I am sorry for posting about such a personal topic. I am concerned about having s-e-x while pregnant with twins. I should discuss this with my OB, but I forgot to bring it up at my last appointment. Here goes... Because I have been so nervous about this pregnancy (and I was having issues-like spotting and, for some unexplained reason, I am worried about premature water breaking), we had been abstaining completely for months. Well, last week I got a 100% clean bill of health from my doctor and my twins looked great on the ultrasound. My doctor has put no restrictions on me. They think the spotting was not vaginal in origin. So...I gave in. Now I am so nervous I have harmed my babies! I've had a few BH but nothing major and no spotting or pain. My babies are moving around as usual. Should I be worried? I am 24 wks preggo.
I was given the okay to "do the deed" until the day i gave birth... we even did it the night i went into labor.. But i had a totally uneventful pregnancy.. If you are on bedrest.. i dont think that you should.. Call your doc.. some have different opinions..
don't feel like you are the only one....with my other two pregnacies i was having sex almost right up until the day they were born...almost! But this time around i am worried about everything and it is hard to enjoy it. Will I squash them, will my orgasm bring on PTL, will my husbabnds orgasm bring on PTL, and everthing is so swollen and under pressure down there, especially after sex, i've wondered is something coming out that is not meant to? My OB assures me orgasms are ok ..for now...but i still worry...they bring on strong bh...i think just kowing there is tywo in there and that there are more risks and a higher chance of ptl...no amount of dr advice is gpoing to completely assure me, so i have resigned to the fact that i am just not comfortable with ALOT of sex, sorry if tmi, but we may do it once a week and then not again for a fortnight...and even then it is prettty tame, and there will come a time i will not let the stuff ant where inside me!! my husnabd is ok with this and i think this is very important too...i guess the twins will place a strain on things after they are born, so not adding to the pressure in my marriage now is important to me. If you and you dh are both comfortable with no sex, and he shares the same concerns as you, then it makes it easy. If he is fgeeling the pinch, there are always other fun ways to entertain each other without sex...we haven't run out of those yet so i am keeping my fingers crossed. Just know that you aren't the only person feeling this way, and im sure there are many here who feel the smae as you and i. Do what feels right for you and your family.
I felt this way EVERY time after sex.. especaily cause my cousin lost a twin at 5 months, so i was already on pins and needles awaiting each week to go by.. But I have had an uneventful pregnancy too.. and sex has been fine..
I had no restrictions and had sex up until the night before I delivered. Toward the end I was really too big to worry about my own pleasure, though.
I wish my husband would have sex with me!!!! My doctors and midwives say its okay, I want to do it, but he is scared to death that he is going to hurt the babies. (why are men so dead set on the idea that their penises are loaded weapons??!?!?) Oh well, that's why they invented the Rabbit, right?
QUOTE(excitedbutnervous @ Nov 25 2007, 11:10 PM) [snapback]508588[/snapback] So...I gave in. I've had a few BH but nothing major and no spotting or pain. My babies are moving around as usual. I bet you know from your baby books, but i have BH every time we... even both times last night AND this morning :spiteful: My frist pregnancy i thought it was baby movement... then realized sometime it would come in a sort of pattern for 45 min... THEN i realized OHHHH BH... i know from experience, that i wont want any while i breast feed, so i'm stocking up good luck... maybe a few more uneventful... you know... and you will feel better... but i ALWAYS felt better asking my OB THOSE kind of questions over the phone... so ask..
Well, for those of you who can I am JEALOUS!! I have been on bed rest and pelvic rest since 15 weeks and the doc assured me I will be for the remainder o)this pregannacy and feel like I am going to lose my mind ( I am almost 19 weeks so far)!! But I guess that is a different post!! If your doc said things are fine I would not worry. You can always call the office and ask a nurse so you know for the future!!
I agree with lisah- I am jealous of those who can too!!! I was told no at 19 weeks- and haven't since. I didn't want it at first, now is a different story. I figured once I hit 36 weeks I would go for it- but being 5 cm dilated now- I don't think that is going to happen!!! If you can- go for it
If you are not comfortable with it, then I wouldn't. If you are having worries, you shouldn't cause yourself extra worries. We can, but we don't except maybe every two to three weeks. I am way to uncomfortable, and I am worried to death. I can't enjoy it and just worry my water will break or labor will start. Luckily my husband is totally understanding. He knows it is not about him but the babies and he agrees, the babies are the most important thing right now, not his sex drive. Good luck Dianna
im paranoid too..we just found out and everything is freaking me out. not to mention the fact that everytime me and him start to get eachother worked up inside there starts to ache..sorta like a bruise..maybe where my cervix is..? i dunno really, but it wasnt like that before i was pregnant. any ideas?
