Introducing myself and 1st question

Hi everyone,
I am joining this board now .My boys are already 13 months and the time really goes so quickly.Here is my first post here.I took the boys on Monday for first time to a Baby Sing/Dance course.Of course there were so many moms looking at me as if I was crazy running around both of them( they just started walking ) and not even sit for one song.
I know the idea of all that “dance” thing is not to sit , but we were supposed to take the quite part with the songs.
Then , after one hour running and trying to be quite by saying “no” I left the place .Not to mention how sweaty I was and mad.
On the way back home I was thinking “ How am I going to do this” Not only the course , but after all , am I going to be able to take care of them on such occasions or we just need to stay at home for the next few years.
My question is with what age did you start going/doing/managing such activities.And do you feel/felt afraid of not dealing with the situation?
I hope I don’t sound like a bad mommy when I say I think I may not be able to do this.
Thank you for your answers.

Tsveta

 

Welcome Tsveta!!!

You are definately not a bad mom for thinking that! :hug99: :hug99: It does get overwhelming when you can't keep them quite for a minute! For me, I just go places where it's okay for them to that and not bother anyone! Is it a toddler music class? I would assume that they expect them to do this, not sure though since I haven't taken mine to a class. So I have no advice for you. Sorry!! I hope you get answers. :hug99:

 

Tsveta, I took mine to tumble tots when they were about 18 mos. (so it was later) but they were able to sit on my lap and participate when other singletons were running around and not sitting for the songs etc. ALL KIDS go through it. Not just twins. At least you were in an enclosed area.

I would try holding them and sitting with them on your lap. Gently holding on to them so they can't escape, but with new walkers it's going to be hard!! Just do your best and don't skip it and don't stay home!!

It will be light years different in 5-6 mos.!!! Keep trying. WHO CARES what they think. If they have never managed multiples before then they have no idea!!

:sign0016: to the 1-4 forum!! :sign0016:

 

Welcome to the TS!

To answer your question at 13 months I always had sombody go with me to Mommy and Me and our music classes. If you have someone that can join you I would highly recommend it. Now at just over 2 1/2 we are slowly getting a point where I can sometimes take them by myself-- but it is still a struggle sometimes. Hang in there and don't stress on what the other moms are thinking!!

 

I didn't start taking both kids to classes by myself until they were about 18 months. Before that, I only enrolled them in Saturday classes when my husband could also go. I don't think I could have done it by myself when the kids were 13 months. I think you're so brave for even trying!

 

:sign0016: to TS! You're not a bad mommy & it's so great of you to get out there by yourself with your kids! I would love to try some type of class but my girls have such stranger anxiety that I know it wouldn't work right now, so I don't have any advice for you except like pp said see if you can get anyone to help.

 

Welcome Tsveta!

Don't feel bad! I never take my twins to organized activities by myself. (If I were a SAHM, I might have to, but I haven't been that brave to do it on weekends.) We do go out, but we go to places like the playground or a grassy park, where they can go different directions if they want to.

Maybe some 12-18 month olds can sit still for a whole class, but I think it is very rare. Those classes are unfortunately set up on the assumption that each baby has a parent to be right with them the whole time! And the other moms just do not understand what it's like to have two toddlers.

I'd say give it a try maybe one more time, but if you think they're too young, let it go for a few more months. Things change all the time! But keep trying other activities (where they aren't supposed to sit still and be quiet) -- you'll find something that will work.