Is it Normal?

Hello Ladies, 1st I would like to send my condolence to AprilM-whom posted the news about her lost. May God give her & her husband the strength to get through & may their future bring them fullness of joy. Her post somewhat made me realize some of the serious challenges that pregnancies (especially multiple pregnancy) could possibly encounter.I was happy to hear from my specialist that my boys were fine- they are both the same weight & actually they measured a wk. and 4 days more than their gestational ages. The organs & blood as well as oxygen checked out fine. Based on something that Mrs. AprilM mentioned... I would like to know if it is normal for one baby to be more active than the other.My baby A is always awake, waving, and kicking (such an active one) but baby B is always sleep-once the sonographer had to use the dobler to get him to wake and move so that she could get a good picture. This visit he was sleeping on his stomach :lol: and we saw his genitals from a back view to identify his sex. I think she said to me that they turn. Is it normal for them to sleep on their stomach? How do they breath? ( I would imagine through the placenta ) By the way my boys are fraternal.I don't know I guess because he is always sleeping when I have an ultrasound-I guess I wonder when do this child move. Normally I am a happy go lucky kind.But every now and then there are some stories that I guess makes me a little concerned.And prior to me reading Mrs. AprilM post I ate some spicy Popeyes chicken (which I never really do-since everything checked out fine at the dr. I treated myself to the chicken.) now I feel like I have heartburn and I sometimes wonder if spice affects the babies-could they be thirsty or will the spice burn their eyes ( I know ...I'm freaking out huh!) I love U in advance for being there for me (as we all have each other best interest at heart) But keep it real and honest with me. Thanks in advance-Oh and Happy Valentines Day to all! :grouphug: (By the way I am 19 wks. I have to figure out how to fix my ticker.)

 

First, yes, just as some kids are wild, some are not, and in utero babies can begin to show their personalities. My little girl is my wild child, almost always moving, but my little man doesn't move near as much. They are also still small enough that if he's kicking towards the middle, or towards your placenta, you won't feel lit.

Breathing....they don't breath right now, YOU breath for them, thru the placenta.

Sleeping on tummy....imagine yourself in a big pool floating around, that's how they feel, they can't tell if they are on their tummy, their head, their back, etc.

Spicy food....not going to hurt them, they actually will start developing a sense of taste in utero thru the foods you eat, the more diverse the better the odds of them enjoying a wide variety of food when they come out. They'll also taste the foods you eat thru your breastmilk if you plan to nurse!

 

QUOTE(Danibell @ Feb 14 2009, 10:42 AM) [snapback]1189844[/snapback]
First, yes, just as some kids are wild, some are not, and in utero babies can begin to show their personalities. My little girl is my wild child, almost always moving, but my little man doesn't move near as much. They are also still small enough that if he's kicking towards the middle, or towards your placenta, you won't feel lit.

Breathing....they don't breath right now, YOU breath for them, thru the placenta.

Sleeping on tummy....imagine yourself in a big pool floating around, that's how they feel, they can't tell if they are on their tummy, their head, their back, etc.

Spicy food....not going to hurt them, they actually will start developing a sense of taste in utero thru the foods you eat, the more diverse the better the odds of them enjoying a wide variety of food when they come out. They'll also taste the foods you eat thru your breastmilk if you plan to nurse!

Thanks for calming my anxieties. :good:

 

:wub: No worries hun, this is my third full pregnancy I've been there done that!

 

just thought i would add a little of what DaniBell said...yes it is normal because they are two individuals with two different personalites, but with me i actually lost my "quiet" one. Taylor was way more quiet than Parker and when she began to show signs of distress(two days prior), it was really hard to tell because she was always quiet to begin with. I had a wierd feeling the day before i lost her(halloween) that something didn't seem right with her movement, than all of a sudden she moved for me and i figured it was just her being her. Well the next day, i didn't get any movement from her whatsoever and this is what tipped me off that something wasn't right at all. I was able to get her heartrate( i know it was her for a fact) on my monitor at home, got ready and left for the hospital. By the time they got me into the room and started checking...we lost her. some where in a four hour time period she was gone. Now from what i've heard...it's rare, but rare doesn't mean it can't happen. So, i guess what i am trying to say is if you ever feel in doubt...go to L&D and make them do a ultrasound. Or do a kick count if you know which twin is who....if your not getting the movement you think is acceptable....go to l&D to get checked. That's why they are there and never feel bad about making sure your babies are okay. i know this might sound scary, but i guess knowledge is power and it's better to be more cautious than not. Nobody ever told me to do kick counts or that i could lose one of the babies that late. I unfortunately had to learn this because we lost our daughter. Good luck and if you have any questions , feel free to ask.

 

QUOTE(sv2001302 @ Feb 14 2009, 06:52 PM) [snapback]1190188[/snapback]
just thought i would add a little of what DaniBell said...yes it is normal because they are two individuals with two different personalites, but with me i actually lost my "quiet" one. Taylor was way more quiet than Parker and when she began to show signs of distress(two days prior), it was really hard to tell because she was always quiet to begin with. I had a wierd feeling the day before i lost her(halloween) that something didn't seem right with her movement, than all of a sudden she moved for me and i figured it was just her being her. Well the next day, i didn't get any movement from her whatsoever and this is what tipped me off that something wasn't right at all. I was able to get her heartrate( i know it was her for a fact) on my monitor at home, got ready and left for the hospital. By the time they got me into the room and started checking...we lost her. some where in a four hour time period she was gone. Now from what i've heard...it's rare, but rare doesn't mean it can't happen. So, i guess what i am trying to say is if you ever feel in doubt...go to L&D and make them do a ultrasound. Or do a kick count if you know which twin is who....if your not getting the movement you think is acceptable....go to l&D to get checked. That's why they are there and never feel bad about making sure your babies are okay. i know this might sound scary, but i guess knowledge is power and it's better to be more cautious than not. Nobody ever told me to do kick counts or that i could lose one of the babies that late. I unfortunately had to learn this because we lost our daughter. Good luck and if you have any questions , feel free to ask.

1st Sorry for your lost 2nd Thanks for sharing...the question that I have is how far along were you and what do the doctors call that type of rare happening? Why did no one (OB ) detect what was happening?

 

sv2001302, were you getting twice weekly non-stress tests? How closely were they monitoring you?

I'm 34 weeks with a quiet one (A who is wedged down, head down) and a rowdy one (B who supposedly just has a lot more room to move) and it worries me sometimes. I am getting monitored twice a week but they haven't told me to do kick counts.

 

QUOTE(lvtwinmama @ Feb 14 2009, 08:55 PM) [snapback]1190278[/snapback]
sv2001302, were you getting twice weekly non-stress tests? How closely were they monitoring you?

I'm 34 weeks with a quiet one (A who is wedged down, head down) and a rowdy one (B who supposedly just has a lot more room to move) and it worries me sometimes. I am getting monitored twice a week but they haven't told me to do kick counts.

Could you please tell me what the doctors say about Baby A ( wedged down, head down ) is that a common position, with him being quiet and all? What do the people who are monitoring you say about that? And has he always been in that position & quite throughout the pregnancy? What is the difference between baby A & B's growth? Thanks in advance.

 

My girl is always busier than my boy. It makes me nervous but then he'll start moving again and I know all is well. Best wishes to you!

 

MY GIRL IS ALWAYS MORE ACTIVE THAN MY BOY TOO. I WILL WORRY MYSELF SOMETIMES ALL DAY AND THEN HE'LL START UP. THAT HAS WORRIED ME THOUGH WITH WHAT THE EARLIER POST SAID ABOUT LOSING THE QUIET ONE, BUT, IF I GO TO L/D EVERYTIME I WOULD LIVE THERE. WHEN IS IT SERIOUSLY APPROPRIATE TO GO AND GET CHECKED?

 

QUOTE(doublej @ Feb 14 2009, 10:28 PM) [snapback]1190368[/snapback]
MY GIRL IS ALWAYS MORE ACTIVE THAN MY BOY TOO. I WILL WORRY MYSELF SOMETIMES ALL DAY AND THEN HE'LL START UP. THAT HAS WORRIED ME THOUGH WITH WHAT THE EARLIER POST SAID ABOUT LOSING THE QUIET ONE, BUT, IF I GO TO L/D EVERYTIME I WOULD LIVE THERE. WHEN IS IT SERIOUSLY APPROPRIATE TO GO AND GET CHECKED?

I know....that was sorta like a reality check! I will be calling my specialist !st thing Mon. morning so that he can clarify my concerns-Although I feel that if the things that concerns me now was a problem, they would have advised me on that Thursday when I was there.The sonographer checked both of the babies thoroughly for about 20-25 min. each-and the doctor saw exactly what I saw also they did this thing where blue and red lights flashed on the pictures as well as with their ultrasound which shows accurate flow of blood and oxygen through the placentas to the babies. I'm pretty sure that I'm just freakin' out on the sad posts that I've been reading. But wake-up calls are not bad- they can show us the preciousness in life and cause us to be more humble and to do everything to take care of ourselves for the babies. Monday I will update evryone with what my specialist has to say about my concerns.

 

With my twins, I knew that the 'quiet' one was alive when she got her hiccups daily..she still gets them! My other one was the firecracker and she still is.

 

I lost my daughter a couple of hours before they were born at 37 weeks...the thing that they said was rare was the fact that she was a extremely late 3rd trimester loss. As far as being monitored....from the beginning i had a ultrasound everymonth, a Nst starting 28 weeks and two NST starting at 32 weeks. My daughter had two tiny decels two days before at my NST that i think the nurse practioner missed, but i saw. I didn't know what to take of it and figured if it was something to worry about than she would send me to L&D. Didn't happen and i went home figuring everything was okay. I was monitored a lot during my pregnancy and figured if the babies were to ever become stressed out than they would catch it....but they missed it anyway. Also around 30-34 weeks my babies flipped in weight where Parker became the larger one instead of Taylor(who had always been bigger than her brother) and when i questioned it they told me that it was very typical for a twin pregnancy. when i would question anything....they always told me it was very typical for a twin pregnancy. Even her quietness from the getgo. Honestly from all the research i had done after they were born....i really truly believe that she started to develop IUGR between 30-34 weeks and it happen to progress very fast. she started to show the signs of being stressed and when nobody caught the problem....her body couldn't take it anymore and she gave up. All the signs were faint so there were never any reason to "worry". Because it was always "typical". Me, i talk about it ever so freely because like i said before Knowledge is power and if my story could help change the outcome of somebody elses pregnancy...than i have done my job. IF anyone ever has anyquestions....like i said please feel free to ask.

just thought i would add i was with a peri and an ob and still they missed it. Doctor's make mistakes all the time, so that's why it's important that if something doesn't feel right....go with your instinct to double/ triple check.

 

for me my daughter was always on one side of my stomach while my son was on the other....i always knew where they were. I knew what their normal was and when i didn't feel right about movement after normal was established...i would always drink something like orange juice or apple juice to get their movement going...which always worked. As you get further in your pregnancy, if your ever in doubt and you know where the babies are...do a kick count. kick count... you can read more on it and i believe they have kick count charts for differnent gestations. Whether you head to L&D, call your doc, or call the Peri's office to get checked out....it's up to you. But when i called the ob and peri's office they told me to go straight to L&D, where my doc met up with me. This is where we found out that we lost her and we had a csection quickly after that.

 

QUOTE(sv2001302 @ Feb 15 2009, 01:43 PM) [snapback]1190826[/snapback]
for me my daughter was always on one side of my stomach while my son was on the other....i always knew where they were. I knew what their normal was and when i didn't feel right about movement after normal was established...i would always drink something like orange juice or apple juice to get their movement going...which always worked. As you get further in your pregnancy, if your ever in doubt and you know where the babies are...do a kick count. kick count... you can read more on it and i believe they have kick count charts for differnent gestations. Whether you head to L&D, call your doc, or call the Peri's office to get checked out....it's up to you. But when i called the ob and peri's office they told me to go straight to L&D, where my doc met up with me. This is where we found out that we lost her and we had a csection quickly after that.


Thank you soooooo much for clarifying more in detail. Last night I happened to do alot of research and I did research the TTTS as well as SIGR- I found out that with TTTS it happens with the fetuses when they share a placenta (if I'm not mistaken ) it's when one child is getting all of the nutrients while the other is not. ( something of that sort ) I understand that how TTTS is detected is when the weights of the babies are far apart- and that's when they have the mother to come in like every wk. to keep a close eye on the situation. On the other hand, SIGR If im not mistaken happens somewheres in the 3rd trimester- like you said when distress of some sort happens & the dr. will look at that to determine if they should go ahead and do an emergency c-section or whatever method to birth the child. When I was at the specialist she did mention that around my 21st to 22nd wk. of pregnancy that they want me to start doing a kick count. (to start monitering the movements ) Sometimes I thing that I feel movement but because this is my 1st pregnancy I'm not quite sure how it feels. But you are such a blessing to share your experience & because of your experience I will make sure that I do all that is within me to be on top of things with the doctors. Again...Ireally mean it...your story is such a blessing to many who hears it & who knows how many lives will be saved because of you and your little guardian angel. God Bless and I will keep you posted. :grouphug:

 

thank you.... i appreciate it. You are still early in the pregnancy...so you should start feeling more movement around 22 weeks. Try not to stress at this point, but i'm glad that you are taking a very proactive approach to this...may you have an uneventful pregnancy with very little to worry about. Take care

 

Similar to my experience! Baby A (Anthony) was always a jumping bean. I could feel every little kick and punch. Baby B (Angelo) on the other hand was very quiet and I sometimes worried A LOT about him (he had a heart condition, so imagine what I was thinking of). But in all the ultrasounds, it confirmed that he was doing very well. Towards my last trimester, I had many NST's (non-fetal stress tests). 50% of the time, they had to get a buzzard to wake Angelo up! But, don't worry.. I'm sure everything is A-okay :hug:

 

IUGR?? What is that again??

I have b/g twins.. My Michael is always kicking & moving around and Victoria doesn't really move. I was soo soo scared a couple of weeks ago and asked my doctor have an u/s. He just did a doppler on me to give me their heartb eats. I'm 24 weeks now and still have the same concern. I go again tomorrow and I'm gonna ask again for an u/s. I just need to see them especially her since she's so quiet. He did tell me that she was in the breech position and the placenta is in front of her so I won't feel her like I do him. (She's low near the cervix). I need the reassurance this time so I'm gonna be persistant for that u/s... Thank you for your story and I'm so so sorry about your loss...

 

IUGR- Interuterine Growth Restriction....more than likely my daughter developed it between 30-34 weeks and just slowly stopped growing. There's different reasons why it happens.