually made her cry. I try not to be pissy, but its hard when everything just makes you mad (i think donald duck describes me well)! I know the fact that i'm a redhead AND prego with boys probably doesnt help . Being totally uncomfortable i'll admit doesnt help the situation, especially those nights you cant get comfortable and dont get any sleep. I just keep telling myself that soon enough this evil part will be over and i can enjoy my boys.

As far as wanting to keep the babies totally to myself, i may be that a lil, but i dont think i have it so much with other kids running around my house. I look for the reprieve i'm going to get from my older kids so that i can focus on the twins a lil at first. I've gotten offers to help, but dont feel that anyone is trying to step into my spot and feel i'll welcome help where i can get it.
(I am not replying to you but trying to understand myself by posting ) I think the difference about you not minding help is that you may have experienced having your child to yourself with your other kids.(I don't know just kinda guessing) If i'm not mistaken the twins will be #4 and you have that experience where a person can not just come in and treat you like you don't know what you are doing you have already experienced this before.Although kids have different personalities you pretty much know what to expect and anyone coming in to offer help to you can not dictate or try to dictate to you how you should be or what should be with your babies...if anything you have that confidence from experienc to tell a person like that "no with my other kids it was like this or like that" (know what I mean?) From what I gather with Courtney she did not have that opportunity to learn her baby 1st hand because everyone else interferred, so with the twins she want that experience. And by this being my 1st and maybe last pregnancy I may never have the opportunity to experience this again. So I don't want help with my babies it's fortunate that my mother knows this and respects my take on this so she will in no way interfere even though she will be with me through the whole experience and my husband I am o.k to share this experience with him of course these are his children as well and both our 1st, so it will be bonding and really neat and picture perfect and I don't want anyone else in the picture.My mother knows that her purpose is for support and to cook and clean and run errands and if I'm exhausted and sleep to be my 3rd eye watching to make sure that I don't oversleep.And of course after I have nursed, bonded, learned my babies personalities and what they like what they don't like how they sleep when they wake and did my molding...then I will be ready to introduce them to the world.Comments will be o.k. because I will have developed that bond and experience to say..." yes they are like that" or " no they don't like that" or to know when it's naptime or bedtime or who they are comfortable with or who they don't take to. Wow! writing this out made me see a little clearer why I want to do this this way.And maybe it will help me to say this in a way (to people who offer help) that I am not ungrateful for their help but to let them know how important it is for me to experience this-because it will be an experience that I will never forget and a neat story to tell the boys and their wives and their children.

 

Hi, I raised my twinkies with very little help. I am a single mom and after the boys were born they were in the NICU and Austin came home before Gavin and my mom stayed with me for the first 3 nights so that I could go see Gavin during the day in the NICU and sleep a few hours in the evening so that I could get up every 3 hours and feed Austin. After the 3ed night she went home and I was flying solo! It was nice tho bc I needed quiet time and peace and quiet ( when they boys were sleeping of course!!!! lol) So I can see where you car getting upset and you just have to put your foot down and tell them that you need space and set up one or two days a week or everyother day and give people time slots....seriously this is what everyone told me when I was pregnant and you ahve to get control of your life. You ahve to take care of yourself so you don't get sick!!!! Also....I had bad post partum depression after I had them so if you feel like running people over and choking everyone that crosses you, ask your OB for something, I swear you will be a new person and it makes life wonderful!!! Good luck!


Oh yes....now when my mom comes over I wanna cry :headbang: ....She nit picks everylittle thing...tells me I need to feed them even if they jsut got done eatting 2 min ago she insistes they are hungry, why is my house messy...I am a single mom that waorks full time...Maybe thats why :diablo: ....tells me that they are sick if they sneeze and wipes their nose even if theres nothing there she sears they have runny noses...... ok thanks for letting me vent!!!!