In laws, in laws, in laws....

I don't know if it's just here in Egypt where people think that way; my in laws are obsessed of protecting themselves & consequently my kids from others. They think that people are just into envying them for what they have. I feel so frustrated, I can't dress my babies up nicely or people will look at them and envy them, I can't make a party without hiding my babies or else people will envy them, none can hold/kiss my babies. I don't wanna overprotect them, I want them to be independent & sociable, although my husband says they r too young. I believe that I should raise them the same way from day one. I don't like any one to interfere in the way I discipline my boys, I listen to advices but not to intruders.

Am I over concerned about this issue? Do you have the same problem where u r?

Ahhh, I'm relieved now after venting, I was really pissed off minutes ago.

Menna

 

I can't speak for everyone, but we definitely don't have that problem here. In fact, I have the opposite problem, My in-laws are constantly trying to show off the girls and I just want them to stay at home.

Regardless, it's so hard when someone else is tryign to tell you what to do with your babies. Remember, you are the mom, and you know best!

Dont' ya just love in-laws???

 

ok this is my opinion only but in-laws suck. I could go the rest of my life with out in-laws, but I guess if you have a dh then you are going to have in-laws. My in-laws would also like to show them off. I more or less would rather stay at home. We have enough functions to go to with our older children to just go around showing them off. I guess I am a jealous sort of person, because I don't want people messing with my babes.

Good luck
Missy

 

My inlaws live so far away that they barely get to see the girls, and I am lucky that they are good, nonintrusive people too. But I can say if they tried to push their ideas on me they'd have a fight on their hands that they would lose very quickly. I'm the mamma and what I say goes (with dh's input of course).

 

Hmm, DH is from Greece, and that sounds a lot like Greek culture. MIL hides all the baby pictures when her gardener comes over, because she's afraid of the evil eye. For example. The attitude drives me nuts.

Try to just ignore them and do things your way! Yes, your babies are young, but if the atmosphere around them is one of paranoia, suspicion, and hostility, they can't help but absorb it...

 

It's amazing to me how so many of us marry men whose parents we constantly disagree with. :unsure: I don't have the same problem but I do have problems with the in-laws. Mine think its ok to have 25 people over everytime we stop by with the babies and then everyone holds them the whole time and nobody respects my sleep schedules with them at all! I do think that if it is your gut instict as a mother to make sure your children are socialized more than fight for it. I spend a lot of time with my babies because DH is at work and then also has school in the evenings and it gets a little frustrating when the boys get really fussy when he tries to give me a break. They are comfortable around a lot of people but they are just fussy when I'm not there at all. So I am glad that they have had a lot of exposure to a lot of people, just sometimes it gets to be too much. They are your kids and the best part is, you can do whatever you want with them.

 

I think my in-laws are similar. They are from Turkey and very much believe in the evil eye. They are also full of superstitions and have ridiculous advise on infant care. I feel your pain.

 

I think it's just a part of their job description, whatever the mean they choose, they'r always annoying. I do try to ignore what I dont like, I love my husband & i don't want to hurt him so i try to be as nice as i can, and receive those advices with a smiley face and just do what i find is right. But you know, it's still make me feel bad, that all my efforts are not appreciated and that someone is trying to tell me directly or indirectly that he/she cares more about my OWN boys, while -ofcourse- THEY DON'T.
Thank you all for sharing me.
Love you & your babies
Menna :hug99: