Is it always this hard

Mine are only 8 months, but I still get that sad feeling in my chest when I look back at the pictures of how much they have changed. I am not sure if I am feeling this way because of my infertility and trying so long and hard to get pregnant and not knowing if I will experience this again or if it is all part of being a mom. I felt sad after I came home from the hospital and they weren't in my belly, I still get sad when I think of how fast the year has gone, but that feeling seems to have subsided. Sometimes I do not want to look back at the pictures because it makes me sad at how fast time has gone. Will I ever look at the pictures without feeling that sad feeling in my chest? When people say it goes by so fast they weren't kidding. I feel like watching your kids grow up is so bitter sweet and I just want every moment to last forever,(well not when they are crying and not sleeping lol) even though I look forward to the future and watching them grow. Do you always miss the baby years? You can tell me if I am being silly or crazy.

 

I miss the baby years even though my twins were very fussy. It was a rough time for me... but I look back and think what I might have done different. I would have tried to enjoy them more.. somehow. :unknw: You are not being silly. Life is full of moments that you might not have again. What you are feeling is perfectly normal! :hug:

 

I agree that your feelings are perfectly normal! I wish I could say it get's easier, but so far it hasn't for me. :cry: As much as I am enjoying watching them grow up, I miss my babies! Like Jackie said, try to make the most out of every moment, because as you know it goes by way too fast! :hug:

 

You are so not alone! I find myself having many moments just like this. Usually it happens when I have to pack up clothes and such our DD's have outgrown. Also, when I look at our flickr site and see how much the girls have changed since they were born. If I close my eyes and think hard enough I can still remember what it feels like while they were in my tummy. It's amazing how much you miss that feeling.

Whenever I start feeling overwhelmed I try to remind myself of all the new experiences and wonderful memories to come.

Hugs :hug:

 

What you are feeling is completely normal. For me, I wouldn't say it's gotten easier, I still get a little sad when I see pictures of the kids when they were babies. But I also get sad every time they move from one stage to the next, because I've loved every stage so far! There is absolutely something new to love and appreciate at every stage they go through, so while it's sad, it's also so much fun!

 

OMG do I hear you!! I actually went and got the boys out of their cribs last night at 10:30 just to rock them and kiss them! and of course I was crying....I'm so ridiculous sometimes but I can't help it...they are my first babies and I love them sooo much! Its just such a different feeling of love and it is so overwhelming sometimes!

 

You are definitely not alone in that feeling, the FY went by so fast for us. I still get a little teary eyed when I see their newborn pictures for two reasons: I marvel at how much they've done in a short time and I realize how precious time is!

 

I think the feelings are normal. I too went through IVF for all of my kids. However, I do not miss the baby stages of twins. They are so, so much fun now. Yes, they are trying and exhausting, but when they can talk and laugh and sing for me I get more out of that then wanting them to be small again. :hug:

 

Add me to the list of knowing that feeling! But I also know, since I have 2 older kids, that there is so much fun stuff to look forward to also! :wub: So while I'm going to miss the snuggles and sweetness of babies, I can't wait for the hugs and kisses, the "I love you mommy's" and everything else that's coming up!

 

I feel the same way. I have a 2 year old, as well, and seeing how much she has grown and changed makes me sad, too. I guess for me it doesn't get any easier.

 

Thanks girls, atleast I know I am not alone in feeling this. My husband thinks I'm crazy I just wish I could bottle all these moments!