I have a friend that I know just since having our twins. We go to each others houses for playdates and the thing is she changes her kids poopy diapers on our living area rug, which is totally fine by me (everyone does) but she does not use any changing pad or anything underneath. Is it just me that gets grossed out over this and wishes I could say something? She seems to do a good job holding their feet up and not getting anything anywhere but I just wish she would use a changing pad or something. I also often feed my kids snacks in there so I hate to think of anything on the rug. Anything diplomatic I can do/say? Thanks!
Why not just hand her a changing pad when you see her getting ready to change a diaper. If you haven't already offered the pad or asked her to use one, she probably has no idea that this could offend you.
I am so guilty of this - I change my kids on other people's carpets all the time! Never use a changing mat and never once thought I would offend anyone! Might start taking a pad with me!
In the early days we'd ALWAYS use a changing pad cause our girls liked to 'pee freely' during changes :lol: But lately we've been changing poopy diapers on the changing pad and regular pee ones on the floor. I agree with PP. If you haven't already done so, I'd just hand her the changing pad when she goes to change the diaper.
Just keep a changing pad handy, and next time she goes to change hand it to her, and say "Here's a changing pad, i always keep it right here, for when you need it." She should get the clue.
I agree with the pp's- just have one handy for her. I usually use a receiving blanket when I change my girls on the floor.
I agree with PP about handing her one. She should get the hint. I agree with you though, it is a little gross. We use a changing pad most times, partly for hygiene, and partly because it seems to make both of them more likely to sit still.
I might hand it to her and say "Do you mind using this? We had a little accident while changing one of them on the rug, so I've been a lot better about using a changing pad now."
Have you changed diapers in front of her? If you used a changing pad with your kid while she was nearby, would she get the hint without you having to say anything? I know I would.
I think offering a changing pad and mentioning that you do snacks there would be fine. Really how can she be upset with you not wanting to feed your babies where there might be poop.
thanks for the reminder to be polite in other moms' homes-- have to admit I'm guilty of this, too...sometimes I just forget my manners. the subtle hint will work.
