Is something wrong?

Ok. So my little Sarah is definelty the more serious twin. Kaylee is very laid back & a clown. But Sarah is more of the observer & serious. She is sensitive to sound, light & her surroundings. For ex: if we are at my sil, I usually end up taking her into another room to eat. My sil has 3 kids & it's very noisy at times. Sarah will not eat with alot of commotion. Where Kaylee could care less where she is, what's going on & etc... Kaylee will laugh out loud at almost anything & anyone, she is constantly trying to talk & just having a ball! Sarah is more reserved. She will just sit there with a blank look on her face, watching everything. She will laugh & talk(cooing) sometimes, but it's nothing like her sister. Like this morning, when I got Sarah out of the crib, she was just smiling & being silly. But then we took them downstairs & put them in their bouncey seats in the kitchen. My mom was bent down talking to them & Kaylee was just kicking, cooing, laughing & Sarah was just staring out into space blank as can be. We couldn't get her to smile for anything. I'd say she smiles 50% less than Kaylee. I've wondered about this from the start. She just has such sad expressions sometimes. She always has. I wondered if it was something neurologically, but she grabs her toys, brings objects to & from her mouth, etc... before Kaylee did. So I dont really think thats it. While I was preg w/her, we thought she had stopped growing at 29 wks. But she picked back up so I was able to carry her to 35 wks. She has always been more sensitive to who has her, who feeds her & how they hold her. I've also noticed that when we are interacting w/Kaylee, Sarah just stares at you w/the blank look, but when you switch to talking to her, she brightens up. Could we not being paying enough attention to her? This is really hard for me to explain! I just think she seems sad sometimes. My instinct goes back & forth. Sometimes I think something is wrong, but then other times I think she's fine.

Does anyone else have a twin that acts like this? What do you all think?

I am probably over reacting. I do that! But these are my little angels & I just want to make sure they are ok. If I am getting worked up for nothing, please tell me! I won't be offended!

Jess & girls

 

yes my Alyssa is like this. Ashley loved or could have cared less about fireworks and Alyssa Hated them. We had to sit inside the whole night. She is more serious and jumpy. But she does laugh and smile alot.

 

Cayden is the giggle puss and Ty is the serious looking one most of the time. I too had my concerns but Ty is now starting to join in on "the party". I know its hard comparing them because we want them to do the same things at the same time. I have been trying to learn how to relax and remember they arent the same. They will do what they are going to do at their pace.
Hope it helps to know you arent alone.

 

I have two totally opposite personalities in my 2 as well. Jake is my fussy one and Emma has always been laid back. Everything you have described sounds normal to me, but as always, asking the ped can be good just to ease the worried mind of momma! Which is very important!!

 

You know, the first thing that came to mind when I read your post is, that maybe she can't hear very well. Have you had her hearing tested?? Because she seems sensitive to very loud noise, maybe that's all she can hear. Please don't be offended, it's just a thought.

 

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I'm not upset at all! Thank you for the suggestion! I hadn't even thought about her hearing! That makes total sense! It might not be the answer, but I will definetly watch her this weekend & see if she responds to noise & etc... If not, I will get her back to the Ped to have her hearing checked!

Jess

 

My guys are very different, like night and day.

Mine still can't eat with a bunch of people around. It never fails, after I have prepared lunch and they are eating so good, one of the kids (my nephews) from down the street comes over and bugs them, I have to politely make them leave each time... you would think they would get the hint... same time everyday!

 

My Lily has always been the more particular twin. Bell's laid back and takes things as they come. When Lily was little, she was VERY picky about how she would eat and go to sleep. She would not be held to go to sleep, she wanted to be left alone. Strangest baby I've ever come into contact with!

I would say, mention it to the Ped, as you do any concerns. BUT try not to worry too much just yet. Lily grew out of most of her oddities and is MUCH more easy going these days! She still likes things done her way, when she wants them...but what Princess doesn't?

 

I could have written your post word for word, except that Sean is my "sad" baby and James is my laid-back "whatever" baby.

I think it's a combo of personality and perhaps an immature nervous system. She sounds fine to me!

 

My boys are the same. James is the life of the party - squeaking, cooing, making all kinds of interesting noises. He wakes up with a smile and it rarely leaves his face. He laughs when tickled, etc. Evan, on the other hand, is the shy, quiet type. He loves to chat with me when it's just he and I (i.e. if James is still down for a nap and Evan wakes earlier) but in a crowd he gets overwhelmed. He doesn't smile as easily as James and has only laughed a couple of times. Evan has been several weeks slower than James to do almost everything - smile, coo, grab, etc. But I just figured they're different personalities. I'm sure if they were singletons born a couple of years apart I wouldn't even know the difference, in terms of achieving milestones. My brothers and I are as different as night and day (we're not twins).

But if your mother's intuition is telling you that something is off then follow your heart. I just switched doctors because my intuition was telling me that Evan's head shape was cause for concern as was James' eating and my doc didn't take me seriously (I'm not an over-worrier).

All the best,
C.

 

my girls are the same way - Ava is my very outgoing baby (as long as I am holding her and no one tries totake her from me)
and Addison is very serious - it is hard to get her to smile - and no one usually tries to take her from me because she just looks like she would cry if they did! neither of my girls do real well in crowded, noisy situations.
I agree w/ a pp - if your intuition tells you something is off - follow your heart. momma knows her baby better than anyone!

Heather