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Hello, I have been reading through this website for awhile now and just wanted to finally introduce myself. My name is Alex and I am a new SAHM with 4 beautiful children. I have 2 boys, 12 and 23 months and twin girls who are 3 months. I think this is a fabulous website and dont know why I havent posted sooner. Anyways can I just say having twinfants, a toddler and a pre teen is thee hardest thing I have done. My husband broke his collar bone 3 weeks ago and I have been taking on everything by myself. My girls are not the easiest, they have acid reflux, are not good sleepers at all and it is wearing on me BIG time. There is someone crying at all times of the day and sometimes all 3 are crying at once. Lately I feel like is this ever gonna end?! Sorry just had to vent to people who actually understand. I have never been so sleep deprived in all of my life!!! Please tell me it gets better!

 

Huge :hug: 's to you! Congratulations on your babies & for surviving the first three months! Those first few months with twins are soooo hard! I'm sure having to tackle most of it by yourself while your husband is healing has made it even more difficult. Hang in there, it really does get better as they get a bit older. Do you have any family or friends who might can help you out for a bit, even if it's just so you can go for a walk, take a shower alone or maybe soak in a nice hot bath for awhile? Any time you need to vent, we are here to listen!

:welcome: to Twinstuff!

 

:hug: And ditto Tina!! It's so hard to take on everything yourself, and to have your hubby out of commission too has to be a nightmare! Invite a friend or family member over one afternoon and warn them they are on baby duty for a couple hours while you nap, or take a bath, or read a book, or better yet leave the house so you don't feel obligated to entertain or help! :hug: It really does get better! Around 4 months we started to feel "human" again, and around 6 months things started clicking into a routine! You are still in survival mode, just playing it day by day. :hug:

Congrats on your precious bundles and welcome to TS!

 

:hug: and congratulations on your twin girls!!! I'm sorry you are having a rough go at this...I'm sure its just THAT much harder because of your DH not being able to help out. I have a 21 month old and 5 month old twins so I know where you are coming from. Olivia had reflux for the first few months and then it just got better (after finally getting her to latch) but let me tell you that IT DOES get better. The first 3 months are a gong show and I would go to bed at night and wonder how we all made it through the day. Thankfully it gets easier day by day and the more they can entertain themselves, the easier it gets. There are still days that I desperately need a glass of wine at the end of the day, but I think that comes with being a parent regardless of how many you have.

Hang in there hun, you are doing a great job!!!!

 

Hi Alex and welcome to TS! I'm exhausted just thinking about how you are managing 3 month old twin girls, a toddler, a preteen, and a DH who can't really help too much right now. Oy!! I feel for you momma! I imagine you stay exhausted and have very little time for the computer, but please come here ANY time you need to vent or ask a question. I hope things get easier for you soon! :youcandoit:

 

I just wanted to say thanks to everyone for the encouragement. I know one day I will look back and laugh at all of this.....the question is will i be alive long enough to laugh!!! LOL! My girls have just been really hard the past couple of weeks constantly crying, they dont want the swing, they dont want to be held, they dont want anything!!! So frustrationg! My mom comes over after work at 6ish a few days a week and helps me with my toddler which helps tremendously. Just sometimes need a break from the girls and my mom cant really handle them. Before my husband broke his collar bone he would at least take the night shift from like 11-5 so I could get some sleep but now forget it. These girls are so not at ease most of the nights. I will post some pics once I figure out how to do that! LOL!

 

Reminds me of a Bruce Springsteen song that says "Some day we'll look back on this and it will all seem funny" But right now I know it is anything BUT funny! As for your girls constantly crying, perhaps try some Cocyntal vials for colic. I tried a SLEW of products for my fussy boys and nothing worked but these little vials. Read the review at that link called "My one go-to medicine for colic", that review is from me But all babies are different and no one drug helps all babies, so your mileage may vary. My only other suggestion is when your girls are really fussy and inconsolable try swaddling them up, placing them in a bouncy type seat in your dark bathroom with just a night light on, and then turn on the tub water full blast. I discovered that little trick worked for our boys about 90% of the time in those difficult early (colicky) months! Best of luck momma!!

 

Never thought to do that. Will definitely try that tomorrow as they like to be swaddled. Thanks

 

I feel ya! Our families sound similar! We have an 11 year old girl, a 22 month old girl and our b/g twins are 8 months today. It is non stop constant and utter chaos around here, we are counting down til they turn 1 and hoping it gets better. We have been having realllly hard times with our twins sleeping but night 3 of separate cribs, separate rooms and 1 on zantac and so far so good (knock on wood). we may get thorugh this yet. Keep on hangin in there momma you can do it!!!!!

 

oh and for swaddling the miracle blankets are awesome!!! the BEST!

 

Three kids crying at once - I've SO been there. I just force myself to laugh so that I don't cry too I hope it gets easier!

 

:welcome: to the First Year Alex. And yes, it does get better. Take one day at a time. Tend to the needier one first and go from there.