Is anyone else terrifed the closer they get....

I am just wondering if anyone else is as scared as I am for when the babies come out and home? I never though whe I got pregnant it would be twins and now the closer I get to having them the more terrified I get. I wonder how I can possibly do it all on my own. Their dad decided in June to disappear which left me all alone with my son and two on the way. It is scary to think that I will be alone raising 3 kids and 2 of them newborns.... It is hard enough now a days to raise one on your own nevermind 3.
I know my mom plans on being here for the first week atleast if not longer but what about after????? I try not to worry about things but its really hard not to. Sorry for the little ramble but I can't help it.

 

I'm not exactly in the same situation because my babies have been born (6 weeks old tomorrow), but they will be coming home from the NICU *hopefully* in the next couple weeks. My hubby is military so he deploys every 2 months for 2 months at a time. We haven't really been taking care of them since they are in the NICU (I go twice a day) so I'm nervous to bring them home, but I'm even more nervous for when my hubby leaves again in November. These are our first kids (and probably last lol) so I have no clue what to expect. I don't know how the heck I am going to take care of both of them, especially when he's gone.

I'm sorry you're having to go through this completely alone, but I like to think what doesn't kill you only makes you stronger

You're definitely not the only one "worried" or "nervous."

 

:hug: Im so sorry the father of your LOs has up and left, that is awful. However :youcandoit: and you will be great.

I was nervous about twins coming and worried somewhat before and I think that´s only natural. Be reassured that as you already have one child you will have some idea of what to expect, unlike first-time parents, though having 2 babies is a lot more work. I recommend organising some help like your family or good friends. Could your mum stay for longer? Or even take your eldest LO for a few days? Even if its to bring you a meal or watch the kids whilst you have a shower, etc. I won´t lie, it´s tough at first but you will survive. :hug:

GL for the rest of your pregnancy :hug:

 

I think being worried and scared is a very normal feeling. :grouphug: Of course you have the added worry of doing it alone and for that I'm sorry. :hug: I have no advice since I haven't been through that, just wanted you to know you can do this.

 

I agree that being very worried and scared is very normal. Add that with the fact that you are left alone to raise them and I would be worried too. I am glad your Mom will be around to help after the delivery. Is there anyone else that can help you out after she leaves? Other family or friends perhaps.
:hug: I know you can do this and I will be thinking good thoughts for you!

 

I am hoping that my mom will stay longer and she might since she no longer works. I do have alot of people here who say they will be around after they are born but as I am starting to find out they are not very reliable and most have their own children who go to school like my oldest DS.
I know I can do it but it doesn't make it any less scary. Alot of my fears concern my oldest. Like how am i going to find the time to make sure that he knows he is still important to me and what not.
Thank you guys so much. Its nice to know I am not the only one. Lol!

 

Wow...yeah I'm terrified also and I have a great husband to help and family nearby. I'm assuming it's natural to be scared. I'd actually be concerned if I wasn't! Good luck to you though, it will be hard, but you will do it!

 

I am also lucky to have a great husband and my mom close by but am still nervous about how its all going to work. Thinking about the unknown always gets my mind spinning. I couldn't imagine having another child to look after or being on my own. But I guess you just do what you have to and don't really think about it too much. I hope you have some great friends close to you and whatever people offer, take the help. You'll be amazed at the strength you'll find within